Reading this comment thread has been absolutely hilarious. Guys telling it like it is in a default sub and actually getting upvoted, then a bunch of aging ex-sluts start crying and whining about how immature the men are and how scared they are that they will be alone forever.
Streamlining the highlights of the comment thread below:
Unless you're a guy. Then you just date girls in their 20's.
As much as my gf hates me (playfully) when I say it...as a guy my stock continues to increase after 25 as long as I don't fuck up my life whereas a woman's stock tends to go down if she was reliant on just her looks.
"Men age like wine, women age like milk."
Here's where it gets interesting!
As a girl, this thread is scaring the crap out of me.
I would be happy to date a woman in her 30s (I'm in my 30's), if she bothered to develop anything about herself in her 20s, other than more notches on her bedpost. For now though, the mental development of most of the women I meet in their 30's, is on par with a girl in her early 20's. I might as well go for the younger one, all else being equal.
When that fades, and it will, what you bring to the table as an adult will actually matter.
In your 20's, guys chase after girls. In your 30's, girls chase after guys.
You are going to go from a buyers market, to a sellers market.
Prepare yourself now, and you will be fine.
Honestly for me (32F, single)...most of the time I just decide I'll opt out entirely. I know I'm attractive and an interesting nice person...but when I read stuff like your comment I just want to not even think about dating. Stay at home with a vibrator and some good porn. I have a great job, can pay my own bills and can get my sexual kicks online.
This entire thread has really opened my eyes to how men really think, honestly. Idk its all really discouraging and I don't blame you. Honestly, you don't need anyone, especially not a disgusting bigot with this type of mindset. Unfortunately, clearly a lot of people think this way as you can read here, so maybe you are right, dating isn't worth it.
KEEP THEM HAMSTER WHEELS SPINNING!!!
Honestly, as a 27F trying to make it out into the dating world after a pretty bad relationship, this thread almost brought me to tears. It almost confirmed a lot of my fears about how many men actually think and perceive women. Being closer to my 30's makes me so sad to read these comments. But hey..I guess it's nice to get a reality check and where else than the wonderful world of reddit.
This thread is really bad. I haven't seen anything this bad in awhile. So few voices calling out the hate. I guess this is just the way things are to most men.
I swear to you, I almost started crying as I scrolled down all of these horrendous comments. Then, just then, I found this little cluster of women and I literally imagined all of us hugging each other because OMG! If this is a slight representation of what is out there then I am terrified. What happened to human value? To personality? To humility and respect? Did men just come to an agreement to devalue women according to their age? This is all very, very sad. This was a sad night.
Don't forget this is reddit so it skews towards a certain kind of demographic. I think a lot of it is a sort of faintly misogynistic glee...men have the weight on them to pursue women, ask them out etc.. It's a stressful thing I can imagine and they spend their 20s with pressure on them to get laid as much as possible.
So there's a sort of enjoyment in being able to harp on about how men have it better as they age...like we don't realise when our career prospects are curtailed, we have to take on the burden of child-birth/child-rearing and then we're also told our age somehow invalidates our sexual worth.
I just find it exhausting as an intelligent woman in my 30s to realise men think this way.
LET'S FINISH THIS OFF WITH A BANG!
You don't have a choice. Nobody is dating you already for a reason.
Me, I'll be just fine. Me and my 'bigoted' ways of being repulsed by an entitlement attitude that you are owed something without having done anything to deserve it, instead of what you look like, or the color of your skin...
You seriously don't see the problem, do you?