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    [–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (7 children)

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    Yep. Apply the friend-but-don't-follow policy. Also, guys can use it to their advantage also

    [–]1121895 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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    Yep. I can post a giveaway for 500$ cash, won only by liking my status, and it would get less likes than most of the photos of the chicks I know.

    [–]1Watermelon_Salesman -1 points0 points  (5 children)

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    I wish there was a way to unfollow everyone with a single click. I use Facebook mostly for finding jobs and chat with very few friends who insist on using it.

    [–]theredbelow 2 points3 points  (4 children)

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    Yeah, you click 'unfollow' at the top of their facebook page

    [–]1Watermelon_Salesman -1 points0 points  (3 children)

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    I meant everyone. I'm not individually doing that on hundreds of people.

    [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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    I too have searched for that option. Eventually I just set my Facebook bookmark button to go to my profile rather than to my feed, and I don't usually gravitate outside that window. Narcissistic-sounding but whatever.

    [–]FrontTooth -1 points0 points  (1 child)

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    Took me 10 minutes to unfollow 700+ but keeping my real friends, totally worth it

    [–]1Watermelon_Salesman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    I do about 5 to 10 a day in average, in the days when I log in and remember to do that. Still see a lot of shit...

    [–]FeelLikeFlexing 7 points8 points  (2 children)

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    If you give women attention on social media, you're already failing the test

    Exactly. But I do think there is a caveat if you LEGITIMATELY have something to day, like a witty comment, or inside joke. But talking just to talk, or saying shit just to raise her self esteem will get you 'friend zoned' faster than Drake.

    [–]thegman84 14 points15 points  (1 child)

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    If you give women attention on social media, you're already failing the test

    That's true if you're giving them only positive attention. Throw in a some negs, criticize her about something she posts, tease her, etc.....

    Social media is here to stay. You can use it to your alpha advantage or you can let it make you a beta. It all depends on how you use it.

    [–]son_of_narcissus 18 points19 points  (0 children)

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    The only winning move is not to play.

    [–]dave_is_not_here -4 points-3 points  (2 children)

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    I can confirm this. You can walk the line carefully, but never give a bitch more than, say, 60 seconds of social media attention in any given day, so like two or three messages tops.

    [–]Ojisan1 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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    60 seconds per day seems like an awful lot. Not the 60 seconds part, but the every day part.

    [–]dave_is_not_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    "In any given day" doesn't mean "every day." In fact it pretty specifically means the opposite. Every day is just as bad as responding instantly.

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      [–]dotrar 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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      facebook is trash though. It shouldnt be "that much of your life" because there should really be nothing on it thats "personal" or of any value.

      I treat facebook the same way i treat 4chan. some dumb procrastibatory source of talking to people on the internet, its just this time i actually tend to see the people in real life aswel.

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        [–]dotrar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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        I live 1,500 miles away from all my close friends and most of my family.

        Facebook is both useless and an illusion. it is not a solid form of contact, it is not a way to keep in touch with people ( in any meaningful sense ) It's to tell the people around you what useless garbage you ate for breakfast and to rally people to hit the clubs.

        I also live a few km's away from family. "Close Friends" come and go. the close friends I have at the moment I catch up with weekly and we bullshit on facebook together.

        My mum doesn't have internet, just a phone. I call and write her letters every now and then. probably like 10mins a week/fortnight or so.

        When I have visit home ( about 1-2 a year) I'll bring photos to show them what I'm doing.

        take a moment to think, why have you moved 1,500 miles away? I'll presume to study or work. People move to greener pastures all the time, but they don't spend every day in la-la land talking to old buddies and looking at old photos.

        the fact is that you've moved and there'll be a certain amount of time before you can physically talk to them again. don't ruin the surprise for when they see you again.

        you want to have a real contact with your family and show them how you've improved and how much better you're getting. Don't waste time every day filling them with trivial and useless info about dumb "lol im watching #GoT but - feeling tired" no one cares.

        Use the time you're spending to better yourself and work on other relationships. Family is all that matters. "Close Friends" that are 1,500 miles away makes about as much sense as a LDR. sure you can keep in contact but it happens when it happens, you live your life, let them live theirs.


        although in general you don't add useless random dumb chicks to facebook. I forgot that was the point we're addressing here.

        [–]Josephthehun 110 points111 points  (13 children)

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        Redpill solution concerning yourself as a redpiller - Live an awesome life and let other people tag you living it.

        [–]reluctantly_in_love 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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        8-)

        [–]Xiudo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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        Well said

        [–]Walktillyoucrawl -4 points-3 points  (9 children)

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        I post awesome artistic photos, and RARELY ones of me and my sister or mother. No girls in any of them. Except a few action shots. It's good to be aloof.

        [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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        good for you, friend, good for you

        [–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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        There is one pic of me, the rest is scenic shots I take, car projects, my dogs, and silly shit I find online. You have to really look to find the one of me. My family uses it to stay in touch with me, and I don't do much else on that shit. I don't get much validation from it, and I have just over 100 friends. I've met all of them IRL except for car buddies I trade parts with.

        [–]Walktillyoucrawl 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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        I treat it like a photo album that my kids will look at.

        [–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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        My kids are rather old, they know me well and I enjoy embarrassing them. I maintain some decorum for some people on there, but really nothing is taboo to me.

        [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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        and people like me appreciate that. art, nature, and adventure are the best things about nature. people should be inspired to get off their ass

        [–]rpkarma -5 points-4 points  (3 children)

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        You can see my transition to alpha through my FB. In 2008, I posted plenty of photos of me going out, and doing things, and just regular social media shit. A couple of years later, the only posts of me are photos chicks I'm banging have taken, or close friends photos and statuses every so often. I don't post on it nearly entirely at this point.

        [–]Blood_Vaults 82 points83 points  (12 children)

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        Honestly, not having net presence is one of the top 2 things i've ever done to improve my life. I see my friends and family getting depressed over shit that happens on Facebook and that makes me glad I don't have to deal with that. This is the only forum I post on. I don't have any pictures of myself up, and my name is taken from a German Doom Metal album so I have relative anonymity

        Studies have shown that Facebook makes you constantly compare yourself to others which in turn has a direct, negative effect on your mental stance since you feel you're always behind the rat race because everyone's always posting shit about their latest artificial adventure vacations, pets, food, gifts beta orbiters bought them, etc whatever...

        The only person you need to compare yourself to is who you were the day before.

        [–]Homestaff17 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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        I live my life by the last line of your post.

        Your biggest critic should always be yourself. Your biggest validation should always come from yourself.

        [–]RPL23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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        “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” - E. Hemingway.

        [–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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        People actually do that? I mean try to keep up with the Joneses online? They get depressed over shit? Maybe its because I'm older and have almost always been a loner that I don't do that. I don't care if someone does something or goes somewhere, I've been all over the world and I do what I want daily.

        That concept is alien to me, I can't imagine people care like that. If you build a fast or cool car, it gives me ideas to build something too, its not a competition unless you're lined up with me at the dragstrip. No need to one up you, I do what I like and derive satisfaction from how well it works, not what someone else thinks of it.

        [–]TheOpposingView 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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        Hate to be that guy but.....

        That is such a bad ass last line.

        [–]powder1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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        Nicely put man.

        [–]ibuprofiend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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        not having net presence

        I'd recommend still having the bare minimum (facebook, linkedin, maybe twitter) but just not actively using them. Most people under 30 think it is very strange for another young person to not have social media accounts, so having no "net presence" is a great way to get yourself discriminated against.

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          [–]Ojisan1 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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          You seriously come of as socially inept writing this.

          It's his reddit username, meant to obscure his identity, not to define it - it's not his social identity.

          Your assessment seems unduly harsh without knowing anything about the guy besides his username.

          [–]wasabiversace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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          Damn, I thought he meant his Facebook profile. My bad.

          [–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

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          I agree. This guy sounds like a loser.

          [–]t21spectre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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          Well he did come here to change that.

          [–]Dmac680chi -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

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          I think a lot of people would quit Facebook if everyone stopped using it. I use it out of convenience. Right now I'm pruning my friends list of people I don't talk to. I also think it's great for sharing photos and events. I did stop using it for a semester of college and it was pretty cool. I fully support you in this decision.

          [–]Kepaso 14 points15 points  (1 child)

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          Selfies are the worst thing ever invented. Thank god the duck face fade is disappearing.

          [–]willtopower2014 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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          No way man. Big titty bikini beach selfies...Gym selfies...swoon

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            [–]foghorn19 19 points20 points  (2 children)

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            The public behavior and persona of women is entirely a facade. It is a lifelong acting job.

            Before social media, it was in-person social situations where they had to keep up the act and the facade.

            Now, it's a 24/7 job.

            A lot of hamster wheels are going to come apart in this mad dash. Kinda like Alice in Wonderland, they have to keep running faster and faster just to stay in place.

            [–]grayman12 6 points7 points  (1 child)

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            You are absolutely exaggerating here, especially with the younger (high school and college) crowd currently using twitter for example. Sure there's a facade, everybody (including men) has one, and yeah, girls on twitter and instagram use them to seem cooler and more desirable, even if subtly and subconsciously. But to say that adding social media to the mix is going to break the hamster wheel...? If you think girls haven't figured out how to keep up the pace with this shit you'd be wrong.

            [–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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            Yeah they live for that succulent validation they get from posting inane drivel, they can keep it up because its all point and click with a bit of typing.

            [–]megatron37 6 points7 points  (2 children)

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            Yeah, that's true - the glossy "happy holidays from the Jerkoff Family" pictures were a predecessor to social media in a way.

            Family all posed perfectly, updates on what they did this year, and of course mailed out to everyone to show off.

            [–]dave_is_not_here 3 points4 points  (1 child)

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            Yeah, and now we get a pile of them from everybody we fuckin' know every morning. This just convinced me to quit social media.

            [–]bottleofpoe 13 points14 points  (2 children)

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            I was dating this girl once, never really took a step towards me, I was mostly doing all the work to get her. So this date she just invited me to hangout with her friends. The entire night I felt like she just wanted me there for her friends to give her validation. Since she really never started convos, I was surprised, and later disappointed, when she texted me asking me desperately for this photo I took of us during the "date". I knew she just wanted it to post it on her instagram. I felt like a tool. So I quit seeing her. Edit: grammar

            [–]redpillfil 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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            Rough. Did she try to get back together with you or wondered why you stopped seeing her?

            I'm noticing the same exact behaviors with this girl I'm dating. I stopped visiting her at work or her place 4 days ago and I toned down the texting.

            [–]bottleofpoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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            Not really, after all this time I realized I never made her see I was interested in her. This date I'm talking you about was a "wow long time no see, what are you doing this weekend" kind of thing, hence why she invited me along her friends. I should say she was 14 and I was 17, we never even kissed, she was really young, I don't blame her for seeking that validation, that's what I can presume girls do at that age when they found out they can attract guys.

            I feel like texting should be a 50/50, you don't give more than you receive, and when she starts investing, it's your turn to escalate and start taking the convo somewhere.

            The " you going to visit her" I believe making her work for you is all about compliance tests. Even small things. If she agrees to invest into requests you've given to her, she will have no problem be the one visiting you.

            [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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            Yo that shit bores me. Between the passive aggressive bitches saying shit like "Omg... can't trust anyone" to the wannabe motivational speakers saying shit like "Every journey begins with a single step." It's like looking into everyone's fuckin diaries at once and they all look overly self-important to the point that it's embarrassing. The fuck do I care if you had a lousy day? If you have beef with someone then stop being a coward and go settle it. Fuckin drones jerking off to how many likes they get on some retarded picture. I don't bother with that waste of time and I wouldn't date a girl who did either.

            [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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            I haven't had a facebook in about two years. At first I had some withdrawl symptoms. I'd constantly check my phone but there wouldnt be any app to go to since I deleted it. I also had about 150 "friends" on there that I knew from high school and would talk to a bunch on there. Once I deleted it I only talked to my couple close friends and my girlfriend. Made me realize who my true friends were. I try to stay away from most social media because I believe it's brain rotting in some ways. It was fun for awhile, but the politics of it all is fucked.

            [–]B-Shift_Black_Sheep 20 points21 points  (6 children)

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            Modern women's fetish with traveling is another example. Take as many pictures as possible in exotic locations so you can show social media how "cultured" you are.

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              [–]Bad_Karma21 15 points16 points  (3 children)

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              That's an extremely narrow view of things, like nobody has espoused the virtue of travel before? I took a year off the career path to travel and recently came back to the same job a way better person. If your whole life is career focused, you're going to wake up one day bitter and miserable

              [–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (2 children)

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              Yeah, I have no idea what point that guy was trying to make. Life is about experiences. What's wrong with choosing to teach in a foreign country?

              [–]Bad_Karma21 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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              Absolutely nothing. Honestly, it sounds like a form of jealousy or resentment that he doesn't have the balls to do it himself.

              [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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              His argument doesn't even make sense. This person would be teaching in a foreign country and then return to the US with valuable teaching experience. They would then use that work experience to land another job. This is how building your career works.

              [–]ibuprofiend 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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              Ironically the whole reason college kids go to 3rd world shitholes is so they can put it on their resumes and talk about it in interviews

              [–]1browndelicious 21 points22 points  (3 children)

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              There's a place for social media and there's nothing wrong with sharing your highlight reel. Just keep it in check and make sure you're living your life for YOU, not for what gets posted. Don't spend too much time on it if you can help it, mute/block the whiners and gamers who invite you/share garbage, but don't for a minute convince yourself that your online reputation/presence doesn't matter. It does.

              [–]5 Endorsed Contributorgekkozorz[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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              You can certainly make your own personal highlight reel for work for you. For example, if a picture of you with a hot girl hugging you ever comes up, tag yourself in it. It'll make you look all the more badass to whatever chicks come stalking your profile.

              The important thing is to just not let yourself be bothered when you're reading everyone else's.

              [–]SheBlewChicago 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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              Social media presence is, by far, the least important thing in life. I got rid of my Twitter and Facebook roughly a year ago because of pretty much everything OP described and ever since then I've been having way more fun going out and actually living in the moment. All those sexy girls you were friends with on Facebook will remember you, don't worry, and they will be way more interested in talking to you the next time they see you because they haven't been able to stalk you for the past 4 months.

              [–]myschadenfreude 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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              Self validation is the only validation that matters. Ever talk to a person who knows and understands their self worth? Hint: They don't give a single fuck what others think of them.

              [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (7 children)

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              Dunno about your feed but mine seems to be filled with incessant whining about things.

              I guess the only posts I make are how good I have it though. It's not like I ever share my problems with the world. Having said that I probably post about once a year.

              [–]5 Endorsed Contributorgekkozorz[S] 19 points20 points  (6 children)

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              Whining is another form of validation seeking. Dale Carnegie wrote about this in How to Win Friends and Influence People. If you're a victim, that makes you a little bit more special and important, so many people erroneously think that if they complain enough about how bad they have it, that will make them worth more as a person.

              Thus the fact that the other buttload of posts on your Facebook feed right now (if yours is anything like mine) are filled with Tumblr, Buzzfeed, Gawker, and Thoughtcatalog articles about how rough women have it in the western world.

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                [–]dave_is_not_here 0 points1 point  (3 children)

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                I really feel superior reading this thread thus far, I really do. My facebook feed is 80-90% radical libertarian and anarchist articles and 10% updates from my former high school classmates. I usually ignore friend requests or tell people I never use facebook, that way I can just use it to watch all the sheep I went to high school with waste away their lives working for the man.

                [–]maderail 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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                So how do I avoid slaving away my life for The Man?

                [–]strivingforfreedom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                You don't if you live in America because you still pay a shit load of taxes, but starting a business would be a good start.

                [–]dave_is_not_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                First and foremost let me clear something up. I define "the man" as both the state and the wealthy oligarchs that own it.

                It's a matter of how much income you're willing to let the government and the bankster aristocracy extort from you.

                If you're working a 40 hour, dead-end service job, spending most of your time simply doing busy work that doesn't actually need to be done at all, like 80% of Americans and shell out most of your measly paycheck paying your car loans, student loans and mortgage then 70%+ of your income is going straight to "the man." And let's face it, that 30% that's leftover is just going to be spent on common consumer products, which essentially leaves you giving the man every last red penny you earn. In fact, because you can't stop working those 40 hour weeks without losing your home, car and god knows what else you're actually an indentured servant. That's a whole other conversation, though.

                However, if one owns and operates their own small business, avoids any and all long term debt and works to be as self-sufficient as possible, they're a free man.

                Personally, I'm not okay with the state extorting a single penny from me, so I shoot for 0%, where you want to be is on you, but there are a billion options out there for anybody who's got the ingenuity and courage to build something for themselves on their own. Most people can't see these opportunities because they're so used to working within our societies labor systems and simply don't feel comfortable abandoning the cushy luxuries of the western consumer culture. Put simply, they'd rather have their 500 channels on a big screen and an iPhone than FREEDOM. I feel quite differently.

                [–]LukeMooney 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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                Social media has created a culture where everything's a competition to see who can (insert the words "appear to") live the best life

                [–]dub121686 35 points36 points  (5 children)

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                Kid pics used to annoy me until I had one. Now its cool to see others children grow. Non parents can't relate. Its cliche statement but its true.

                [–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 10 points11 points  (4 children)

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                I have kids and I don't care about the kids of anyone else. I might be an asshole. Wait, correction, I am an asshole. I work hard at being one.

                [–]dub121686 0 points1 point  (3 children)

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                I'm sure everyone around you can smell how hard you are trying. Probably smells pathetic

                [–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 3 points4 points  (2 children)

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                Not really pathetic, but its fun to watch them cringe. My kids are 17 and 20, and I find great amusement in making the youngest embarrassed. You might care too much about what people think of you. If you like kids, don't be a priest and keep your hands to yourself.

                [–]dub121686 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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                opposite end of the spectrum, as my kid turns 1 tomorrow. plenty of embarrassing things for when he gets old enough anyway

                [–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                I wish digital cameras and recording devices were as prevalent when my kids were little as they are now.. The joys of making them cringe.

                [–]Gyaltso 11 points12 points  (6 children)

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                But wait bruh, look here.

                Just ask yourself if you would still hate on it as much as you do if you had a cool fucking life to show off and all the pretty bitches were liking your shit.

                I'm not disagreeing with you and what you have to say about social media, (frankly, I didn't read it all) I've felt the same way before and I've heard people complain about them all for mostly all the same reasons.

                But you know who's not complaining about social media? People that are profiting from it. Winners

                That includes the model chick who used Instagram to get herself on some rappers new music video and that includes the the ball player who used twitter to pm these 10 model chicks for a fun night out. Two shitty examples, hopefully you get it tho.

                There are so many ways, even so many real ways to win with social media. Are you a winner who uses it to stunt on everybody, or are you the loser who hates to play the game.

                [–]1kingofpoplives 9 points10 points  (5 children)

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                Agreed. Comes down to a cost benefit question. Are you putting more in or getting more out? It's a fact the majority of very young women put a lot of stock in this stuff and will base their decision whether or not to fuck you on the cache of your instagram.

                [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                That's some dystopian future shit right there, man.

                [–]dave_is_not_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                My mentality would be that if they're stalking your social media profiles before you get fucks you're doing something wrong. Probably a lot of things wrong, actually.

                [–]grayman12 -1 points0 points  (2 children)

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                It's a fact the majority of very young women put a lot of stock in this stuff and will base their decision whether or not to fuck you on the cache of your instagram.

                That latter bit is completely wrong for 99% of girls. Including very young women.

                [–]thegman84 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                That latter bit is completely wrong for 99% of girls. Including very young women.

                I disagree. Your cache of photos can be a great way to demonstrate pre-selection.

                [–]grayman12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Yeah that's obviously true. Read what he said again. That isn't what he said.

                [–]Hormander 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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                Delete Facebook. Problem solved.

                [–]bitchdantkillmyvibe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                Almost. Life is already a competition, always has been. Social media just conflates this even more, on an increasingly micro level.

                [–]Moneyley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                I dont see a point to facebook. I completely deleted mine like 3 years ago and never looked back. I agree with OP facebook is all about me living life better than you. My reason for leaving it was that it was more of a distraction. I've thought about returning just as my business but I read that it has a lot more releases of private information than it initially had.

                [–]whoops_fap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                This is also why women are addicted to their cell phones. My mom, ex gf and one of my female friends are buried in their fucking phones because of texting, Facebook notifications, etc. It's even happened to me a long time ago. I don't have any notifications anymore on my phone and it's on do not disturb 24/7. Life changing shit.

                [–]watersign 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                this is why i dont use social media. its completely stupid

                [–]RAGING_ERECTION 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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                I agree. This is why I got rid of Facebook.

                I believe at it's core, social media is just attention whoring and validation seeking, which are beta male and female characteristics.

                I got sick of it, it's a waste of time - I'd rather be doing something much more productive than trying to prove myself to people I don't really care about. I keep in contact with the people that matter with my phone.

                [–]SergeantDickhead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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                I love watching others try and convince themselves and everybody else on this subreddit that using facebook is somehow going to help their life. Everyone wants to believe in a Red Pill, yet can't take the step to unplug.

                Ditched facebook 9 months ago completely- and it's hard not to feel bad for people who still hamster around thinking that it's going to benefit them somehow. Kind of makes me sick to watch.

                [–]FrostyGoingHisOwnWay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                I never did like social media and got into facebook a few years ago and used it for about a year or so before finally quitting it for good about a year ago.

                I agree with the OP, it's just people putting on a show of all the best parts of their life for attention, everyone is competing for attention and the most likes, there's no "dislike" button because the whole system is set up to reinforce positive feedback.

                Facebook also track you and sell your info to other people so if you have any privacy concerns then it's best to avoid them.

                [–]badboystwo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                I broke up with a girl because she took too many selfies and cared way too much about social media.

                [–]powder1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Bravo. Very well written. I got rid of my Facebook 2 years ago because of this reason and how distracting it is to my daily life. I have indulged in snapchat but even still I consider getting rid of it. Social media really makes you forget about what's important. With snapchat it's the same thing though. Snaps of food, clothing, animals. Sometimes it nice to show a picture of something remarkable that means a lot to you, but there's some friends of mine who do nothing but "brag".

                [–]DogInTheBath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                My own solution was to delete my facebook 3-4 years ago. A lot of my friends imagine having some sort of separation anxienty from getting rid of it but it made no difference to my social life whatsoever.

                It helped me cut out a lot of junk reading and allowed me to concentrate on other things that improve my life.

                [–]basilwhite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                The alumni magazine has become a ubiquitous, living record of achievement bragging.

                Rise above.

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                I think most comments have addressed this pretty well, but let me chime in, the best way to use social media in my opinion:

                1) have a barebones profile, and don't post on it. Some of you say let yourself be tagged, but I don't like the idea of embarrassing pictures of me being tagged so I have that turned off, alternatively you could set it to approve first, which might be a better option.

                2) do not install the Facebook app on your phone. You'll waste tons of time and you'll be going on it more than you like. I only have Messenger on my phone, because I genuinely find Facebook messages to be the most useful feature.

                3) use twitter wisely. It's far more valuable than Facebook if you follow the right people. I recommend you don't use twitter for personal uses, keep it strictly professional.

                [–]matisseman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                I fucking needed this today. Thanks. Let's keep this conversation going.

                [–]atariStjudas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                This is one of the best reddit post I have came across. I do believe social media has become a perpetual one upmanship game. Somehow our perception of reality has become distorted. Are we really happy? How can one advance if their daily life is constant indulgence worship? It all makes sense in the end they are not fooling anyone. The deception has been found out. Like a fake sleeping selfie.

                [–]Scymnus 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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                Good post, but I really disagree with the last part. It's not especially RP to just do whatever the fuck you want, then we would all be playing xbox and watching porn all day which is way more comfortable. TRP is about playing the game and winning it, and social media is a tool that can be used to further your agenda. If you are a social and interesting person girls will pick up on this, and pictures with hot girls really helps your pre-selection. I agree that you shouldn't feel bad because other people seem to be doing a lot of awesome shit, but if you're playing the social media game you might want to consider how interesting you are compared to those guys.

                [–]HAMMURABl 8 points9 points  (1 child)

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                TRP is about playing the game and winning it, and social media is a tool that can be used to further your agenda.

                no... TRP is telling you "if you want to win the game, these are rules it is played by and this is how you can win."

                i think it is perfectly legitimate i one says "fuck these rules, i go play xbox instead."

                [–]Scymnus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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                If you're not going to play the game you have nothing to do in this sub. You're not wrong, you just added an "if" to my statement which makes it redundant.

                [–]willieYodel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                http://www.facebookdetox.com/ is a great blog about how Facebook isn't really a necessary pursuit, and in the blog owner's opinion, damaging.

                I think it can be a useful tool for messaging, organising meetups and events. It's also useful as a tool to sign into other websites where it is supported, meaning less remembering of usernames and passwords.

                Beyond that, there is little to no merit for a lot of people. They just don't realise it. I have a friend who was diagnosed with a cancerous brain tumour about 7 years ago, had it removed, and is now in remission. He posts on Facebook a lot, complaining about how he is disabled, can't do much with life, is poor, etc (apparently he can afford a massive TV and subscribe to additional channels, can regularly afford). I really think Facebook is a detriment to him. He could be using his time constructively. He has a computer, he could learn to make a living from it with freelance work.

                I wouldn't personally go as far as to completely remove Facebook, as it can be useful like I described above. I am a lot more wary of my use now though. I don't often go on it, and I don't really feel like it. I have actually hidden many people I know from my news feed because I don't need to see it. I'd rather judge them on what they say and how they act in real life.

                [–]Cutiekins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Actually, social media is a very valuable tool.

                Take Facebook, for example. You can create lists of users with different access rights when it comes to viewing your profile. You can also set up access requirements of almost every individual item on your profile. Don't want that valuable, but ragingly leftist connection see that you enjoyed "Ride the Tiger" and "Men Among the Ruins"? Put him in the "Leftshit" group and hide the books from that group only. This way you can be a different person to everyone.

                You can also avoid "Liking" pages by instead adding them to interest lists. Organise those lists by topic and then if you are looking for a job lets say, you can look at a list that has all the pages that regularly post open vacancies. This also allows you to avoid looking too unorthodox or whimsical if someone snoops your profile.

                But lets get to the problem that OP describes. How do we get rid of those obnoxious fuckers spamming your timeline with all the worthless bullshit? Well, it's simple. You can unsubscribe from people while still being their friend. I do this with 95% of people I know. If you're smart, you can also add them to lists according to what you use those people for. This is also why you should "friend" everyone. You can easily restrict their access while getting the preselection bonus due to the huge amount of friends you have.

                This is not all, of course. It's just important to remember that anything and anyone can be used. "How can I use this?" is the first question you should be asking regardless of the situation.

                [–]1121895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Yep. Most recent post is some chick taking a picture of a boat and beach and shit saying "Average view for lunch"

                Subtle. Lol.

                [–]Z-Coordinate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                The only reason I use Facebook is to find out whenever is a party or an important event.

                [–]Mymobileacoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Use Facebook for business like a boss

                [–]comefromspace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                It is truly sad to see that kind of competition, especially from people you know, and you know they could use their time for more deep rewards thatn a shitty piss contest. I have to use facebook because my work depends on it; lately when i load the homepage, i cover the feed with my hands. I don't want to see it, it's sad.

                [–]MrMagwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                .

                [–]chakravanti93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                I'd like to point that not everything really has to be competitive to have value in communication. People sharing updates about themselves to people who care isn't an inherently egotistical act.

                That said, I'll quickly concede that those most insecure about the truth about themselves engage the social fabric of competitive measure by marketing themselves strongly and so sweep the value notion drama forward and giving the rest us something to read about.

                Like Jerry Springer, except it's crowdsourced and guests host themselves but nobody gets a free trip to Chicago.

                If your too serious about the banter of competency it becomes revealing in and of itself unless competition is at or brought to hand. So, to temper oneself, consider that often people just enjoy sharing about themselves because they enjoy the people in their life or at least they're trying to because they value them and you have to at least respect that. It's not untrue inherently, but it will simply be more true with some people and ESI is not partilularily informative toward calculation of all the motivrs of large groups of people.

                The function of the ego at supremecy of the soul cannot assume such of others and remain competent even if it may evoke it.

                [–]h_b_b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                How about the "_______ tickets booked!" post. The only possible purpose of this is to advertise what a cool trip someone's just planned in their oh-so-awesome life. Without bragging, of course.

                [–]strivingforfreedom 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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                Fantastic points sir. Couple suggestions for dealing with social media. -If the post serves only the poster, it is deemed validation whore bullshit. -If it's validation whore bullshit, respond kooky.
                -Do this enough and people will do 1 of 2 things, they will ask why you keep writing kooky to which you respond that you write that on all bullshit posts, or they will block you. Win-Win.

                [–]strivingforfreedom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Forgot to add, just unfollow everyone on your list, and for the hardcore, unfriend everyone making social media completely pointless.

                [–]JGH8763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Social media just allows for a hyper-evolution of already existing human dynamics. There's no sense in trying to avoid it. Technology is going to provide avenues for this hyper-evolution regardless. FB, Twitter, IG, SnapChat - more/better avenues will keep being created. Avoid them all, and you're out of the loop, unaware of what kind of shit is actually going on in the world these days. Hook-up culture can't be studied in science labs, but can be studied by being in certain social media loops.

                Social media does tend to favor the female mating strategy more, though - attract as many males as possible into one area, allow them to compete, and filter through them. The male mating strategy would be to isolate the female and seduce her, which is not really possible on social media. You can PM her, but she has a hundred guys PMing her every day, so you need to do a lot to stand out.

                Regarding the hyper-evolution of already existing human dynamics, it's really crazy. Social media will cement these dynamics into your mind if they haven't been already. Females, if they even post a few moderately attractive photos, and nothing else on their profile, will receive 50-100 friend requests / messages per day from various men they don't even know, whereas men need to try really hard to get friends and messages, even if they're very physically attractive and have worked hard to create a good profile (unless they're famous or something). I know because I've created a fake female profile before as an experiment. It was obviously fake, and I've never in my life experienced a sense of abundance like that. All from just a few photos of some girl which were only moderately good-looking. There was nothing else on my profile. And girls who I had requested as myself accepted this fake profile but not mine. Girls are more attractive than men. It really gave me a sense of the kind of life women live vs. the kind of life men live - massive abundance vs. massive scarcity, to a shocking degree.

                Social media is just that - another medium. The dynamics which exist on it are the same dynamics that existed at the local watering hole in pre-historic times, the same dynamics that exist at the bar or club in modern times, etc., etc. It's unavoidable. If you're attractive, it's going to be awesome, if you're unattractive, it's going to suck. This great competition - the game - is going to exist whether it's on social media or elsewhere. Attractive people (roughly 80% of women, 20% of men) will enter an upward spiral of abundance and sexual success, unattractive people (roughly 20% of women, 80% of men) will enter a downward spiral of scarcity and sexual failure. Way of the world, always will be.

                Diregard other guys news feeds as highlight reels if you want, but the fact is that they're attractive and you're not. And attraction/attractiveness is everything in life.

                [–]CornPlanter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Any of you check Facebook or Twitter anymore?

                Never had a Facebook account, couldn't figure what's in it for me. As for twitter yes I do use it and check it constantly. It's a matter of what people you follow. Among the ones I follow, nothing remotely similar to what you posted happens.

                [–]DirectEdge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                this phenomenon isn't exclusive to only women. just sayin'

                [–]bbbbbubble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                No, this has been evident long before social media came into existence.

                Keeping up the Joneses, it was called.

                [–]t21spectre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                The Facebook you and the real you

                90% of people on Facebook.

                [–]captshady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Don't forget "OMG! I'm on vacation at an awesome place", and "Look what my honey just bought me!!"

                [–]gettingoldernotwiser -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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                Even if all you say is true, so what?

                Everything in life is competition. We're not here on TRP because we dislike competing; we're here because we realized that the rules we were given and the criteria by which we were being judged were inconsistent. With that slight change in perception, all of a sudden we have a better idea of how the game is played and can therefore act accordingly.

                There's nothing inherently wrong about using Facebook to post how good your life is; you just have to understand what picture of yourself you're putting out there. Depending on your circle of friends, "bragging" about your accomplishments can either make you look awesome or douchey. Either is fine as long as its what you want.

                If you want to use your friends' perceived perfect life as a driving force to improve your own, then go for it. If you yourself want to live an awesome life and force it down everyone else's throat then more power to you. If you want to "fake" an online life because your's kinda sucks then have a ball.

                Swallowing TRP doesn't mean you have to live an alpha life. You can live beta or delta or gamma or whatever the hell greek alphabet suits your personality. What TRP does is open your eyes to the differences, expecting that once you know how things really are, you'll choose the path which benefits you the most, regardless of what everyone else is doing.

                [–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

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                quit being a bitch and complaining. go live the life you want, post pics if you want and leave your ego at the door. I see all the shit too, people bragging and posting so many fucking pictures, girls complementing each other but they're full of shit.

                get over it and live your life

                [–]2asd1100 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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                A persons facebook page is basically RMV advertising. Use it acordingly, it isn't intrisically evil, you can use it however in a wrong way.

                Set it up like a RMV CV, and forget about it, when you change phones download the photos and update your profile with PG14 photos about how awesome your life is. The end.

                [–]Drogoe -1 points0 points  (1 child)

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                Nailed it. I'm not sure they realise how transparent and puketastic it is to those of us with basic discernment or metacognition.

                It's worth remembering, as you pointed out, these are highlight reels, not the main showing; apparently watching FB feeds can make people depressed because it's so easy fall prey to the statistical illusion that everyone is living like that all the time.

                [–]FearlessBurrito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Living like what? Going out and doing stuff? Not that hard. OP didn't give an example of anything particularly amazing or exciting.

                [–]justmythr0waway -1 points0 points  (1 child)

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                I removed myself from Facebook a while back. I got tired of always reading about this persons relationship problems or that persons shitty drive to work. Not too mention I was just wasting time checking the damn thing on a regular basis.

                In convinced MySpace, Facebook, twitter, etc are ruining lots of younger people these days. Get off your phone, out of your house and do something for a change. How many likes you get on your status isn't going to matter 30 years from now. That random guy you met while out walking your dog one day that ends up being a life long friend or the life experiences that help build your character will.

                [–]MrMagwitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                .

                [–]1Zackcid -4 points-3 points  (1 child)

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                That girl in the bikini seriously must have had a killer life with those big titties and pretty face. During my low periods, I sometimes find getting jealous at these women for how generous and easy life is to them just because she won the genetic lottery.

                [–]willtopower2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Not sure why this is being downvoted. It's sort of a pity party I guess, but it's stone cold RP truth.

                [–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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                It is a game, you play or you don't. I am not sure why you are venting, it is like venting at basketball because of what it is. Are you upset that the world isn't what you perceived it to be, because that is pretty closed-minded.

                [–]apackofwankers -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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                As someone who travels the world, Facebook has been a godsend keeping in touch with people.

                Someone I met in the Dominican Republic 8 years ago, spent New Years with me in India. I knew they were in India because of Facebook.

                Mind you, I mostly post philosophical stuff, science stuff, and anti-pseudoscience stuff. People hate it when I refute their bullshit - I get accused of trolling and people delete me. I see it as a badge of honour.

                I NEVER "like" selfies or other attention whoring shit. I NEVER fawn over women on fb.