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[–][deleted] 111 points112 points  (21 children)

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Op of that post there. Hi guys.

Hindsight is 20/20. Even as I was driving away last night I realized it's my fault. I gave her an inch and she took a mile. I should have realized it was going to happen.

We're over. I'm getting over it. After I calmed down I hit the gym.

Ultimately I'm really just angry at myself. My actions allowed this to happen. Anger blinded me yesterday and today I see.

Also, it's time to get fucking cut

[–]M_Ahmadinejad 25 points26 points  (0 children)

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As I was reading your OP, I thought to myself, "This is exactly why guys turn RP." And here you are.

[–]keepyourkeys 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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Welcome man. When I broke up with my chick I started reading here. At first I thought it was all misogyny until I actually read it, and TRP is actually quite legit in how it explains relationships.

It's completely realistic that you will get a better relationship out of this. It's what happened to me.

[–]Lildoc_911 7 points8 points  (3 children)

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I'm glad you got over it. Gives me hope to help in my breakup.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (2 children)

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I'm not over it. Not yet. Four years is a long ass time and it's only been a day.

But I'm not going to let it get me down. I don't have to worry about anybody else's shit about my own now.

[–]Lildoc_911 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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Ugh I thought my one year was rough...four? I'd be going crazy.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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It's hard to feel pain in my heart when i'm too busy working out and feeling pain in my body.

[–]elektromonk 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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glad to see you channeling that anger into your workouts.

happened to me, too bro. good luck.

[–]HandsomeXan[S] 15 points16 points  (1 child)

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Yeah, man. Time to get ripped. Hit that gym, read some of this subreddit, and be the alpha you deserve to be.

[–]dabayer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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Compare how r/offmychest approached OP and what kind of feedback he is getting in this subreddit here. And we are the bad guys?!

[–]Hardparty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Welcome to the sub son, we're glad to have you aboard. You can check out any time you want, but you won't ever leave.

[–]RealHumanHere 3 points4 points  (4 children)

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I am very glad you're here.

You can have an awesome life. Give yourself a bit of time, focus on your work, hit the gym like crazy, and do only wat you enjoy doing. Enjoy your freedom, become a much better man, and do it for you, not anyone else or even the prospect of getting a new gf.

It's not "your fault", because you are a decent human being that expected her to be one as well, it's "your fault" because according to TRP teachings you should establish your boundaries and own your woman. It couldve worked with a better woman, but it's likely that girls react this way so I recommend you learn TRP teachings. I was in a bad relationship and it has changed it completely.

MOST OF ALL, do not regret what youve done, don't regret having let her post on gw, dont regret having dated her, etc. Dont mourn and cry all day for a year, don't let depression get a hold of you, don't let her get to you. GET UP, learn your lesson, and go out and start from TOMORROW to become a better, more boss man in every way. Focus on you.

I wish you the best and you have me and the RP if you need anything.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (3 children)

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Tomorrow? I hit the gym that same day. I'm going there right now. My life is mine to live. No excuses.

[–]Cheesus00Crust 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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The moment you say "I'll start tomorrow" is the moment you've already lost. Start RIGHT NOW. Good on you man. Hopefully shit gets better for you, but it will most likely take a few months.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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I hear that. Saying tomorrow is acknowledging that you don't have the willpower to take action in the now.

Speaking of now, I am literally posting this between sets. And so what if it takes a few months. I spent nearly four years and got left with Jack, so a few months for results is already better odds.

[–]migukin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Props for manning up. Hindsight really is 20/20 and redditors are 20/10 watching from their computers.

[–]PrinceBarrington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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A note on caution bro. When you're lifting, the only thoughts you should have in your head are thoughts on form and tensing the target muscles as hard as you can. Don't lift angrily, concentrate on form and squeezing the last scraps of energy from your muscles. Lifting angrily can cause you to lose focus which can result in injury when you are lifting heavy. Good luck on your new found freedom, man. Stay strong!

[–]Blake55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Congrats on committing to move forward and improve yourself. That chapter is done, and it sounds like you've learnt from it. Be sure to check out the sidebar if you're new to TRP, and take some time to read some of the top posts.

[–]Narcofunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is how it often starts. Good luck!

[–]SigmaMu 464 points465 points  (68 children)

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Protip: If your girlfriend expresses a desire to be seen naked by other men, fucking ABANDON SHIP.

[–]More_Human 153 points154 points  (28 children)

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I've said it before, and seen it play out a hundred times: If she's thinking about doing things without you (i.e. other guys, or just dumping you) it's over already. Preempt that shit, salvage your dignity and bail.

[–]dreauxx 58 points59 points  (19 children)

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Right? I don't get how some guys can "be okay" with that shit. Like the guy OP quoted, he pretty much sold off his girlfriend without even thinking about it...I don't fucking get it! Haha.

So....where's the pictures at?

[–]itallstartedwhen 38 points39 points  (5 children)

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I dont know, one of those disgusting ex girlfriend porno sites.

[–]skinnysandvs 56 points57 points  (0 children)

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They're so disgusting, I'm gonna need the name so I know to avoid it when I see it

[–]TheDon835 40 points41 points  (0 children)

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But which one? There are so many of them?

[–]CoruscantSunset 16 points17 points  (12 children)

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Well, it depends on the dynamic of the relationship. I personally have never been in an open relationship and don't think that it would be my cup of tea, but for people who can make that work I don't see what the big deal is.

I have a friend - and now by RedPill standards she is so old that she would be mistaken for the Queen of the Damned around here and you guys would wonder how she's even able to still get out of her coffin every night - but she has been married to the same man for almost twenty years. They both see other people outside their marriage, but they know what the other person is doing. There's trust, fairness and their marriage has worked for them.

You guys are all about dating multiple women at the same time which exposes your girlfriends to the risk of STDs and jealousy of other girls, but then you want to keep that for yourselves and are upset if women want the same thing.

What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander, lads.

You just can't have a mature relationship with anyone when half your energy is spent trying to keep another person from doing things that you feel you're entitled to do yourself.

[–]Grasshopper21 15 points16 points  (5 children)

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I'm pretty sure no one here would consider a plate a gf.

[–]phx-au 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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TRP discusses strategy. That generally means looking at behaviour in the aggregate, and dealing with risks.

You aren't going to be able to tell in advance if your partner is such a special unicorn that being poly will not affect your relationship negatively. By far the easiest way to manage this risk is to find the partner who doesn't exhibit those behaviours.

It's kinda irrelevant what you are doing and whether it's fair.

[–]otiswild 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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If she says she's thinking about it, she's already done it.

[–]chillmonkey88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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A hard life lesson I learned January of this year and shortly before finding red pill... One of those things I'll never let happen to a future exclusive relationship again (if I ever get in one I love being an introvert mtgow)... at the time I wondered how and why with anger and sadness. Now Ive saw it's full meaning in motion and you mention exactly what went wrong... doing things with other guys and I was ok with it. Sucked to learn but so glad I have that valuable experience now.

Edit: parentheses

[–]captainramen 34 points35 points  (2 children)

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Hey, at least the guy did the right thing. Put all her shit in trash bags and told her to get the fuck out. So he's not completely hopeless :)

I see it like this: you should give everyone you think you trust just enough rope so they can hang themselves with it. They either pass this loyalty test or they don't.

[–]noblepaladin 26 points27 points  (0 children)

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He gave her too much. It should have been over when she wanted to post nudies online and interact with the men looking at them. At least, cam girls and porn stars get paid a lot of money, so there is some rationality to their decision. When someone does pornography for validation only, with no pay, you know you are dealing with crazy.

[–]john-b 46 points47 points  (3 children)

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I believe your statement is wrong. In a proper setup, the Man is the Captain of the ship & the woman is the first officer. You would not abandon the entire ship because your first officer went nuts. You'd arrest the first officer & boot her ass out at the nearest port. My ship bitches!!

[–]testmypatience 11 points12 points  (1 child)

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My life = my ship. Damn straight. I have heard it other ways too. Some say that the guy is the driver of the car and the woman is the front passenger and if she don't like the ride she can just get the fuck out. Not going to get out and give her the keys.

Your decision, your outcome. Simple as that. Sad but true. Life is not friendly but nobody, and I mean nobody, not even family, is completey trustworthy. Nope, nope, nope. Hell, can't even trust yourself sometimes. Trust is a thing that you would wish from a genie, not assume to be a real thing in reality. The only for sure thing in life is that people will fail you at least once in the time you know them.

[–]southernfriedcode 34 points35 points  (8 children)

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The last girl I was dating that told me she wanted nude photos of herself taken by some sleezeball 'photographer' was out on the street shortly afterwards.

[–]lalicat 12 points13 points  (2 children)

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Had a 'talent scout' approach me and a girlfriend in Hollywood once when we were doing tourist things. He offered a few thousand if he could film her getting fucked. I told him 'only if I'm the one doing the fucking, otherwise fuck off' so he looks at her and says how about it babe you want to make 2 grand? In her thick Australian accent she said 'you heard him, fuck off cunt' shit was priceless. I told her I'd film me fucking the shit out of her later. A similar thing happened to a friend at the beach in LA ... Girlfriend approached by another talent scout offered her far less money to get fucked in a van nearby. He had brought his own talent, some tatted up dude with a six pack... My friend objected and said no way. The guy was like I was talking to her, not you. She asked about the money again and if the guy would wear a rubber ... My friend starts flipping out and trying to grab her and walk away. Tatted 6 pack gets in his face, tells him it's her choice and he needed to let go of her ... She finally relents and they walk away together and the talent and scout move on saying something like 'your loss' ... He related this story to me saying he was going to beat the dudes ass and all upset at them and I'm like dude your fucking girlfriend was negotiating to get fucked in a van by a dude with knuckle tats ... You should have just laughed and walked the fuck away the moment she started considering it. Ain't no pussy worth fighting over. They didn't last much longer she ended up cheating on him with another one of our friends and everyone saw it coming a mile away. He still got drunk and tried to fight my other buddy like a year later after the bitch was long gone. She even tried to make a pass at me when she was still in the picture I told her to keep walking.

The lesson is either they are loyal or they aren't and just because they are loyal once doesn't mean they'll stay that way. You have to keep being what they desire otherwise you're just a stepping stone on the path to higher quality dick for them.

[–]sway_usa 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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Good on you. This shit won't stop until guys stop putting up with it.

[–]17 Endorsed Contributortrudatness 21 points22 points  (3 children)

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[–]ohsweetword 7 points8 points  (1 child)

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It needs to be said though. We've gone so far into a feminist society and apologizing that people might think it's ok to let their SO "express themselves".

[–]17 Endorsed Contributortrudatness 30 points31 points  (0 children)

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What did you say honey? You need to explore your fantasy? You think this will be really healthy for you...?

So when are you moving out?

[–]gologologolo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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Especially, if she decides the guy to be someone who commented on her gw post! That's the biggest surprise in this scenario.

[–]HeadingRed 251 points252 points  (46 children)

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" Friday night we were laying in my bed cuddling and saying how much we loved each other, and today she ripped me apart."

She already knew she was going to do this. The cuddling\attention was to make her feel better, not him.

Had a girl give me a "dream weekend" and then the dump on Monday. When I brought up how wrong it was to switch gears like this, she let me know she wanted to give me an awesome weekend before calling it quits.

For all of the BS culture puts up about women being kind and empathic and men being callous I have to say the older I get the more I see that most women have a problem putting themselves in the other persons shoes.

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    [–]nSaneMadness 30 points31 points  (6 children)

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    It's crazy the excuses they'll come up with to alleviate their own guilt. My ex tried telling me it was my fault she didn't follow her doctor's orders.

    [–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (3 children)

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    My ex tried to convince me I was gay so she could be ok with leaving with the other guy.

    "I've had enough gay friends, 1eyed, you're totally gay, you just don't know it yet"

    [–]McDoner 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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    Weird, my ex always accused me of being bi towards the end of our relationship... ?? About a month later she gave me the boot. Never gave it much thought though. Makes sense to convince herself I really was so that she could justify peacin' out as soon as I was boots on ground. It really is quite amazing the lengths they'll go to free their minds of any guilt. I almost want to credit them for such an imagination...

    [–]MarkFuckerberg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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    A girl asked me if I was gay when I was breaking up with her, the sheer vanity of that statement is ridiculous. "Oh you don't want to be with me any more? Must love cock."

    [–]a_chill_bro 5 points6 points  (2 children)

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    I currently live in the house alone and own it completely, ha.

    Good for you man. A few years ago I had my ex/baby momma insinuate I pay rent for her while her and my kid lived in the house I was renting after we broke up. I gave her two days to pack her shit up and leave. She tried making me feel guilty as fuck about it too.

    I don't understand guys that make those kinds of expenses for their exes. It's financial retardation.

    [–]More_Human 101 points102 points  (2 children)

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    the more I see that most women have a problem putting themselves in the other persons shoes.

    And that's why you'll see the word solipsism around here so often.

    [–]AnotherPint 56 points57 points  (8 children)

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    I certainly think women are more bloodless and calculating when it comes to relationship management. They can dump a guy like a slumping stock and leave him in shock while they don't bat an eye.

    [–]40_SixandTwo 32 points33 points  (0 children)

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    Especially in the days we live in, if she dumps a dude, all she has to do after is put up a selfie or a breakup status on Instabook or Facegram and the rivers of validation will wash away the guilt.

    [–]cat-tasrophic 23 points24 points  (2 children)

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    But why wouldn't they?

    If you were offered $5 or $10 for free, would you even consider taking the $5?

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      [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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      And then while spending the $10 they're doing their best to get offers for $15.

      [–]Psycho_Delic 22 points23 points  (2 children)

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      That's because there's usually 5 Kyle's or Aidens or (Insert bitch name here) waiting on her to be single.

      Edit: Stop downvoting me kyle.

      [–]roparker2014 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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      Yeah but guys can do this too. Dumped loads of girls when I was younger because I didn't care about them any more.

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        [–]1veggie_girl 50 points51 points  (1 child)

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        Your gone.

        This is why it doesn't pay to be the beta bucks and let the woman lead the relationship. If you take charge, set your rules, accept her as part of your life, then it becomes her leaving your awesome life - and she's seen as a fool for doing so. But if you try to stand on equal footing and build a "relationship," you're giving her the power to break a major portion of your life.

        An equal relationship is like having 2 captains on one small boat. It'll never work. On a boat that's small enough you still always need a captain, but a first mate is optional.

        [–]john-b 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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        I've seen it before, but I still love the Captain/first officer analogy.

        [–]2elysius 29 points30 points  (6 children)

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        most women have a problem putting themselves in the other persons shoes.

        I see it as sort of the opposite.

        I think women are indeed better at intuitively getting an idea of how people feel, or would feel in some situations. This is called empathy, and from what I know, women do tend to score higher than men on tests and studies designed to gauge this. So it could be said that women are more empathetic than men.

        However.

        Empathy is regarded as positive because being able to put yourself in one's shoes drives you to be nicer to that person, since you would understand how they feel and supposedly that makes you not want to hurt them.

        That's not the case with women.

        They use their superior empathy to know you and then use that knowledge only to further their interests. If they know you feel like shit when they do something, and they want you to feel like shit for some reason, they will have absolutely no ethical qualms about doing what it takes to make you feel like shit. They know exactly the buttons they can push, the words they can say, the things they can do to get at the root of your being and rip it out.

        So, they don't have any problem putting themselves in other people's shoes. It's just that such knowledge does not prevent them from harming other people. Often, it's quite the opposite.

        In your case, she knew how to make you feel great and used that knowledge to give you a "great weekend" as a farewell gift. And she did it just before breaking up because she wanted to make sure you knew exactly what you would be missing. It is a prime example of what I'm talking about.

        Now, why are women like that? I think it all comes down to sexual strategies, as usual. For a woman to be seductive-- and get a valuable mate-- she must understand what turns him on. She must know how to present herself in a way that makes the man she wants want her. She also must know how to keep him around, under the constant threat of women younger, prettier and sluttier than she is.

        That requires incredible theory of mind, or empathy, that of course can also be used against other women. The more she knows about her "rivals" and about the men she wants, the more ammo she has to accomplish her objectives.

        While men could simply bash their rivals in the head, women had to work within the constraints of the social system they found themselves in. Hence all the gossiping, backstabbing, and other indirect strategies that have come to be known as archetypically female.

        So, it's not that they are exactly evil. Sexual strategy is amoral, and in any case most of them simply can't help themselves thinking and acting like that, since it's been wired into them for millenia.

        Now, about keeping their man, some women do it with honey, most do it with vinegar. The advantage TRP gives us is that it trains us to spot the ones who tend to do it with vinegar, and helps us become the kind of men a woman figures she has to use honey to keep.

        So in the end, how you end up being treated is always up to you.

        [–]scramtek 13 points14 points  (1 child)

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        Men will kick your arse, women will rip your heart out and shit in the remaining cavity. I've recovered from an arse kicking within a week. That other shit takes months until you understand the paradigm.

        [–]Jkobzen 10 points11 points  (3 children)

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        The same thing happened to me in my pre TRP days. A girl I was seeing told me we needed to talk. She said some shit about how she didn't know how she felt. Then told me she couldn't help herself and needed to make out with me. Then she proceeded with the talk and ranted about how she was not sure about anything and then we kissed and cuddled some more.

        The next day I told her to make up her mind and we split.

        Thank god I'm never going back to the BP days

        [–]moralprolapse 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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        What's the TRP way to handle that?

        [–]Jkobzen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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        Never get to that point.

        I went from the cocky semi-alpha player type to a hardcore beta which is why she got confused(I could imagine she felt deceived). I should have combined the alpha/beta game. I didn't really hold frame. I let her control when we should see each other. Most of the time when she suggested a date I would make myself available - make me seem as if I suddenly had lower social status than her.

        [–]100 Modbsutansalt 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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        She already knew she was going to do this. The cuddling\attention was to make her feel better, not him.

        It never ceases to amaze me how duplicitous women can be when it comes to this stuff. Guys can have zero clue they're about to have a bomb dropped on them because of how unfazed their gf/wive will be acting. I had this happen to me once in the past with what qualified as emotional cheating and it wasn't until I confronted her with some questionable texts that she had any hint that she did something wrong.

        I really do not think guys are anywhere near as good at this as women, probably due to evolutionary reasons. Women who cheat could be killed whereas men just get ostracized. In the caveman days where a lot of our modern behaviors were born I could see this having a heavy influence on women's mating strategies, including the natural ability to partition off those feelings associated with cheating so nobody is the wiser.

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          What these people don't get is that unless you treat a woman like she is your woman, she won't be for very long. It's very politically incorrect to say things like this, but women truly desire that sense of belonging to their man. Ignore it at your LTR's peril. Once this guy was open to sharing her photos and allowing her to sext other men, she would have lost all respect and desire for him. It would have been automatic. You just can't do this with a woman whom you want to remain faithful to you. It's like dropping off an alcoholic at a bar with your credit card and "trusting" them to stay sober.

          [–]ont_anon 38 points39 points  (1 child)

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          ...unless you treat a woman like she is your woman, she won't be for very long.

          Since finding TRP earlier this year I will say that this is one of the biggest truisms, at least in my experience since then. If I could upvote this x10, I would.

          [–]Eloni 11 points12 points  (3 children)

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          Any stupid romance novel will let you realize that much, at least.

          [–]2elysius 12 points13 points  (2 children)

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          It's always amazing to me how women will be offended if you say things like this, but then they go and make 50 Shades of Grey one of the best selling books of all time.

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            [–]Nubenebbiosa 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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            How do you distinguish between coming off as needy and making her my woman?
            My guess is that if she truly believes live wouldn't been the same without you, even if you let her flirt with others she knows you're the number.1

            [–]Endorsed Contributor2comment 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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            You set boundaries with a firm hand. Neediness is any sort of begging or pleading with her to stay within those boundaries. Don't. Because that signals you don't have other options and that weakness dries up a woman. If she breaks the rules, the consequences have to be enforced, even if it means dumping her ass.

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            Be a leader who makes decisions that benefit you both and don't make decisions motivated by fear.

            [–]MattBoBat 101 points102 points  (52 children)

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            Give an inch, and they'll take the whole 9 yards.

            Women will be women. This dude was acting super beta in his relationship, didn't maintain a solid frame, let her fuck around, and he loses her to another male.

            I had an ex girl who I set loose rules with, let her hang with her guy friends, trusted her... etc. Out of the blue she wants to take a break, we end up breaking up, and next thing I know she is dating one of those guy friends within a month. That was a 3 year relationship we had, over, and she moved on instantly. It was a blessing in disguise though, because that is what jump started me on the path to becoming a better man. You live you learn.

            [–]southernfriedcode 26 points27 points  (9 children)

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            Her waiting three months is actually not normal. Most women will have their next relationship started or at least lined up before they end their current one. My 'one' ended our six year relationship and was fucking other dudes a week later.

            [–]2elysius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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            Indeed.

            I spent five years with a girl. She broke up and a week later a recent friend of hers who I hated (because from the start I could tell she was a bad influence) was telling a mutual friend to invite me over to a party so I could see the ex with her new guy.

            Luckily this friend was a bro and told her I couldn't make it because I already had plans with another girl (which happened to be the truth), who was super pretty and skinny (my ex was chubby, borderline fat).

            Twenty minutes later the ex is calling me, demanding to know how could I do that to her, giving me shit about how I didn't value what we had, saying that I must have been seeing this girl before we broke up, because I couldn't get her that fast*, etc, and wanting to get together and "talk." I just excused myself and never spoke to her again.

            You've got to fucking hand it to women for being this duplicitous, self-centered and deluded.

            [*] She was partially right: this girl had been all over me, but I never gave her the light of day. (Unbeknownst to me that had made me more desirable in her eyes.) But, of course, this was projection: she was the one who broke up because she already had something else lined up (her and that guy dated for a while), so of course I must have done the same to her.

            [–]aaronpaws 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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            "It was a blessing in disguise though, because that is what jump started me on the path to becoming a better man. You live you learn."

            a fucking men. This is exactly how I feel now as I look back on my past.

            [–]HandsomeXan[S] 25 points26 points  (15 children)

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            Amen, brother.

            And, so my reply isn't too short, AWALT.

            [–]Cthulu2013 12 points13 points  (6 children)

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            AWALT a-fuckin-men brother.

            Opportunists the lot of them.

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              [–]alucard4571 22 points23 points  (2 children)

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              I like the idea of co-opting this term for our own uses...

              [–]Overkillengine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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              Using their own hashtag against them amuses me greatly.

              [–]CyberFi 18 points19 points  (12 children)

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              You and I traveled the same road , although most likely not as recently as I have.

              A 3 year relationship with someone I was absolutely convinced had a deep emotional bond. A month or silence and I find her with another guy.

              From literally hundreds of phone calls day and night telling me she couldn't sleep without my voice, how she could never get tired of being with me and each time I dropped her hone was torture.. To zero.

              Boy did that hurt. How could someone so so in love just move on in no time at all?

              However, as you've mentioned. The realization that changed my life; That after three years of stalling with some girl. And yes she was "some girl". I'm not going to pretend like she was an angel and I was made for loving her etc.

              The relationship was never about affection, or sex, or love . It was a cocoon, a safety blanket. I was afraid to lose her because I realized that if I did I would have no choice but to pursue the man I dreamt of becoming, the seducer, the player, the independent or else drown in depression and self hatred.

              But at least I had her, her validation, oh my god she's my whole world and so on .. But now I'm alone.

              And that realization is something I would trade all the shitty betrayal tears I felt a thousand times over.. Now I'm a changed man. Now I'm pursuing things I would never believe I would be doing.

              There's no way in hell im going back to cuddling in bed, or telling her I'd stay on the phone while she sleeps instead of going out, or caressing her while watching TV (holy crap I was soft) and now I'm a changed man. Now I get to live for me!

              [–]southernfriedcode 9 points10 points  (6 children)

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              You, me, him, and millions of other guys around the world. The story is always same and yet we've let modern culture blind us all to the truth.

              Mine was the same bro. Telling me she loved me, looking at places together, making 'plans' for moving and the future. All of that gone overnight as if she had never said the words. Six years of dedication, support, loyalty, helping her, etc, etc, etc.... all worthless. Dust in the wind.

              But, through our experience, others might learn the truth. The words they say are just manipulation. AWALT.

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                [–]DominumVindicta 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                [–]variableLt 3 points4 points  (3 children)

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                It is very interesting how can they go from deep emotional connection to grinding halt in 60 seconds. My factory settings are that if I get along with people I try to keep them in life just because compatible people are nice to have around.

                But no, AWALT strikes again, in the morning you are doing stuff together, and in the afternoon you are hearing that you don't have chemistry between yourselves and she went from actively pursuing you to sheer nothingness.

                Women are highly immoral creatures with the attention span of a degenerate squirrel. They don't value established personal connections, past achievements, absolutely nothing. This is the reason why we see so few women actually achieve something in life, they simply don't have a tenacity to work stuff through and usually at the first sign of discomfort they are out.

                However, there is a silver lining - instead of being mad, use that to your advantage and fuck the brains out of those 8s and 9s in relationships.

                [–]CyberFi 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                Hahaha. I love our silver linings.. The pill might be hard to swallow, but once you do everything tastes so very sweet

                [–]jolly--roger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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                didn't maintain a solid frame

                again, as I stated otherwhere on TRP - when you're super beta, YOU HAVE NO FRAME AT ALL. he couldn't maintain shit.

                /edit: word

                [–]ont_anon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                Similar situation, same boat, same outlook on life - although the situation was shitty for me at the time, in the end it's the best thing that could have happened to me.

                Now that I read that... it's probably the same story for most of us here!

                [–]17 Endorsed Contributortrudatness 45 points46 points  (10 children)

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                Scorpion and the frog.

                Do not delete bot.

                [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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                Can we disable this bot feature? Sometimes short replies carry all the information needed in a thread. This is dumb.

                [–]annul 15 points16 points  (8 children)

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                i love that fable, so very much.

                "...it's what i do." and they both die.

                [–]arhombus 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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                Not quite, but close!

                "Why'd you sting me Mr. Scorpion?! For now we both shall die!"

                "I can't help it, it's in my nature."

                [–]annul 3 points4 points  (1 child)

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                fables are very rarely told with exactly the same words. the sentiment is exactly the same, though.

                [–]TehFuggernaut 182 points183 points  (26 children)

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                I love this kind of shit. All these super liberal, sexually open minded people - and it backfires the majority of the time. Then they're eager to call you conservative and narrow minded when you say any negative about it.

                It's not perverse, so to speak, but you don't build a strong, long-lasting relationship with a girl by letting her fantasize about other guys, or god forbid letting her become sexually satisfied with them. If your girl wants that, she doesn't have enough respect for you.

                EDIT: The user moammargaret in that post is a delusional, victim-seeking internet feminist crusader if I've ever seen one.

                Girlfriend of 4 years tells her boyfriend shes breaking up with him, fantasizing about fucking other guys, and lying to him. BF yells, and tells her to GTFO of his house -> he's abusive and needs therapy before he can be allowed back in to the world.

                [–]17 Endorsed Contributortrudatness 79 points80 points  (12 children)

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                That user is painting the woman as the victim with feminist speak bullshit accusations.

                Yeah she's a victim alright...

                So funny how anything can be twisted around to protect and apologize for even the most absurd morally depraved behavior in women.

                GW is an amateur porn site. Girl was playing porn star to a bunch of thirsty betas. But don't you know in every herd of sheep there's a good chance a wolf is there in sheep's clothing.

                Now let me ask everyone this... Would any of you GF up a chick you banged after meeting her on GW?

                HELL NO.

                Lessons abound in this little story.

                Never let any woman talk you out of your good sense. If you find yourself in the midst of such a fishing expedition - even after being together for years - its time to formulate an exit strategy. Deploy hard core stoic dread game and if she flinches dump her ass.

                [–]Thzae 30 points31 points  (5 children)

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                The guy getting a girlfriend from GW is definitely the second most cringe worthy part of all this.

                Fucking her, sure. A relationship...how stupid can you be?

                [–]SupALupRT 33 points34 points  (4 children)

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                she probably thinks its a relationship. hes just fucking her.

                [–]100 Modbsutansalt 4 points5 points  (2 children)

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                That's a good point. I've seen plenty of hotties get plowed by a player, all the while the women believed his bs he was only interested in her or whatever. The new version is to just be friends with benefits, all the while the women are hoping it'll turn into more or they let get attached because of brain chemistry from having sex. Normally what follows is the guys get the ass they were interested in and bail, at which point you could see the alpha widow in the women's eyes. Granted back then I didn't have a word for it.

                [–]john-b 13 points14 points  (4 children)

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                If the man she's lusting over is any caliber of alpha, he'll have her on plate status. She just may find out that she's nothing more than a fuck, then be missing Mr Beta-bux.

                [–]17 Endorsed Contributortrudatness 20 points21 points  (0 children)

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                In my travels I've encountered some women that were so toxic they weren't worth anything more than a ONS - some even less. Some of these women were hot too.

                Lets be honest, pulling a chick off of GW would in itself be a pretty hilariously awesome nice little notch on the mack belt, but you know in the post coitus discussion some kind of whacked out drama would leak out. Any girl that posts nudes of herself playing with her pussy on GW has massive attention seeking issues. In this particular case, you'd be having the smiling smug I just fucked your brains out post coitus pillow talk with her and then she'd get all vulnerable and you'd get the story about how she just left her live-in BF of 4 years to get banged out by a random redditor she met in chat (you).

                Unless you're a dumb ass, that would be your cue to all of a sudden have some place else to be.

                We used to call that the Muhammad Ali - stick and move - or just the plain old Hit it and quit it

                Crazy bitches aren't even worth plate status.

                [–]Cryocasm 6 points7 points  (1 child)

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                They only learn the hard way. Bitch is gonna have to move in with her mom after her BF told her to fuck off and the man she fucked tells her she's a booty call. Hopefully that is. The ex better not be some weak ass beta and forgive her and the new fuck should be alpha.

                [–]nvstor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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                But we all know that we don't live in a perfect world..

                [–]HandsomeXan[S] 14 points15 points  (2 children)

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                The guy who made the comment in my post has been removed by the OMC mods. Go figure. He even had the third top comment. Can't believe those mods.

                And also, all moammargaret's replies were deleted (as they opposed her view), but that asinine post you pointed out is all that remains.

                [–]1Jaereth 17 points18 points  (0 children)

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                Most of us abandoned ship and went to /r/trueoffmychest when we realized the mods were just the typical tumblr mutt faced bitches.

                [–]USmellFunny 34 points35 points  (6 children)

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                This is an actual comment with 6 upvotes:

                I get that it sucks for you, but what she did was incredibly fair, honest and brave. Tons of people either choose to stay in a relationship for the safety/comfort of it and to avoid conflict, knowing they would like to cheat. Others just cheat. She respected you enough to think you deserve to be with someone who wants you more than other people, but these things happen. Don't be a jerk to her because it is fear of anger that makes others not act the way she did. Be civil as much as you can (or distance yourself until you are able to be civil if you want to further discuss anything with her - you really don't have to talk more at all) and take your anger out once she isn't there. She seems really solid.

                [–]bluedrygrass 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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                Astonishing. Its like using CGI in real world.

                [–]myschadenfreude 7 points8 points  (2 children)

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                That comment made me nauseous. How is throwing away 4 years, quite possibly a large chunk of her adult life, to chase a tryst with someone attracted to her amateur porn "brave"? Because she just didn't cheat?

                She seems really solid.

                Absolutely not!

                [–]KrulWarrior 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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                I nearly downvoted you after reading that because my head was too fogged up from confusion to remember that you didn't write it.

                [–][deleted] 34 points35 points  (1 child)

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                "but you don't build a strong, long-lasting relationship with a girl by letting her fantasize about other guys"

                A statement grounded in pure logic and fact but you spout that on any other forum and it becomes "what do you mean LET!?!?". Fucking idiots. I love how nature always wins in the end.

                [–]VarsitySlutTeamCpt 52 points53 points  (1 child)

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                Hahaha reddit will chastise you for trying to control and manipulate your girl but in no way will be responsible when shit hits the fan.

                [–]sniperhiding 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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                That guy stole your GF in front of you eyes

                My only nit-pick about this line is that it reinforces the idea that the girl has no agency in the matter. She CHOSE to hook up (or will) with that guy. GW guy was more attractive, she accepted.

                OP from original thread is guilty of not being attractive enough, and being needy. GW guy was attractive, made a move. The GIRL also had some of the responsibility here too.

                [–]Gstreetshit 62 points63 points  (35 children)

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                I have no sympathy for this idiot.

                Lets see here. I'll have my GF post naked pictures of herself on a website and talk with the people that view them. Then all of a sudden she wants to fuck one of them?

                HOW COULD I HAVE POSSIBLY SAW THIS COMING.

                The naivety is simply amazing.

                New guys, don't let any other males have any type of sexual access to your girls. Boundaries are important and in relationships for a reason. If she even brings it up I would probably next her.

                [–]dongpal 22 points23 points  (8 children)

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                I'll have my GF post naked pictures of herself on a website and talk with the people that view them. Then all of a sudden she wants to fuck one of them?

                How is it even possible that one of the "you eyes are beauitful! :))" guys gets a chance to fuck her?

                [–]Gstreetshit 22 points23 points  (0 children)

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                Take your pick out of a million different things. He gave a branch to swing to that seemed like an upgrade. It also begs the question if a "your eyes are beautiful" type guy did get her, how bad the BF must have been.

                [–]ohsweetword 10 points11 points  (4 children)

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                Not all the guys cruising gone wild are neckbeard M'ladies.

                Some of them might be hotter and better of than you, and just know that GW another way to grab some strange with all the goods on full display.

                [–]RulerZod 3 points4 points  (3 children)

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                Why would you bother messaging girls that are most of the time likely far away?

                [–]PrinceBarrington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                The neckbeards post publicly, so as not to harass the fair maiden. The real men post privately and hit them up with game and probs pictures of their pecs and 9 inch dick.

                [–]exobio 38 points39 points  (23 children)

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                To me this post is proof of why Islam restricts women so much.

                [–]FullRegalia 26 points27 points  (0 children)

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                I've thought about this too. A hundred years ago, most cultures throughout the globe restricted the freedom of women quite extensively. I suppose thousands of years of experience taught them that a loyal woman is a dependent woman.

                [–]southernfriedcode 20 points21 points  (20 children)

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                Ehhhh, come on man. I might just be letting my atheism run my mouth here but there's a difference between a culture valuing the nuclear family and muslims marrying child brides and shit.

                [–]manwhy 37 points38 points  (19 children)

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                "Sex and Culture", by J. D. Unwin, published in 1934. The book analyzes 80 primitive cultures (anthropology) and a number of past empires (history) and finds that, without exception, the level of advancement or decline of all cultures is directly tied to the level of regulation of female sexuality. His historical examples include the Sumerians, Babylonians, Athenians, Romans, Teutons, and Anglo-Saxons (600s - 900s), and English (1500s - 1900s). In every example, these cultures began to rise when women were required to be virgins at marriage and to be monogamous for life. All of these cultures began to decline when women were given rights, were not required to be virgins at marriage, when divorce was common, and marriage was in decline.

                http://thepiratebay.se/torrent/4341114/Sex_-_Sex_and_Culture_by_J._D._Unwin

                [–]trying2testhumanity 26 points27 points  (9 children)

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                Wait, you can hook up with girls from /r/gonewild through PM'ing?

                Be back later...

                [–]HandsomeXan[S] 14 points15 points  (5 children)

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                Report back with results.

                I wonder if "gw game" will become a thing.

                [–]Ironhigh 8 points9 points  (1 child)

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                I would believe it's horribly ineffective even if you can make all of the girls you PM wet.

                The girls live all over the country, some even in other countries, you'll be PMing for hours to find a girl that lives near you.

                [–]MasonJarTeaDrinker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                Yea it seems like it would take forever to find somebody that lived near you.

                [–]omglazers 31 points32 points  (4 children)

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                I get that it sucks for you, but what she did was incredibly fair, honest and brave. Tons of people either choose to stay in a relationship for the safety/comfort of it and to avoid conflict, knowing they would like to cheat. Others just cheat. She respected you enough to think you deserve to be with someone who wants you more than other people, but these things happen. Don't be a jerk to her because it is fear of anger that makes others not act the way she did. Be civil as much as you can (or distance yourself until you are able to be civil if you want to further discuss anything with her - you really don't have to talk more at all) and take your anger out once she isn't there. She seems really solid.

                This kind of respect I don't need. I understand women practice branch swinging, but this commentators hamster is on full overdrive. In no way could ending a four year relationship to get fucked through gw be respect. Basically she did met the minimum standard, which is not lie and cheat and she's brave for that? Bravery would be making your man swallow the pill and take control of his attraction. Could you imagine swapping the genders and hearing someone call this guy brave by breaking off a four year relationship to fuck someone on gw? This is just a lame justification based entirely on her being a woman instead of a man.

                Men are expected to respect and love whatever terrible shape women keep themselves in but then she gets a pass because it's brushed off as 'wanting' someone else. Why? For his fucking casserole? She wants a buck with abs and who can give her the tingles. This guys biggest failure wasn't letting her express her sexuality... It was in failing to guide it for their mutual enjoyment and failing to keep his own house right.

                Remember this story. Commitment and past experience doesn't mean you can be lazy. Other wise the second you let yourself get soft she's gone.

                Calling this girl solid is such a joke. Briffaults law applied in action. Remember LTR TRPs, don't stop improving just to make one girl happy. Chances are she isn't the one and if your improvement upsets her, RUN FAR FAR AWAY!

                [–]altra_hex 9 points10 points  (1 child)

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                Yep, that stood out to me as well. I like how this dumbass thinks he's being a jerk by not being grateful for how she treated him.

                I don't care how redpill or understanding of hypergamy a guy is. If a 4yr LTR tells you she cheated on you for some alpha she found on GW, the sane/self-respecting reaction is to be a "jerk" to her.

                [–]omglazers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                All things considered he had the right reaction to have. No violence no arguing no bargaining. Just pack your stuff and go. I just wish I knew more about their dynamic and appearances so I could do a relationship post mortem

                [–]hohamocha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                She respected you enough to think you deserve to be with someone who wants you more than other people,

                Hahahahaa no she didn't. If she did she would have told him that she wanted to put pics on gonewild because she was looking for someone else. That's honesty.

                [–]testmypatience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                This kind of respect I don't need. I understand women are hypergamous thanks too swallowing the red pill, but this commentators hamster is on full overdrive. In no way could ending a four year relationship to get fucked through gw be respect. Basically she did met the minimum standard, which is not lie and cheat and she's brave for that? Bravery would be making your man swallow the pill and take control of his attraction. Could you imagine swapping the genders and hearing someone call this guy brave by breaking off a four year relationship to fuck someone on gw? This is just a lame justification based entirely on her being a woman instead of a man.

                You framed this well. Hilarious reversed script.

                [–]unreservedname 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                This really brings home for me how "I love you" is a completely meaningless statement most of the time. I used to think it had some significance, but looking back at every relationship I've had, the girl was always the first to say it and the first to bail.

                [–]zephyrprime 16 points17 points  (7 children)

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                I posted the following in the source thread but I'll repost it here since I'm sure you guys will appreciate it:

                "Yeah I'm sorry but there is no true love in this world. There is only conditional love. You thought that the love of your relationship could withstand flirting with other people and it would never escalate into something serious. Flirting was meaningless and your love was real, right? Sorry but it wasn't true and it never was for you or anybody. She met some guy who was better than you (in terms of sexual attractiveness). When this happens, she will stop feeling love for you. Yes, that's right. People think that love is the strongest force in the world - it's not. Something as primitive and base as lust and greediness for a better partner will undermine feelings of love. Feelings are primitive and not fully within a persons conscious control. As soon as a better deal came along, the primitive parts of the brain will start "turning off" the feelings of love for the old partner and then suddenly the conscious brain will start thinking, "huh, I just don't feel in love with X anymore."

                If it makes you feel any better, the new guy will probably pump and dump her. Any girl can get a really awesome guy by showing off her body but that awesome guy has a lot of offers from other women as well. Plus a guy like that is experienced and will probably know better than to try to start a real relationship with a girl who ho'ed herself out to get him."

                [–]MasonJarTeaDrinker 5 points6 points  (4 children)

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                I'm pretty sure that your post was deleted and that you were banned from there, I suggested he visit the Red Pill and they banned me.

                [–]frak_me_harder 3 points4 points  (1 child)

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                It's such a bitter pill to swallow but it's the truth. That exact thing happened to my 2 yr relationship several years ago. We were talking about getting married, having kids, and going grey together, but one day she gets a dumb crush and it's all gone. Hearing her say that she didn't love me anymore when when she recently most definitely had felt like total betrayal. Worse than that, anytime I've seen her afterward she acts like she barely knows me.

                That experience + TRP makes me seriously consider going MGTOW.

                [–]zephyrprime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Yeah, nobody wants to believe this shit until they experience it for themselves.

                [–]yummyluckycharms 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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                My problem with the responses were all about - what does the woman want and no one really cared about what the guy wanted.

                He also went too beta - as evidenced by the statement- I put too much trust in her. The astute observer would notice that he got extremely angry at that point, something that wouldn't have happened if he thought he was making the right decision but it later turned sour. That kind of anger comes when you know this isnt the right call, but you still go through with it to keep another person happy.

                posts on gw and expect her not to cheat? LMAO

                [–]GreatWalker 14 points15 points  (1 child)

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                "my gf is a /r/gonewild whore! why did she cheat on me?"

                does that really need an explanation? I still have sympathy with the guy though, he thought as most men do that being anything but beta is misogyny.

                [–]shitaintworthit 32 points33 points  (4 children)

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                She probably cheated on him before she broke up with him.

                [–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (3 children)

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                "You know how you always said you would break up with me before cheating on me? I've thought about cheating on you."

                That's pretty much an admission that she probably has already or is going to when the situation is right.

                [–]shitaintworthit 25 points26 points  (1 child)

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                There was one guy in particular she's been messaging a lot. I asked her if it was him. "yes". Fuck. The last time she came over to my house she said her phone crashed or something and all the messages got erased so I couldn't read them.

                There was proof of them already hooking up, fucking hell, this dude was incredibly naive.

                [–]dicarlok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Well, they were probably sexting and setting it up. "just gotta dump the bf and then I'll be over and you can fck me."

                [–]MasonJarTeaDrinker 18 points19 points  (0 children)

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                I'm pretty sure she did already, I doubt that she dumped him for a dude that she had never even met. He pounded that ass a few times already, I'm pretty sure about that. OP is an idiot.

                [–]CyberFi 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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                I do admit the majority of his overreacting was very blue pill. But I understand what he means when he mentions that the night before they were cuddling and the next she "tore his heart out/being with another guy". It personally happened to me fairly recently and man does it sting.

                It's a combination of the fact that you're so sure this person will stick around in your life, and you have a strong emotional connection . And out of the blue the very next week you find her in the hands of another man and not a word from her.

                The red pill is hard to swallow,

                I now under her actions were part of her psychology and a response to my behavior and overall attitude. And the feelings me and OP are experiencing are just byproducts of evolution and primate mentality. It's time for a change, I hope he realizes too

                [–]AngraMainyuu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                Let a woman do whatever she wants, and she'll end up doing whoever she wants. That's not a relationship, that's just being single.

                [–]classicjimmy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                Comment of the day, from ShardikOfTheBeam:

                "The fact that "having boundaries" in the first place isn't really a good idea, as it leads to something like this ultimately, but it's far from "slavery".

                She wanted to post to GW, he was okay with that, but he wanted to set boundaries to protect his relationship with her that he has put emotional and physical effort into. If you honestly think him setting boundaries, he was trying to "possess" or "own" her, you're an idiot."

                Might be the most delusional thing I've ever read. Girls, you're free to do whatever you want. If you want to be my girlfriend, however, you need to hold yourself to a higher standard. Not so much boundaries so much as "Take it or leave it". You don't possess girls, but not having any boundaries or ground rules for what your LTR (4 Years!) can and can't do is a little absurd.

                [–]dramadeur 6 points7 points  (1 child)

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                For scientific purposes, where's her "GW" link?

                [–]Bucky_Goldstein 9 points10 points  (1 child)

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                "I realized that I had placed in her an immense amount of trust and it turned around and completely backfired on me."

                Its funny how it all came crashing down for him at this moment, I feel bad for him, but he was really really stupid for not thinking that this could backfire on him.

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                  [–]hohamocha 7 points8 points  (9 children)

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                  Lol I went there and said " You need the redpill nigga"

                  Got immediately banned. You wanna antagonize me, /r/offmychest? Fine, antagonize me motherfucker

                  [–]MasonJarTeaDrinker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                  Same here bro, I got banned for linking The Red pill in one of the comments, fucken Mods are on a power trip.

                  [–]Gstreetshit 5 points6 points  (5 children)

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                  probably this, that is listed in the rules

                  This is a safe space for people of any and all backgrounds. Oppressive attitudes and language will not be tolerated. Any content that is deemed sexist, racist, transphobic, homophobic, classist, ableist, or intolerant of certain religions will be removed and the user banned. In addition, slut-shaming, victim-blaming, body-policing are not allowed.

                  Its a shit subreddit that is moderated by a SJW mental midget, guaranteed

                  [–]M3_Drifter 7 points8 points  (1 child)

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                  Only certain religions... lol

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                    [–]hohamocha 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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                    The guy seemed pretty confident for letting his girlfriend show off. What went wrong then ?

                    It looks like his girlfriend coerced him to allow her to show off her nude busty bod. In other words, he's a provider while she looks for an alpha male to fuck

                    AFBB all around mein neggers

                    [–]HandsomeXan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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                    OP was more "stupid" than "confident".

                    AWALT: All Women Are Like That. You must learn the common behaviors of women from this sub to truly understand their nature. If OP even had a clue as to how women worked, he would have seen the red flag when she wanted to post on GW.

                    [–]deville05 4 points5 points  (2 children)

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                    What do you guys think the response should be when your girl says "im thinkin of goin on a trip for a few days with my girls/my mixed group of friends. What do you think?" Now obviously these trips are frowned upon at trp, we all know what happens. But I really believe in what patrice said that "trust is a routine" and if the person in question has routinely earned the reputation to be trusted, I see no reason why that repo cant be tested. In case that person is not complete trustworthy, how should one answer? Because on one hand its not alpha to tell someone else what they can or cannot do. It has to be their choice. But at the same time I think its important to be clear about the situation and the consequences and also because I think women dont really think of the situation from every angle and as men I think its upto us to help them lay it all out

                    [–]MasonJarTeaDrinker 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                    It depends, how long have you two been together? Why do you think that she didn't invite you along? Is it an "Only girls" trip or is there other dudes going for sure?

                    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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                    wait how did this dude pull shit on GW through messaging? I would love to see the message log

                    [–]HandsomeXan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                    He probably just showed her pics of his sweaty 6 pack after working out.

                    That seems to turn any girl.

                    Just reinforces that you need to focus on yourself and look good.

                    [–]OKJaded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                    I imagine he showers her with validation. What doesn't make sense to me is how did they end up being in the same town? Was the girl posting "Naked in the bay area!" or other identifying shit?

                    It made me want to try and pull a girl from GW then I realized it would be a geographical nightmare. Maybe I'll just search by my city name.

                    [–]spottedstripes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                    Well at least he kick her to the curb immediately :P

                    [–]eccentricrealist 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                    Two things:

                    One, what the fuck did this guy expect?

                    Two: Who the fuck sleeps with someone you met on /r/gonewild ?

                    [–]korewarp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                    I appreciate online dating. But dating people from reddit, especially /r/gonewild, is insanity.

                    [–]Neverd0wn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                    If somebody could get a hold of the chat conversation between that guy and his GF, that would be some nice online-game guide.. :')

                    [–]Mattywagon 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                    Basically, you cockolded yourself. Simple as that. You set your rules and boundaries, which was a good decision, but they were loose. She could do whatever she wanted. That guy stole your GF in front of you eyes, and you was the one who let that happen.

                    Sorry mate, i have no intention to hurt you when you are down, but this is what it is.

                    I can't read this without imagining Ali G's saying it

                    [–]19 Endorsed Contributordrrrrrr 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                    Damn you have to be seriously beta for some dude off gonewild to be the "alpha fucks" to your beta bucks. And from reading his comments, he most certainly is - no self responsibility is taken in his entire offmychest. She asked him for permission hoping he would shut this whole nonsense down and she would get to feel that he was someone in charge, dominant, and had standards for himself.

                    He failed to give her that knowledge and comfort that she was indeed with man of pride and standards. And it doesn't sound like he learned a damn thing - maybe he will avoid gonewild and his future GF won't be doing that, but I'll bet this guy will let his GF go out clubbing with her girls and then in a year be posting "goddamnit guys, why do women always betray me, I gave her permission to go out to the hottest club in town dressed sexy with her slutty girlfriends, and guess what happened."

                    Step one of TRP for newbies: don't be this guy

                    [–]BlockPartyRock 6 points7 points  (1 child)

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                    You guys are stupid and have it all wrong. OPs ex gf is BRAVE for doing what she did. She should be commended for dumping her boyfriend for some random guy she met on gonewild.

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                      [–]HandsomeXan[S] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

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                      Yeah. Dumb fuck, indeed.

                      It also reminds me of how men let themselves go (get fat) after being in a relationship for so long because she loves me for me. This may very well be the reason she was seeking other attention.

                      [–]myschadenfreude 14 points15 points  (27 children)

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                      No need for the "faggots" remark; we get enough ad hominem from others, no need to do it here.

                      That being said your core message is correct. He gave her enough rope to hang himself. Four years gone by losing his frame.

                      [–]More_Human 19 points20 points  (3 children)

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                      Eh. I tend to think the current usage of "faggot" tends to lean toward "weak, repulsive male" rather than as a pejorative for homosexuals - which given the context, describes the guy perfectly.

                      [–]1veggie_girl 11 points12 points  (2 children)

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                      "weak, repulsive male"

                      Honestly when I was in K12 school the term faggot was used for exactly that. We only had one "out" legitimately gay kid around, and nobody called him that.

                      [–]The_Floating_Dick 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                      Well yeah, 'faggot' is such a great cuss that it would be sad to lose it because of its literal meaning. No other insult rolls off a tongue so pleasantly and naturally as 'faggot'.

                      Also, the syllables of 'faggot' are structured in such a way, that you can give it as much obscenity with your intonation as you please. Hovewer, even in its least insulting pronounciation variant, 'faggot' cannot be mistaken for anything other than a cussword even by people who don't know the language.

                      Finally, 'faggot' blends really great with other cusswords(i.e. 'faggot-ass punk') and harmonizes especially well with universal insulting adjective 'fucking'. All this makes 'faggot' an ultimate insult and no amount of faggoty tolerance-calling comment faggotry can stop me from using it, faggots.

                      [–]RPDBF 15 points16 points  (14 children)

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                      Fuck that we don't censor ourselves here if he wants to say faggot he can say faggot, i don't come here for politically correct bullshit.

                      [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                      Someone needs to point him to this sub. After she admitted what she was doing, he had the right reaction - packing up her shit and getting her out of his life, then lifting like hell.

                      His initial mistake was beta as fuck, obviously, but I bet he could do well here after some reading.

                      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

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                      I see two possible scenarios here: 1.The guy is an even bigger beta than op 2.The guy is alpha and plays with her for a while (and probably fucked her before she broke up with the op) then forgets about her

                      Either way she'll come back crawling begging him to take her back.

                      Edit: word

                      [–]MasonJarTeaDrinker 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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                      I got a feeling OP is going to take her back with open arms after that dude is tired of fucking her.

                      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                      Yeah.. someone tell him to come here, his rage will help him swallow the pill.

                      [–]Mr-charming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                      While his actions in allowing her to post nudes, seek validation and interact with other men lead to this, his reaction was top notch.

                      You can't get much more RP than what he did, he let his rage out and told her to fuck off. While the guy is a fucking idiot for allowing this, at least he didn't grovel like most cowards are doing these days.

                      Props to him for ending it like he did.

                      [–]Kolperz 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                      Maybe it's a troll, did the OP even verify his story with GW links or whatever? This poster pushed a lot of buttons and they seem to be wanting a rise out of people

                      [–]HandsomeXan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                      Seems like a believable story to me. Either way, this is something that can definitely happen often in real life. The lesson is still there and valid.

                      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                      I do give him props for letting it out. Yes she'll think he's crazy but he'll feel a lot better about lashing out himself.

                      [–]Psycho_Delic 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                      The funny thing is, she left him for some beta bitch. And this is probably the first girl the loser has been able to pull!

                      Seriously though, I still have memberships (unpaid of course) to like 8 different fuck only sites. With perfectly acceptable one night stand girls. There's no reason to be nerding out on GW girls. It's pathetic, and I can't believe one actually fell for it.

                      [–]TheRunningLiving 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                      Who lets their SO post on GW? He deserves her leaving for having a fucking vagina

                      [–]bigbuzd1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                      Found my ex wife's message proclaiming love for another guy and out the door I went and didn't look back.

                      [–]Hardparty 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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                      DOES ANY ONE HAVE THE GW POST ITSELF SO I CAN SEE THIS BITCH OR NOT

                      [–]mydarkmeatrises 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                      You. I like the way you think, son.

                      [–]cdp0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                      I'll go against the grain and say I think you could be in a LTR with a girl who liked being photographed and having other men fap to her. I mean that's basically what Maxim and Playboy girls are about and Hollywood starlets only on a more respectable level.

                      Obviously a much higher chance of losing her though if she's like this. Much higher! But that's probably always been the deal with hot, dumb and slutty women.

                      Ultimately it just sounds like a standard break up to me, she got bored with him, she probably would have left him anyway even if the internet wasn't around.