A lot of what goes on here at TRP is men coaching other men how to be more masculine
Pursuing Masculinity for its own sake is a trap and here is why and how I finally realized it:
Iv been bodybuilding for about seven years now. In that time iv gained approximately 10 pounds a year and am starting to get bodybuilder proportions at 225 pounds at six ft. I lift weights for myself, I enjoy pushing myself and getting stronger, I see it as the ultimate hobby.
Anyway my family routinely shits on me for my bodybuilding:
Why do I need to do it? What am I trying to prove? Its a waste of time and money. Women are not attracted to muscular men, only gay men are.
At every point in this argument it is clear that the usefulness of something is based on the female opinion of it. Nobody cares that bodybuilding makes me happy, its not in the service of a woman, so its bad and a waste of time. My build is only seen as a plus when I go somewhere with my girlfriend at night.
When women have fun: go to clubs, buy stupid shit, discuss brain rot gossip mags, Glitter paint each nail individual, they get encouragement
However when men entertain themselves:watch porn, build models, restore cars, play video games they are immediately shat on.: Lol neck beard why do you stop doing X and get laid?
Don't define yourself by how useful you are to women, define yourself by how useful you are to yourself, how happy you make yourself.