I’m back with another LTR post as that is my background and where I can best provide advice.
Being 27 and having been with the same women for the past 11 years I am in a somewhat special category.
I understand why people would make the assumption that this means my wife and I have cheated, can’t stand each other, may not have sex as frequently, and that I have missed out on life. BUT the simple fact of the matter is these assumptions are incredibly wrong, and more importantly the fact that we assume the worst or simply expect life to suck in a scenario like mine goes to show that there are many men on here who do not have the Alpha characteristics that they brag about.
You see, it isn’t meeting others expectations or fitting the mold of another person that makes you an Alpha. Being an Alpha means you walk your own path. You are a leader and your band of friends/family/lovers/coworkers/etc follow.
Yeah, I’ve been with the same woman for over a decade and have 2 kids, but I will be damned if we were to walk into a room and I would not force you to respect my presence. I am what I call a Family Alpha, that means I’ve got different priorities than the single Alpha guy, but we would have that immediate understanding that neither of us will accept any disrespect and that we are both always on top of our game.
Reaching the level where you aren’t following a code as much as being yourself is the level every man needs to reach. You do this by instilling discipline through lifting, reading, having sex, saying fuck the TV and going outside with your kids, setting the bar from which excellence is measured in every facet of your life.
For the guys on here who are married and are thinking, “I need to get divorced because Reddit says that’s what I should do.” Or “I have to spin plates, because that’s Alpha” ...gentlemen you’re missing the point.
There are a select few member of this sub who are providing solid advice and this advice can be applied to both the single and married men because what they are promoting is a healthy lifestyle for a Man.
Unfortunately, the majority of users are simply repeating the same things over and over again.
• I found this on Two X look how smart I am
• I did this, give me internet points
• I don’t want to do the work make this easy
• Tell me what to do
• Tell me what to say
• Tell me what to think
• Tell me I’m worth it
Do you know why you’re constantly seeking Alpha approval form this sub? Because you aren’t an Alpha.
If you were making Alpha decisions and taking Alpha actions you’d know it.
When I do or say something I don’t think I should run to reddit to share. I mean, look at my profile, I barely post. I only do so when I think I can add something to the conversation.
Your desire for approval shows you don’t have the confidence that comes with being a man who owns his life.
We, as men, do not need the approval of our peers, nor do we need the internet men to live our lives. We need to do what comes natural, we need to lift heavy things, lead, live, confront, love, have passion, always improve, and do what makes us happy, not what is expected of us.
If you want to be the Family Alpha, then you need to stop trying to justify why you current beta position is ok and you need to do this yourself. Sure, research how on Reddit, but then get the fuck off the computer and actually do something.
You. Are. A. Man.
You do not need permission to take charge of your life and start living, that is your right. Now, please go out there and have an original thought and make a decision based on how you want to be perceived and make a decision that will get you closer to your goal.
TRP simply cannot do it for you, you have to do it for yourself, it’s the only way to become a true Alpha.