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[–]titi1496 249 points250 points  (15 children)

Not that I don't get your sentiment, but I don't believe you read the comments because most of the top comments are encouraging her to lose the weight; Not for the sake of keeping her man, but for her own self-improvement and health benefit.

If nothing else, I thought TRP men could identify with self-improvement, seeing as that is a major tenet of TRP philosophy.

Just another man's input.

[–]IPAsmakemydickhard 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was thinking the same thing here. Yes, the OP in that thread was acting ridiculous and totally shifting the problem from her lack of discipline and drive to lose weight, to her SO being shallow and a "douche." But the commentors are being frank and giving pretty good advice in a non-bitchy way.

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    [–]smoothjazzanarchist 21 points22 points  (1 child)

    Our OP is the same as the rest of Reddit. Sees a fresh thread, overvalues the new comments, prejudges the situation based on his initial repulsion. Happens with every thread. Just wait an hour or two before forming an opinion and see what the majority really thinks.

    [–]cookiecutterbullshit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    That's a good point. Let the thread ripen

    [–]truchisoft 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    It gets bored seeing all these masturbatory posts, he didn't even read the comments and then comes to this subgroup to pollute it.

    [–]Newdist2 3 points4 points  (4 children)

    Has 2XC gotten more reality-based (aka "redpilled") over the last year?

    [–]titi1496 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Haha i honestly couldn't tell you because i never take the time to read it and I'm not sure why others would either...

    [–]Ratcheta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    There might have been a small rise in people who talk straight as opposed to those who prefer to blow sunshine into posteriors. Unknown of its a trend or pattern but there are usually some who have half a mind.

    [–]fzed1199 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Its because its a default sub now. More men are exposed to the bs and have no fear getting a word in.

    [–]caughtyouredhanded 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    He doesn't seem to have read the post, either.

    about to hit the wall has snagged a decent boyfriend and starts pressuring him to give her a wedding ring

    Dating since 19, tho, it says, and she was supporting him in 2011. But sure, let's pretend she was marriage shopping and latched on real quick.

    [–]supitsLoki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    By the time I read it, the top 4 were all related stories with little to no bullshit. So yeah I'm with you.

    [–]cookiecutterbullshit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Also, women losing weight isn't that uncommon...

    So what does she do? Why, go to TwoX and cry about it of course, which is what women are good at. This is just another example of how it is a futile task to expect women to change on their own. They would rather force society to accept their flaws than... oh, I dunno... get their butt to a gym and start running.

    This is some serious generalizing. We shouldn't judge women based on the user submitted content of /r/TwoXChromosomes. They're posting in a specific forum dedicated towards women, about women's issues... on a site that has 70% male users.

    [–]16 Endorsed ContributorGayLubeOil 175 points176 points  (4 children)

    If a woman isn't responsible enough to feed herself properly, then she's not going to be responsible enough to feed her children properly. This woman will undoubtedly endanger the health of any child she mothers and for this reason alone, men should stay as far away as possible.

    [–]Rush-into-the-fray 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    Exactly right. I've watched it happen first hand.

    [–]BlackHeart89 5 points6 points  (1 child)

    Pretty much this. Whenever I see an obese woman who has young children, you can bet the children are pretty overweight as well. Like 6 years old, 4'0, and weighing 150.

    [–]soulmatter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Saw it all the time working at a grocery store. And yes they all buy shitty carb saturated food. I felt anger every time I saw a fat family come through buy 4 packs of soda with food stamps.

    [–]FaithfulJinn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Holy shit.

    That is profound.

    [–]champbacon 37 points38 points  (2 children)

    This girl sounds absolutely foul. Not one mention about what HE could possibly want, or any selfless emotion to what he is going through. It's all about me me me, i deserve to get married, i feel disgusting cause he called me whale, i want this, i want that. What a fucking cow.

    [–]scarletspider3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    thats because they see us as tools that are ment to serve and provide for them, not as ppl with our own wants and needs.

    [–]muyuu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    To be honest, that's 100% the standard. The opposite is rare.

    [–][deleted] 280 points281 points  (102 children)

    She doesn't even need to start working out. Just eat clean and stop eating at Wendy's every day.

    I feel no pity for fat women. Not one gram of pity. All they have to do is not eat like pigs. They don't need to go to the gym. Just snack on apples instead of ice cream. All they have to do to be an above average woman is to be better then 50% of the other (obese) women.

    Meanwhile as a man to be better then the average man I somehow have to be better then 80% of men. I have to eat clean, lift, and avoid alcohol. All this orca whale has to do is stop eating so much garbage that she thinks is food. It's fucking pathetic.

    [–]u-r-silly 29 points30 points  (23 children)

    Once there was this girl with extra pounds that clearly altered her silhouette, a shame since her face was soooo pretty. When I told her she could be perfect by just running a bit to tone her body, she replied she can't because of her boobs.

    Later that day, at dinner, I saw her stuff her face like I never saw anyone else...

    [–]1niczar 9 points10 points  (20 children)

    Insulin resistance causes people to feel more hungry and less energetic. Luckily, there's an easy cure. Bacon, eggs, butter, avocado, almonds and cocoa butter.

    [–]BlackHeart89 2 points3 points  (18 children)

    Oh shit. Is this for real? If so, you may have given me a bunch of help. I'll look into it.

    [–]1niczar 5 points6 points  (15 children)

    /r/keto.

    Read "The Calorie Myth", "Why we get Fat".

    Watch why sugar is poison

    I eat mostly fat, of the supposedly worst kind (bacon, eggs, butter, cocoa, coconut, along with olive and canola oil), and I'm losing weight fast while my blood tests are top notch. So fast in fact that people who haven't seen me in a couple months all take notice, even though I certainly wasn't obese to begin with.

    [–]BlackHeart89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Oh yeah. Definitely. I found out early this year or late last year, AFTER i lost all the weight and a few months into trying to build more muscle, that fats are actually good for you. (Except trans fats). I wonder how much gains I missed out on.

    [–]1aguy01 5 points6 points  (5 children)

    Canola oil is fucking terrible for you. Cut it out completely. Also, this isn't a long term diet. Thyroid hormones drop, which leads to testosterone dropping on low carb diets. You're better off doing a cyclical ketogenic diet where you refeed on carbs occasionally.

    [–]2 Mredpillschool 5 points6 points  (4 children)

    High carb diets lead to low T. I've seen nothing regarding this in keto, which is by far the manliest diet avaialble.

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      [–]1niczar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Do you have a source yourself for your claim? I've never heard any such claim before.

      [–]wanderingfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      If you don't carefully monitor staying in ketosis or your blood sugars, then even if you eat a "keto" diet you can still be in low T. A goal of 80% of calories from fats, below 120 mg/dL max post-meal blood sugar spike, and 20 grams of net carbs per day for example (over on the hardcore side of the keto spectrum), works out to roughly 60% of the mass of your food on your plate needs to be fat, and 40% mass is protein, with a significant fraction of those net carbs easily coming from just a few whey protein drinks per day. After that much fat, 4 oz of meat (a couple of large pinches, not even a handful really) will make you feel very full. If you stay towards that end of the spectrum though, and especially if you lift at the same time, keto doesn't cause low T. You cycle keto when you are planning on staying keto over the long-term (5+ years) if you are concerned about any long-term chronic effects, which right now no one really knows because there is no data out on such effects on adults for such long periods.

      Not many keto dieters watch their intake that closely that they can hit a 20 gram net carb daily max budget; I see a lot loosely approximating because they got the wrong impression it is just eat lots of bacon+eggs+steak, and their net carb intake is easily over 100 grams per day. Not many watch their eggs (0.6 gram net carb per large egg, 0.2 gram only if you only eat the egg whites), or bacon (many are cured and packaged with sugar), a staple of many keto diet plans. Even a lot of popular cheeses (another staple) like mozzarella have a net carb count that can swamp your daily budget if you are on a hardcore keto regimen and have a flaxseed meal/psyllium husk powder-based pizza.

      The cultural conditioning against dietary fats is enormously strong, just like the conditioning about men we see discussed in this subreddit every day. It takes a very strong frame to keep on a strict keto diet because of this cultural pressure; you will feel the pressure to crack that frame the first time someone not in your frame notices you down literally tablespoons of butter at the table. Imagine the reactions someone gets eating half a stick of butter with a 4 oz. steak, and that is literally your entire meal. When starting out on that kind of path, it is usually easier to pre-game any meals out with friends/family, down your fats ahead of time, and eat just a very small salad (iceberg lettuce drowned in tablespoons of vinaigrette works well for this, ironically) or a tiny appetizer. Or lean towards restaurants that serve seafood you can literally drown in butter. Until they learn how to hold frame with this, it is very easy to see male keto dieters blow their net carb counts even while downing piles of steak (slightly more mainstream acceptable); it isn't the protein that is really helping your weight loss gains, it is the fats:proteins:net-carbs macro ratio with appropriate balance of trace minerals and vitamins.

      The reason you see keto gaining popularity is even poorly-followed keto still works better than no keto at all. Our civilization's near-fatal dependence upon net carbs is likely to earn our present age the same "what were they thinking" clucking that we give the ancient Romans for using lead so much they poisoned themselves with it.

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        [–]1niczar 2 points3 points  (6 children)

        Its the type of fat that matters. Try to get unsaturated fats. Coconut, butter and canola is so bad for you in the long term. Stuff like olive oil is alot better for you.

        I've got news for you: it looks like saturated fats in the diet are not actually bad. Turns out, omega-6 PUFAs appear to be REALLY bad by promoting inflamation.

        Also, (too much) sugar is bad for you. Complex carbohydrates (think bread, pasta, potatoes) are just fine and should be atleast 35% of your energy intake.

        Yeah but no. That's the commonly accepted wisdom ... and it's fucking wrong. I've been getting less than 10% of my calories from carbs for nearly 5 months, and I'm consistently losing weight, and my blood tests have never been so good. All nominal, in the low range, while I used to have high triglycerides.

        Go peruse /r/keto.

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          [–]bowdownfishes 2 points3 points  (2 children)

          Eating low carb when you have little bodyfat is also not good for the body.Your body will try to get energy from your fat reserves and muscles. (your body needs glucose for the brain). And since eventually you wont have any fat left. You can probably figure out what will happen to your body.

          Your post isn't entirely coherent, but a couple of points I'm not sure you understand:

          1. Low carb is not the same thing as low calorie. if someone is eating low carb but with sufficient caloric intake (via increased fat intake) to meet their metabolic needs they won't get down to the situation where "you don't have any fat left," especially since one would presumably adjust their caloric intake upwards when trying to maintain weight (rather than lose).

          2. Your body doesn't actually need glucose for your brain- the point of a ketogenic diet is that you switch your brain from running on glucose to running on ketones.

          3. Your body does need a baseline level of glucose for the cell populations that use glucose as their sole energy sources (ie: red blood cells). This glucose can be maintained either via the breakdown of protein (some amino acids are glucogenic and break down to form glucose, this combined with low levels of dietary carbohydrates would probably be ones glucose source while on a ketogenic diet) or via the breakdown of protein stores in the liver and muscle if dietary protein/carbohydrates are insufficient.

          4. The breakdown of muscle and organs requires VERY LOW levels of glucose that would be difficult to attain on a ketogenic diet (as it would require eating no carbs and also very very low levels of protein) and so this pathway is really most often seen during actual starvation (where it is relevant because it explains why people who are starving will burn not only fat but also muscle and organ mass)

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          See ketoacidodis for more information as well, for people just starting out. That's what you need to avoid.

          [–]1niczar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-DlwPlU5Qs#

          Cutting down your carb intake is a great way to lose weight yes. Eating alot of 'bad' fat is a great way to get heart and cardiovascular diseases.

          Saturated fat is not "bad."

          Eating low carb when you have little bodyfat is also not good for the body.Your body will try to get energy from your fat reserves and muscles.

          Well if you starve yourself you're going to be starving. So, hm, yeah.

          [–]16 Endorsed Contributornicethingyoucanthave 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Is this for real?

          Yes. There's a lot of science behind it. Here's an interview with a Dr. and professor at Duke that serves as a good intro.

          Here's the same guy detailing how to set up your diet

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Damn straight! I easily eat five times the recommended cholesterol level for the day but I never eat refined sugars (especially that poison corn syrup that's in everything), do my lifting and cardio and my blood pressure and cholesterol levels are far below average. Keto is where it's at!

          [–]ashion101[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          That's when you say that's what properly fitted sports bras are for and to try again with the lame excuses. I'm sure if she just started with some basic portion control and began gradually weeding out the crappy foods in her diet she'd soon have a nice body to go with that pretty face.

          [–]admirals_go_nuts 41 points42 points  (15 children)

          Exactly, girls don't need to cut and worry about losing lean mass, they just need to stop eating to become decent looking. I count macros, hit the gym, do fasting and I'm still not very far from average.

          [–]ColdEiric 4 points5 points  (14 children)

          Count macros? What is that, exactly?

          [–]admirals_go_nuts 30 points31 points  (1 child)

          I have my food weighed so I know the exact amount of macronutrients (protein, carb, fat) I'm ingesting.

          [–]ColdEiric 10 points11 points  (0 children)

          Thank your for your answer, admiral_go_nuts.

          [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          Fat, carbs, and, of course, protein.

          [–]fathak 1 point2 points  (2 children)

          [–]1aguy01 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          And estrogen = estrogen. I agree that some people may need junk food in order to hit the calories required for bulking, but don't pretend like it's the same as eating clean.

          [–]Newbosterone 3 points4 points  (4 children)

          Google "if it fits your macros". It's a diet plan based on the theory that it doesn't matter what you eat, if you don't eat too much, and get the right number of grams of carbs, fats, and protein.

          [–]Aug_12 10 points11 points  (2 children)

          Just because someone counts macros doesn't mean they subscribe to that theory. In fact I'm pretty sure if you want optimal health there's a mountain of evidence to prove that's wrong. I count my macros because I need a certain amount of protein each day but still mainly focus on eating enough clean foods like chicken, oatmeal, nuts, etc.

          [–]RPModulator 5 points6 points  (1 child)

          if you want optimal health there's a mountain of evidence to prove that's wrong.

          Agreed. IIFYM is a basic statement of theromdynamics:

          change in stored energy (body mass) = energy in (food) + energy out (metabolic, muscloskeletal)

          That is, IIFYM only counts if all you want to do it lose weight (or gain weight). If you care about anything else (curing/preventing disease, body composition), then total macros are not all that counts.

          [–]1aguy01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I guess, yea, in terms of 'weight' loss it doesn't matter, but in terms of fat loss it definitely does. Eating foods with artificial estrogens (all junk foods, most non-organic foods) will reduce the speed that you lose fat and increase the speed you lose muscle.

          [–]arhombus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Science, bro. Not broscience.

          [–]Turkerthelurker 65 points66 points  (43 children)

          Hey now, Wendy's chili is one of the best fast food options out there.

          Other than that, I completely agree. What is baffling is that even when I talk to out of shape or skinny guys, they usually acknowledge that it is their fault they have the body they do.

          "I just like food too much", or "I just don't like going to the gym."

          They're excuses, yeah, but they all have an element of self accountability - which is completely lacking with these she-beasts.

          [–]the_real_chronos 30 points31 points  (26 children)

          Wendy's is actually a pretty great choice considering most fast food choices are atrocious. I usually order two Grilled Chicken Go-Wraps without any sauce; this is a pretty good meal, has 40+ grams of protein, less than 500 cals, and doesn't break the bank if you bring your own water bottle.

          [–]R4F1 10 points11 points  (1 child)

          Most fast food places will usually give a glass of free water, if you simply ask for it. I never buy drinks!

          [–]TheGoldenCaulk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          I haven't had pop in months now. Never looking back, water is so underrated anyway

          [–]BlackHeart89 6 points7 points  (4 children)

          Guess I'll be eating that for lunch today. Thanks bro.

          [–]the_real_chronos 3 points4 points  (3 children)

          Have a nice lunch, mate. Keep it clean and keep hitting the bench.

          [–]BlackHeart89 2 points3 points  (2 children)

          Just bought them. Cheap AF and tastes great!

          [–]the_real_chronos 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          If you don't mind adding about 30 cals extra per wrap try them with ranch sauce. Tasty AF but not -that- healthy.

          [–]BlackHeart89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Lol I already did. B) Need the fats.

          [–]through_a_ways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Wendy's is actually a pretty great choice considering most fast food choices are atrocious.

          Wendy's burgers blow Mcdonald's and Burger King out of the water. Maybe even Five Guys as well, but it's been ages since I've eaten any of these.

          [–]FagMuffin 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          That chicken has to be super low quality though (mechanically separated) and injected with all sorts of antibiotics and flavor enhancers. No thanks. There is no shortcut here.

          [–]the_real_chronos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          This might be true. But consider the situation that you don't have many choices when you're out one day for lunch, and between McD's, BK, and all the other garbage you can at least order something that has decent macros and isn't as bad as everything else.

          Of course the chicken isn't great quality but it is surprisingly okay for what it is.

          I should be cooking my own lunch anyways. Got to stop being lazy.

          [–]getomc 1 point2 points  (15 children)

          Eh, I'll have a triple and go lift. Fat is fine if you work it off.

          [–]1aguy01 -1 points0 points  (13 children)

          It's not the fat, its the estrogenic substances and PUFAs.

          [–]getomc 0 points1 point  (5 children)

          Oh and tell me about the PUFAs I'm getting from a triple beef patty and skipping the deep fried in vegetable oil potatoes.

          [–]1aguy01 -2 points-1 points  (4 children)

          Grain fed animals produce lots of PUFAs. Sure, it's not as much as vegetable oil. The bigger issue is the xenoestrogens they give the animals specifically to fatten them up, which become active in your body after you eat them.

          [–]getomc 0 points1 point  (3 children)

          Not all estrogen is the same. The stuff that makes women women is not the same as the weight gaining hormones given to cows. If anything, the stuff they give cows is steroidal, muscle (meat) production boosting hormones.

          Again, citations please.

          [–]1aguy01 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          [–]getomc -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

          You don't cite wikipedia, jackass. I can google as well as the next guy. Go fuck yourself.

          [–]1redpillbanana 8 points9 points  (8 children)

          Wendy's chili is not the freshest stuff, but as you mentioned, pretty decent for someone who needs protein:

          http://www.businessinsider.com/what-fast-food-workers-refuse-to-eat-2013-10?op=1

          Wendy's chili

          "The meat comes from hamburger patties that sat on the grill too long to serve to customers. They take them and put them in a bin and then throw them in the fridge," writes Cozmo23. "When the chili is made they take it out, boil it, chop it up, and dump them in the chili. It's all safe, but a lot of people seemed upset when I told them about it."

          [–]Spider-J 4 points5 points  (6 children)

          This is not how it's done at our local Wendy's... the meat is in the bag of frozen chili

          [–]1redpillbanana 0 points1 point  (5 children)

          I stand corrected. Maybe it's different at different Wendy's branches?

          [–]Jack41096 2 points3 points  (2 children)

          worked at one for a very short time. we did it like the article mentioned. it might be a branch thing really.

          but that said I sat down and figured up the hold times and the way they save their chili. if it isn't completely sold when they close, they freeze it and heat it up for the next day. should it not be sold then (incredibly unlikely, but stick with me) it may get frozen again. at this point in the game, that "fresh" chilli meat is a ripe 3 days old.

          now I can't say I've seen that happen, but theoretical possibilities are often the most unsettling.

          [–]rotten_eye_joe 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          That's just how chili is. It's at its best 3 days old, and as long as it goes from hot to cold quickly, it doesn't really get much of a chance to get "ripe" because bacteria can't proliferate in it. It's either simmering (cooking pot/crockpot) or it's cooled rapidly to freezing. It's only in the danger zone of temperature for a little while, assuming the staff handles it correctly.

          [–]Jack41096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          you make make a good point. I will say though that the staff I worked with came across as being unable to handle it correctly. they couldn't even keep the floor dry enough for my anti-slip shoes to stay connected to the ground.

          [–]Spider-J 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          well this is a Canadian Wendy's, iunno mang :b half my friends worked there at one point or another, when we moved out stolen bags of chili were not uncommon.

          [–]1aguy01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          It may be illegal in Canada. The US tends to have the most lenient laws for food processing / food health.

          [–]huoyuanjiaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          The store my brother works at does it the cut up hamburger patty way as well.

          [–]xdrunkagainx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          I go with the bro-tein burger at Carl's Jr. I check the coupons that come every week in the mail, usually once a month there will be a 2 for $6 one.

          [–]ladieslovetheflow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          Non-hulk here (and rather out of shape due to hating running, although I bike, I dislike the gym, and having had a busy schedule the previous year and just collapsing after coming home from work until I had to do something else):

          I gained weight over the past two years, and it's because I like food. I liked the food that I cooked, and I ate too much of it. So at the start of last summer, I simply stopped eating so damn much of it. It worked very well, even though for four months I still had a rather inactive lifestyle.

          It's not hard to lose weight. I'm much happier with my ~160lb self (idk exactly, I don't own a scale and it's been awhile since I weighed myself) than the 190lbs that I reached (I'm only 5'9"ish, and like I said not a hulk... it wasn't muscle. except maybe leg muscle from biking so much) over those two years. I'm still working on it, but it's just not difficult to not become overweight.

          [–]TRP_James 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Do you want some more salt with that?

          [–]RedPill115 22 points23 points  (1 child)

          I feel no pity for fat women.

          I feel sorry for the ones who have been fat all their lives. I've had to lose weight because I was gaining it, and it's a pain in the ass.

          I have no sympathy for the ones who try to use social manipulation to achieve their affects when they gain weight and just don't to lose it.

          [–]ashion101[🍰] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          I'm the same. I'll praise any man or woman up and down and give them plenty of respect if they are actively making real effort to get healthier and slim down, even if the progress is slow and takes them a while. At least they are actively trying to change for the better for themselves.

          However, if all I hear and see are lame excuses and whining about how society is why they are fat and woe is them everything is too hard, winge, whine, moan, people should love them no matter how horribly obese and unattractive they get, and expect everyone around them to fall over themselves to validate and agree with them, I only feel contempt and disgust.

          And rant done.

          Just bugs me seen so many people in my life who've had various weight problems from lifestyle, emotional or physical (sometimes both) problems that have stopped whining, pulled up their boot straps, put in the hard yards and made massive changes and live so much happier now. One was a friend of mines mum who was in a car accident when we were young and screwed her back making her reliant on wheelchairs early on, then canes, crutches.

          Over the years she grew to be depressed and soon became morbidly obese from over eating. She was a sweet, kind woman but tended to use her injuries as an excuse not to go out much or be active. After we grew up and she got divorced I still chatted occasionally online with her for a while til she remarried and moved cross country and I lost contact. It was a few years before until I saw her again when invited to my friends engagement. At the party in walked a fit, shapely woman using a cane who looked very familiar but it wasn't until she called out to me and came over for a hug I realized who it was. It was my friends mum, fit, healthy and looking happier than I'd ever seen. Her new husband and moving to a new area inspired her to stop sitting around moaning about her issues, get mental and physical help and loose the weight.

          [–]FaithfulJinn 5 points6 points  (10 children)

          Avoiding alcohol is overrated.

          Unless you're stepping on a stage or using anabolics, there's no reason you can't drink. Have you ever been to a college party? Tons of buff dudes getting wasted.

          More like avoid extremely excessive beer consumption and you should be fine.

          [–]ComradeGoby 20 points21 points  (8 children)

          Alcohol is a shit drug anyway. Why it's allowed and weed isn't is crazy

          [–]Perch1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Alcohol has a lot of calories, but not all of them can be stored as fat. The most severe alcohol-related weight gain comes from binge-eating while drunk, since you don't really give a shit about your diet once you're wasted.

          [–]1niczar 5 points6 points  (1 child)

          Look, all the dietary advice you get from the govt and media is bunk. Turns out eating grains, even whole grains, and fruit juices (not even mentioning HFCS!) is fucking terrible, making you fat and despondent, whereas butter and eggs are good for you. Not saying she has no responsibility, just that bullshit is killing us, literally.

          [–]AntixD 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          some women do have health problems though,but that's like a miniscule percentage

          [–]Red_Pill_Theory 111 points112 points  (3 children)

          "I want a husband for life, not someone who will dump me when I'm 45 for someone skinnier and more attractive."

          Which is why you lose the weight and make yourself attractive now. If you're not going to give him your best during your prime years, why should he give you his down the road?

          [–]Endorsed Contributorcocaine_face 24 points25 points  (2 children)

          You're thinking like a man, where you make logical trade-offs. If a woman has been your beautiful wife for 15-20 years and has put on 20 or 30 pounds after bearing your children, you would, most likely, grin and bare it.

          She is thinking like a woman - the moment the guy's status gets too high in relation to hers, she feels he'll dump her, because that's what she would do to him.

          [–]Rush-into-the-fray 28 points29 points  (1 child)

          If a woman can have hypergamy, i can have fat rejection. And that's about all i have to say about that.

          [–]TimPartendale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Don't even give fat chicks the time of day, I look right past them and just know they're eyeing down my large biceps.

          [–]Lyrad1002 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          You have to keep in mind, a lot of these niche subreddits are mostly there for support, not really for logic or facts. 2X is a really good example. r/suicidewatch is another.

          [–]esco_ 12 points13 points  (2 children)

          you can bet your ass the boyfriend gave her hints along the way

          "lets go for a walk" "we should start exercising and eating healthy"

          etc etc. I've been in that situation with a girl who let herself go. Again, there were excuses: "I'm just so busy", even though her main hobby was lieing in bed reading/watching tv.

          It's amazing how women can ignore these not-so-subtle hints that they are getting fat. When i stopped seeing my ex as much, she wanted to know why. I gave her PC answers that were along the same lines as the truth, yet she kept pushing and pushing until i finally gave her the cold hard truth:

          "I'm not as attracted to you as i once was. Attraction is an important part of a relationship, you have made excuses for too long and you need to sort this problem out"

          You can imagine how that went down.

          Predictably, she then joined a gym and half-arsed some cardio for 3 days a week, then 2 days a week, then 1 day a fortnight until we broke up

          [–]Shaft-of-Patriarchy 6 points7 points  (1 child)

          And this right here is my last relationship in a nutshell.

          Only I went down the affair road, which was wrong but hey, lessons learned

          [–]thewestcoastexpress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          +1

          It wasn't just the weight gain for my ex-ham, it was accompanied by general life failure as well. Flunking most classes (in uni), reduction in her life goals - wanted to be a doctor, gave up on the dream etc.

          [–]1too_long_didnt_read 53 points54 points  (3 children)

          The other thing I love about this post is the cognitive dissonance over there. In the SAME FUCKING POST they:-

          1. Call a guy an asshole for wanting his landwhale girlfriend to lose weight before their wedding
          2. Shame a fat guy for not losing weight for his girlfriend before their wedding

          Incredible.

          [–]esco_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          Seemingly incompatible beliefs, yes. Cognitive dissonance, no.

          It's a personal gripe of mine when people misuse this term. Now, if you brought up the hypocrisy of these beliefs in front of the poster, you would likely create some cognitive dissonance which may lead to them changing their opinion.

          Cognitive dissonance is mental discomfort caused by competing ideas or actions. You can have competing ideas without have cognitive dissonance, in fact most people do. Therapists sometimes invoke cognitive dissonance in clients in an effort to change their thought processes or behaviour

          [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          He should just be happy that some fat vagina is spreading her legs for him. Stop with all your male privilege. Men don't get to have any standards.

          [–]white_crust_delivery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Its almost like they're a group of people with different perspectives and opinions.

          [–]Pharmakoza 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          Actually, those comments didn't seem so bad.

          [–]NS_white 23 points24 points  (0 children)

          The sad part is she'll think we need to further fat acceptance rather than realize men don't like fat people, just like a women doesn't like a short beta guy. It's amazing how out of touch cultural marxism makes people with seemingly common truths to life.

          [–]melolzz 41 points42 points  (1 child)

          Look at the the highest comment. It is the same situation where the man is the fat one, and look at the comments.

          If the woman is fat, the man should accept her and support her, or he is an asshole.

          If the man is the fat one: "Dump his ass".

          ROFL, you can't make this up.

          [–]Hoodwink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          I have a theory one of the reasons for heavily policing in that sub-reddit isn't to protect women from men because 'triggered', but to protect boys from women. It's to shut down some of the more crazy women from posting too much. It's to preserve women as emotional even, emotionally receptive to sexual partners, intellectually honest, and non-manipulative Victorian ladies. Most women are none of these which is why that women rely on social memes to govern amongst themselves what can be said to men. They need their white-knights.

          Boys and men can easily see the logical inconsistencies and hypocrisy - but women can generally out-maneuver men socially in person. But not when it's in the written form with text. The mere preservation of what was said does leaps and bounds for men so they can prove shit rather than women re-writing the past of what was said and what was meant after a point was made.

          Also, a lot of 'triggers' is a bunch of bipolar/narcissist/etc women going crazy and claiming rape instead of cheating on a boyfriend or a bunch of other shit like that. Putting 'trigger warning' and not talking too much about the event makes it so that the girl avoids self-destructing information and preserves her victimization.

          [–]2 MRedPillWatchTower 38 points39 points  (9 children)

          Here, have an upvote for "mollycoddle". I fancy myself well versed in the art of the English language, so I'm impressed when someone posts a word that makes me reach for the digital Thesaurus.

          To the original point though, if a man lets his LTR get fat, it's his own damn fault. He should have said something to her 40lbs ago. And if that didn't work, surprise her with a box of chocolates, but when she opens the box, instead of chocolates there's a gym membership card inside with a bow on it. If that doesn't work, next.

          [–]newlifeasredpill 28 points29 points  (1 child)

          "surprise her with a box of chocolates, but when she opens the box, instead of chocolates there's a gym membership card inside with a bow on it."

          imagine the 2X comments if that story got posted

          [–]arrayay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          I see a new fad gift idea for this coming Christmas season.

          [–]16 Endorsed ContributorGayLubeOil 29 points30 points  (0 children)

          Your LTR is a reflection of yourself. If your LTR is a fat fucking loser you are a fat fucking loser by association. Holding a fat girl's hand is the same thing as walking around in urine soaked pants. You don't do it because it tarnishes your reputation.

          [–]Honesty0504 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          You shouldn't have to, or in my opinion even try to keep your LTR in shape. If your girl doesn't do that shit on her own, she won't keep it up in the long term, and she probably won't feed your kids well, like GLO points out.

          Just next them

          [–]1Modified_Hackware 4 points5 points  (1 child)

          Wouldn't even get a box for her.

          Listen, all you need to actually do to be attractive is watch what you eat and pluck your eyebrows.

          Sort your shit out or leave.

          They want to talk about impossible beauty standards, compare the above two to what standards your average HB7 wants from her man and let's compare notes ladies.

          [–]carnivoracious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          box of chocolates

          It's like an intervention only hilarious.

          [–]BlackHeart89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          He should have said something to her 40lbs ago.

          Lol I like slim to thick women. I make it known at the beginning of any LTR. I even said to my last LTR, "you have enough room to lose or gain 20 lbs. I'd still find you sexy. But after you gain more than 20, things may not work out... Just saying. Lol".

          All I'm saying is, that shit worked like a charm. But she was also the most reasonable woman I've ever met. So yeah...

          [–]kovu159 6 points7 points  (2 children)

          40hrs/week at a desk. When I get home, I'm usually too tired to go to the gym or walk our dog

          Because an 8 hour a day government desk job is so fucking hard to handle. I put in nearly twice that in finance roles that are actually stressful and still manage to get a lot of exercise in.

          [–]Purecorrupt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Even when I was super stressed doing 40s with an hour commute I still played basketball twice a week and ate decent. Times like now where I'm bored out of my mind I'm doing something physical 5/7 days a week. I even walk around my damn building once a day.

          You can get too a stressed point and not be able to work out but if it lasts longer than a couple months its going to be a bigger problem than 'too tired' to work out. Learning a new job or oh shit moments don't last forever. Getting better or getting used to and caring less about what's in your control usually gives that energy back unless that person just doesn't care anymore.

          [–]Purecorrupt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Even when I was super stressed doing 40s with an hour commute I still played basketball twice a week and ate decent. Times like now where I'm bored out of my mind I'm doing something physical 5/7 days a week. I even walk around my damn building once a day.

          You can get too a stressed point and not be able to work out but if it lasts longer than a couple months its going to be a bigger problem than 'too tired' to work out. Learning a new job or oh shit moments don't last forever. Getting better or getting used to and caring less about what's in your control usually gives that energy back unless that person just doesn't care anymore.

          But ya government jobs are boring and not that stressful. And I'm going to assume what she does isn't that stressful at all if she upgraded from retail to a government job without giving more educational/experience background.

          [–]TheeRyanGrey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Women don't criticize other women lest they face similar charges.

          It's easier to just collectively swallow delusion

          [–]MightyTaint 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Oh honey, you poor thing, your boyfriend was so tactless!! You deserve better. You two are maybe "incompatible".

          What's funny is they're giving advice that winds up being in the boyfriends best interests anyways.

          [–]stemgang 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          True story:

          My uncle got engaged to a girl who was 100 pounds overweight. She lost 50 pounds for the wedding and looked...presentable.

          Over the next 2 years, she gained back 200 pounds.

          [–]Obsessory 6 points7 points  (1 child)

          I've just recently called my gf out on gaining weight, without being a prick about it, and she got all fucking emotional about it, through a few shit tests my way, and has eventually realised that she eats like a fucking slob.

          She's started walking frequently and stopped eating KFC. Full credit to her.

          Frankly, the dude shouldn't have been such a weak shit that he didn't have the balls to say anything in the first place. Too late now bru. Your shacked up with a swamp donkey.

          [–]NeopolitanAfterglow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          At least he was smart enough not to marry the pile of shit. It's not too late for him at all. Just a learning experience.

          [–]Wish_I_Was_Savvy 7 points8 points  (7 children)

          Haha to tired to work out. No bitch you didn't care cause you were content on being a fatass

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            [–]3 Endorsed ContributorF9R 3 points4 points  (0 children)

            To be fair, working 40 hours a week at a government job is tiring, and I can't say I blame her... I mean most people don't work that many hours a week right?

            I work anywhere from 35-55 hours a week depending on the workload, but I always find time each week for three lifting sessions (~3 hours total) and a half marathon run (~2hr total). That's five hours a week. Five hours a week and my workout routine is more than enough to keep me in shape.

            For fuck's sake when I run in the early morning I'm done before 8am, while this spherical woman is probably sound asleep in the body-sized indentation she's worn down in her mattress. And I'm not even a good runner, I'm just some dude who decided to get off the couch and run... it blows my mind how lazy people can be without realizing it.

            [–]asstaxticks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            You can work 60 hours a week and maintain as long as you plan around fixing your own lunch instead of chowing on a Big Mac every meal. Anything above that and you can probably afford a coke habit to keep the pounds off. There's no excuse for gaining weight.

            [–]BlackHeart89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            To be fair, working 40 hours a week at a government job is tiring, and I can't say I blame her... I mean most people don't work that many hours a week right?

            Yeah. I have a very very hard time going to the gym after work. Which is exactly why I wake up at 4:30 am and hit the gym before work. If that wasn't an option, then they make this thing called a pre-workout.

            No excuses for these people. They're simply just content with being that way.

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              [–]dhump 2 points3 points  (0 children)

              No way. If she walked during her lunch she wouldn't have time to slam those McDoubles before plopping back down at her desk.

              [–]BlackHeart89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              I told a few chicks this. They love making excuses, so they pretend I never said it. Months later, they come back and say "I finally got a gym membership!"

              It never fails that they stop after maybe a month, tops, then say something stupid like, "I can't do it. I hate working out. And I'm always so tired". Then goes to drinking and eating boxes of doughnuts and big macs. Smfh...

              [–]Freis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

              He went to bed, I bawled in the basement until I fell asleep.

              HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

              [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              Just because a guy isn't attracted to bigger women does not make him a fat-shamer. He was open and honest with her. Now she has the following options…

              1.)stay the way she is and have the sub-par relationship to continue.

              2.)stay the way she is and dump her boyfriend opening her own availability to someone who will accept her for the way she is.

              3.)Work on losing weight and having her boyfriend who she loves and wants to keep as the motivation to attain that goal.

              Her boyfriend sounds like a loser himself, but everyone has the freedom to determine their own personal standards for those they want to be with (no matter how ridiculous they may seem). At least she got an office job which (i assume) is higher paying than her previous retail job. That's something to look on the bright side about.

              [–]Kronouranos 1 point2 points  (1 child)

              I got a job with the government - 40hrs/week at a desk. When I get home, I'm usually too tired to go to the gym or walk our dog

              Whaaaaaaat

              So sitting at a desk for 40 hours a week makes you tired enough that the other 128 hours isn't enough time rest up to walk a mile? She can't even pull the kids excuse, what the fuck is she doing the other 72 hours awake?

              [–]1too_long_didnt_read 13 points14 points  (5 children)

              This is why you don't get married. Once that ring is on and she's "Mrs You" you're fucked if she wants to throw in a few dealbreakers after that point, because divorce rape is your only way out.

              Marrying a fat landwhale like this who cries about things on TrollXC rather than looks to take responsibility for herself is just irresponsible. Even if hubby-to-be does bully her into losing weight I give it a year before she's put it all back on plus an additional 100lbs.

              [–]Stormhammer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

              The cherry on top is the female redditor who comments saying she's that bf in the reverse role lol

              [–]eagleclaw457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

              two x makes me sick sometimes.

              [–]TekkomanKingz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

              Best reply on that thread was:

              "I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years (March 28) on our third anniversary he told me that I'm looking more and more like my mom. I asked him what he meant and he said, "You know how your mom is big in the stomach but well proportioned everywhere else?" I gave him a wtf look and asked what he's saying, he said that while I was reading a book in Sam's Club I was resting the book on my stomach, he hadn't realized til then how much weight I gained, and at that moment he didn't find me attractive. Did that hurt? Yes. Did I get mad? Yes. Because he chose our third year anniversary to tell me this. Did I think of breaking up with him? No. You can't help what you're attracted to, it's not something you rationalize yourself into, it just comes naturally. I just got a job and once I get my first good paycheck, I'm going to eat healthy, and work on losing weight. For me so I never have to feel unnatractive to my boyfriend again, plus it would be cool to weigh what I did four ears ago. Your boyfriend told you he wasn't thinking of marrying you, he never said he was thinking of breaking up with you. He loves you. You are thinking of breaking up with him because you kept asking him why you're not married yet, and he gave you an answer you didn't like. I understand that it hurts, I still want to cry when I remember our anniversary, I understand how easy it would be to get mad at him. I'm mad at him he said it on our anniversary. But if you love him then you wouldn't do anything just to be spiteful. Break up with him only if you don't love him anymore. If you don't think he is worth losing weight, and looking good for him, then break up with him. But know that he would obviously at that point, love you more then you did him. Because even after he wasn't attracted to you he stayed with you, because for him his love for you was more important then being attracted to someone. For you it would be being attractive for someone would mean being more important then loving someone. I'm so sorry that you had to hear him say that though, It hurts. I know."

              [–]garlicextract 2 points3 points  (0 children)

              For the longest time, I was the sole earner for us - he was unemployed from October 2011 to December 2012. He could've picked up a job (our city has jobs galore) but instead he cherry-picked the jobs he applied for, all high-paying ones tailored to his area of study in college. I wasn't making enough in retail to support us both, so I got a job with the government - 40hrs/week at a desk. When I get home, I'm usually too tired to go to the gym or walk our dog, stuff I used to do to keep in shape. So yeah, I've some gained weight. Big whoop. I still feel healthy, and I'm comfortable in my own skin.

              Sounds like she experienced what it's like to be the average man and is horribly bitter about it

              [–]Jamisbike 1 point2 points  (1 child)

              Man, these op's are so bias nowadays. She is a fatso asking bad drunken questions, yes, but he is a fucking dick. She supported him for so long on two jobs without time to get into gym (granted, she could've eat healthy instead, but op didn't mention that) and he instead of telling her about it with compassion and trying to fix the problem like a couple just talks to her in a very rude way. They are both wrong. And btw, try to completely inverse the roles, see how that makes you feel.

              [–]Doctor_Mayhem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              Yeah, if I had to bust my ass at some soulcrushing government job and then work a SECOND job to support some ho, only for her to whine about how fat I got, I'd probably wanna commit a few class 3 felonies, myself.

              [–]GOATLin 1 point2 points  (1 child)

              I can't stop laughing at her being tired after a 9-5 government job. Maybe coming from retail it's a big load but if I did her job I'd probably be dying to do actual work after my shift ended.

              [–]Doctor_Mayhem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              You'd think so, but those kinds of jobs drain at your soul to the point that you feel exhausted.

              When I worked at one, I could feel myself dying on the inside.

              [–]Luckyluke23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              what gets me more, Is two X is on the default page of reddit ( so when you sign up you are already subcribed to it) it should be gender neutral

              [–]aazav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              They would rather force society to accept their flaws than... oh, I dunno... get their butt to a gym and start running.

              NO.

              They WANT society to hand them the pass. They WANT society to change for them. They want to be on easy street. They don't want to work for it.

              The difference is that we have learned that we HAVE to work for it. Work to get a better job. Work to get a better bod. We thrive on achievement while the lazier person wants it handed to them and if they have a backhanded advantage, will try to weasel it through and whine about it to their echo chamber.

              [–]NormSonOfAGunderson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              I love how her second sentence and her first sentence regarding her reaction is "I don't know whether to be pissed-off, heart-broken or both". Uhm how about you feel motivated and understand that if your man suddenly shrank 6 inches in height you probably wouldn't be interested in him either. I would NEVER have dated a girl who let herself go in her 20's. What will she be like in her 40's? Some hoarder who gets around on a jazzy scooter? F that.

              [–]InscrutablePUA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              I kinda feel sorry for women in this country - brought up on a diet of lies to believe that they should be 'comfortable in their own skin' and 'love themselves' and 'be accepted for who they are'. Then to have a boyfriend of X years give it to her straight no chaser - denial and anger are logical responses really.

              It's like how men are brought up on similar lies. Remember the Indian virgin guy who flipped out when he found out his wife was a slut? Thank goodness the manosphere exists.

              [–]neveragoodtime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              It's OK for society to accept her flaws. It's not OK for her to expect some guy to marry her despite them. No one is entitled to be married by her boyfriend of choice. She may as well be mad at him for not liking vegetables. She can either work on her flaws, or get an account at Lowered Expectations.

              [–]Wheatspin 1 point2 points  (1 child)

              I have to say, I used to be all for this kind of post. But now I understand why people are sick of it. It's old news. I mean honestly is it really a breakthrough to anyone that women don't like to be aware of heir flaws and treated like those flaws don't exist? Seriously.

              Red pillers already know this because they've embraced human nature and live their lives accordingly. Recent converts from blue pill also know this because they've been living women's lives up until their eyes have been opened.

              So I pose the question - what place in this sub has this post? Is there a place for it? Every day there's more and more subs to this thread and I understand they may not be well versed in human nature. But the frequency of "look at this woman acting like a woman" posts is obnoxious and quite frankly why I've stopped coming to this sub daily like I used to. I'm sure I'm not alone.

              I think what it comes down to is people needing to get over their mysoginy phase. Don't roll your eyes. Most people in this sub have gone through it - hating women for the way they are. Well fuck you. Get over it. That's just how things are. You can sit there and whine about it like a pussy or you can accept it and act accordingly.

              This is a shitpost. Stop shitposting.

              [–]11411181 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Cool. You're past it. Well done you. Now hush while the other kids figure it out as well.

              [–]CanadianSnow 0 points1 point  (3 children)

              I call bullshit on the "decent" boyfriend. He didn't have a job for over a year and depended on her for income. That's far from decent.

              [–]TechnoL33T 5 points6 points  (2 children)

              Yeah, fuck that guy for trying to get a high paying job in a field he studied for in college. Fuck that guy for getting that job and not dumping the girl right away, but contribute instead.

              He's so indecent for being turned down for so many positions and being personally broke the entire time. I'm sure he wanted that.

              Let's take a look at how often girls will depend on guys for income while pursuing whatever it is they do and call them awful now. Not working? It's probably because it's not awful. Everyone needs carried sometimes, and when they manage to be successful because of it, they shouldn't be put down for it. Get off your high horse.

              Let's talk about my mom. She has mooched from countless men and having them pay for college while she sits around being the queen and pretends to job hunt. She's got a CDL, a master's in Criminology, professional salon training, and a bachelor's in accounting. She doesn't have a single related job, and hasn't gotten any for as long as I can remember.

              She's been married for something like 8-9 years now, and her husband is still faithful. Her problem is that she's falling apart physically. She's had more surgeries and awful things breaking in her than I can even keep track of. How do you think she feels?

              She's hopeful. Her husband has had 3 strokes, and something like 25 years dedicated to a factory job that's incredibly hard on him. She's going to eventually get a criminology position, and he's going to retire. He's got tons of retirement money, and she's got a bright future even at 40. This is how marriage works, and even though I'm pretty against marriage, and the system surrounding it, some people work better as a team.

              [–]BlackHeart89 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              The guys she dealt with seem to be beta bucks as fuck. Can't say that she seems like a decent woman to marry. Just good at playing the game.

              [–]TechnoL33T 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              That's how I always saw it until now.

              [–]BIGBIGBIGMEANIE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Maybe she should stop being a selfish cunt and drop the whale fat.

              [–]USmellFunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Most of the comments support the guy's pov. I'm actually impressed with TwoX this time.

              [–]Anon59538327 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              While I neither like TwoX nor fatties I must say this critique applies to many if not most people. Us guys can also be lazy lardasses, heck you don't even need to be fat to be lazy. Of course you go whine to people that listen if you feel unhappy. Unnecessary sexist generalization here.

              That by the way is why I hate feminism. They do exactly that, everything is gender related. Most things are general human faults though.

              [–]SeekingTheWay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              This is irrelevant. We all meet here on TRP because we DO have the motivation and the will to improve ourselves. Don't forget that TRP mostly consideres the weak guys that only whine the same as girls.

              [–]HeadingRed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              How about this- "I won't marry you because you are damaging your health and I do not want to commit to a lifetime with someone who does not want a long healthy life"

              If this guy was smoking or doing some other kind of unhealthy behavior it would be perfectly fine for her to say "no" to marrying him. Because her bad behavior gives her a fat ass now its ok?

              [–]thereddespair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              i think the wait til you thin out thing is a ruse. the guy is just buying himself time.

              [–]winndixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Lol someone ask for her picture.

              [–]Menadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              But surely, if she is unwilling to be sexy for her boyfriend they are "uncompatible"?

              [–]randomchaos1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Would be nice if women slowly started to rationalize things and move back to the old paradigm of looking good for their man. Maybe one day.... We can all hope.

              [–]the99percent1 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              Not to hate on the boy, but this is seriously his fault for letting his GF slip this badly.. Passive people are passive.

              Any smart person knows that the best leadership is leading by example. He could easily start a low carb, low fat diet plan for himself and his wife. Eat lean meat, lots of veggies and cut out processed food. No time for exercise is a lame excuse. It only takes 30 minutes of walking some form of cardio. He could encourage her, push her, lead her and show her the way.

              She's depressed? Even getting some fresh air outside can be enough to lift moods..

              Seriously, as much as you'd like to blame the girl, the guy has enough opportunities to change her if only he took leadership and stop being a passive bystander to the train wreck..

              [–]NeopolitanAfterglow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Do you even know what lead by example means? Because that's what he was doing.

              [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Marriage is a contract in which you sign to give your soul away. It is a contract of everlasting fidelity stating `I will only sleep with this person for the rest of my life´, and most people who sign this fidelity contract end up breaking its only clause sooner or later.

              She thinks the guy doesn't deserve her; IMO He deserves something better. Dump her ass, go get some plates. I wouldn't agree if he didn't want to marry her because she got cancer and lost all her hair due to chemio or whatever, but she ate herself fat. Typical woman, doesn't mind doing something (binge eating, riding the cock carousel), just doesn't wanna deal with the consequences.

              She has a cunt, she can get laid easier than a guy who is a 6 can, even though she is a human whale. Women nowadays think having a cunt is enough to get their prince charming. Fuck that. I don't spend 40 minutes of my day lifting so I can get to be on top of a whale who smells like Doritos. Want someone attractive? Make yourself attractive.

              [–]Newdist2 -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

              She's a chump anyway for giving him her best years (19-26) and not getting real commitment in return.

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                [–]Newdist2 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                Sure.

                But I wouldn't want a woman I actually cared about (so basically just my sisters, female cousins, and any future daughters) to spend ages 19-26 fucking some dude who doesn't want to marry her. No matter how fat she was.

                [–]rdesktop7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                To be fair, but it doesn't sound like these years were the best that the OP could have given.

                If you are having these weight problems at 26, the following years will only bring a train wreck of health issues.

                This couple need to split, for multiple reasons. He needs to find sombody that will suit him better. She need to get her life together and change her ways.

                [–]ioncloud9 -2 points-1 points  (4 children)

                If he wont marry her shes basically being raped right now. There is no other way to put it. This is sarcasm.

                [–]sway_usa 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                What the hell are you talking about?

                [–]ioncloud9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

                pointing out the rush of calling everything that clearly isnt rape "rape" these days.

                [–]NeopolitanAfterglow 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                Despite the downvotes, it's true. The wat feminism is going, having sex with a woman under false pretenses ("he said he would marry me") may soon be considered nonconsentual and therefore rape.

                [–]ioncloud9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                I mentioned this because of a law being discussed in New Jersey where it's considered rape if a man lies to a woman about being rich. False pretenses of getting married is pretty close to that.