Many penis-owning idiots surface around here with an insanely stupid thought: they think they might have finally found a girl worth spending their lives with. They then ask a very dumb question: “What traits should I look for in a girl to make sure she’s girlfriend/wife material?” Worse than this idiocy, people actually respond seriously! They lay out a bunch of dumb answers: upbringing, religion, hair/clothes/tattoos/whatever, sexual history, relationship history, the friends she keeps – the list is endless.
It’s not that these aren’t useful things to know about any woman you’re fucking. They are. But there is no list of traits you can investigate and discover that’s going to qualify a woman as more than a fuck-toy. Because making her more than a fuck-toy isn’t your job. It’s hers.
Women know the difference between ugly and pretty. Women know the difference between bitchy and pleasant. Women know the difference between slutty party girls and sexually conservative non-sluts. And women aren’t stupid. When a woman is a bad relationship prospect, she knows it, and she hides it.
Many ugly women go crazy with clothes, hair, and makeup, and always seem to meet you in dim bars. They’ll get dishonestly creative with (or even outright modify) their online profile pictures. If they can get you to give them a chance, maybe you’ll get used to the ugly, right?
Many bitchy, crazy women seem normal, even nice, when you first start getting to know them. Then three months into the relationship you unwisely agreed to, you’re dealing with a psychopath.
And any slut alive who wants to score commitment from you rather than just a fuck is going to swear up and down that she’s only had sex with 2-5 guys before. That’s not really a lie, of course. Probably just a typo. Because if you take the dash out, the number is more accurate.
Women looking for a relationship, that are bad relationship prospects, hide it. They know they suck, and they’ll do everything in their power to keep you from knowing it. They’ll lie, they’ll be vague, they’ll be aloof and mysterious, they’ll be private, they’ll have areas of their lives that they say are none of your business, you won’t meet their friends or family easily. When a woman is vague with you, that is, hands down, an admission that she is a bad relationship prospect. If you’ve known a woman for a few months, and you still don’t know whether or not she’s a good relationship prospect, it’s because she isn’t, and she’s been deliberately vague with you.
Women who are good relationship prospects know it. They let it slip in their conversations and actions. When they’re trying to get you to commit to a relationship with them, they demonstrate that they’re good relationship material. They talk about it, and they act like it. Their friends and family will talk about it and act like it. A good relationship prospect has nothing to hide. She’s easy to know, forward, pleasant, and an open book. No games, no vagueness, no drama. She doesn’t need to hide her bad traits and be vague about them, because she’s not ugly, bitchy, or a slut. She can be open about being a good girl, because that’s desirable, and she knows it.
This isn’t to say that a shitty woman can’t lie and put on an act. You still have to do your homework. But if you’re ever in a position where you’re wondering whether a woman is girlfriend/wife material, you’ve already answered your own question. She’s not worth a shit. Because if she were, you’d already know. She’d have made sure of it.