TL;DR Held frame on two plates where pre-TRP I would not have
On the 'Black Phillip' show Patrice O' Neal talked extensively on 'being prepared to take the 'L'' meaning that you need to be ready in case you will need to say some shit that might make her want to leave. You still gotta say it if it means holding frame and maintaining your self-respect.
There's been a ton of writing and chatter that's helped keep me focused on frame, but this resonates more profoundly with me and keeps me steady. I had 25 years of beta-thought running in my head before I started changing how I dealt with women. I was bout 60% RP before I took the pill about six months ago. Now I'm about 80%. But this past weekend gave me two of the biggest tests to that frame I'd ever had to date. A year ago I would have failed.
Amanda was my most recent plate and has a boyfriend, but fucks me regularly. Last year I dated her for six months in an attempt to woo her away. She fucked me like a ho at first, but started refusing to have sex more often and sending me fewer dirty pics as I continued my courtship.
I found TRP after I broke up with her and immediately went no contact. After three months she started pursing me pretty hard. She wanted a friendship. I said there would be nothing of the sort unless I was fucking her. We're fucking regularly now, but this time it's much more aggressive and she masturbates thinking about it for days afterward until we fuck again. There are no more holdouts.
Recently she got angry with me for making fun of her boyfriend and this other guy she beta-fied that she met on Facebook and hung up on me. I ignored her texts/calls for three days. After one of her 'why won't you talk to me?' texts I sent back 'because you didn't apologize.' She calls me immediately and starts yelling about how I disrespected her. After 30 seconds I shut it down and chin-checked her with 10 seconds of reason. She apologized for hanging up on me. Later that night she texted me saying she'd like to watch me fuck another girl. She's bisexual, but understands 'if I'd prefer that she didn't get to touch the girl, too.' Fucking TRP. Cotdamn.
Labor Day I hung out with a family friend and my sister brought a female friend of hers, Jenna, to the get together. We hang out, find professional commonality and make plans for Tuesday to discuss it. I legitimately just wanted to discuss our mutual professions, but shortly after the conversation started I knew she was into me. My sister likes warning her girlfriends about me, saying I'm a player and date younger women. All she does is set the table for me and she doesn't even know it.
Unfortunately, I'd already made plans to hang with Amanda for later that evening so our afternoon date would have to be cut short. She asks why? Last year I would have lied. LOL
Me: I'm going to hang with a friend at her place.
Her: Sounds like a booty call.
Her: looks at me Uh...not sure what to say to that.
Me: It's my booty call so you don't have to say anything.
Her: But...I'm not gonna be with you if you have some other girl...
Me: Who said you had to?
We talked for 20 more minutes where I told her some RP shit without calling it RP. I said that men were the gatekeepers for relationships, women for sex. I said that I didn't want a relationship, but liked spending sexual time with women. She said she wanted a relationship before she could start having sex with someone. Then she started telling me how she has tons of guy friends and knows that they want to fuck her. I tell her I won't be friends with a girl unless there's an element of sex involved. She balks, says that's unfair. Thirty minutes later I was making out with and finger-popping her in her car, parked behind a strip mall while she told me over and over how much she wants to fuck me this weekend. AWALT gentlemen. A. Fucking. WALT.
I got to Amanda's much later than I expected. After a few minutes of groggily making out she noticed that I smell different (probably the chick's perfume and pussy sauce dug into my fingernails), but started kissing me again before I could explain. I wanted to tell her about Jenna just to see how it would affect shit and how I'd have to maintain frame, but figured I'd just save it for another day.
I've still got a long way to go. Weight to lose. Money to make. Concepts to memorize and plates to obtain. But at the very least, holding frame reaped for me rewards I wouldn't have believed this same time a year ago. Hold your fucking frame gentlemen. Every fucking time.