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[–]porcia918 110 points111 points  (20 children)

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Awesome story. You set the tone for the entire relationship on that day.

This is what RP is truly about - getting due Respect and fair treatment - not all the negativity that so many people think RP is.

[–]Evers89 66 points67 points  (19 children)

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The negativity is partly related to guys still stuck in anger towards women. Lately that noise has been getting pretty bad.

I agree that this is first and foremost what RP is supposed to teach you. Earning your respect.

Hating women for being women is beating the dead horse at this point.

[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 17 points18 points  (11 children)

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That's just due to the stages about rp. If you really look at it the hate that we have here is directed at men and not women. When we first take in the info here we get pissed off "How dare she do that to me!" Then after a bit we realize we were the ones to fuck up (for the most part) and think "How dare I do that to myself."

Also I think it's kind of weird how everyone picks up on the dislike for women's shit but if you listen to how much we hate betas people would realize that we hate most guys way more than we hate women here. But no one mentions that we hate men for being pathetic chumps and perpetuating the blue pill mind set.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (9 children)

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I tried to get that point across in an ask redditt thread earlier and lost a couple hundred karma. All my fucks were given.

[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 14 points15 points  (4 children)

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We are the boogeymen of reddit at the moment. I got brigaded by a few subs the other day and lost a hundred or so too. It kind of makes me laugh a bit. When someone is ready they will understand. Until then they will just point and laugh.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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Yea I really couldn't care less about karma on default subs. Everybody likes to be recognized by their peers but I'm learning that fewer and fewer of the people I interact with are actual peers.

[–]chunkit1234 7 points8 points  (1 child)

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The truth we share and have found here scares the shit out of the ignorant masses and theyll fight with everything they have to maintain their idea of a gender equal utopia. Sometimes i wish people would listen but most of the time i realize that its something theyre going to have to learn on their own and that they have to be allowed to fall so they can learn to pick themselves up.

[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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A sad truth for sure.

[–]2 Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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I like to keep pushing it, karma on here means jack shit. Brigade all they want, I don't give a fuck. Say I am lying about group fucks and three ways, I don't give a fuck when bitches are sucking my cock. Its a website, most people here are blithering idiots in sheep mode, following along hopping into echo chambers to stroke their ego.

[–]TfahsNoriEht -4 points-3 points  (3 children)

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Maybe you should stop brigading other subreddits then

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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so I can't offer my opinion on a completely separate discussion. I'll have to remember that... seriously fuck you. My opinion is not a brigade particularly when it's a subredditt I'm subscribed to in a discussion I"m involved in.

[–]MrsStrom 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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Lately that noise has been getting pretty bad.

We've been mentioned/linked in a few other subs lately and have a big influx of new members. Men are rightfully pissed when they first learn the truth. They feel betrayed and deceived. They need to work through these feelings to come out the other side as RP.

[–]feelsbeforereals 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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You're also wrong about one thing. I may seem like I hate women, but thinking very little of people and hating them is very different. Having very little respect towards women is different from hating them as well. Respect is earned and sorry to say but most women haven't earned mine.

[–]public-masturbator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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It is getting a little noisy lately with that kind of crap. Being frustrated is normal, but it should be very brief and followed by proactive self-improvement--otherwise, you end up being a butthurt, still-beta.

[–]mo_dingo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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I agree that this is first and foremost what RP is supposed to teach you. Earning your respect.

Hating women for being women is beating the dead horse at this point.

I would call it self hate or fear, since they are too scared to assert their needs for fear of rejection.

which is why this sub reddit exists; to prove that happiness lies by our own actions and not the acquisition of some female unicorn. and, as counter intuitive as some may see it, your own pursuit of happiness ends up making relationships stronger.

you can't make women happy, only yourself and those who wish to walk the same path as you do may find happiness alongside.

[–]Sufferix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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This. I can't make a post about it because guide lines but a majority of posts are crying or mocking; basically all shit irrelevant to TRP.

[–]Kharn0 27 points28 points  (7 children)

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Now, someone correct me if I'm wrong, but in this situation I would've made a remark like, (In reference to her constant texting) "family emergency? No? Then turn it off" would this have had the same effect?

[–]THISISnotAREP0ST[S] 13 points14 points  (6 children)

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I see what you mean, since we were in the infancy of our relationship, I didn't want to come off as needy or controlling. I took this route since I felt that this would be best way to display my point. Now that we've been together, I wouldn't have a problem addressing it directly.

[–]Gfresh405 18 points19 points  (0 children)

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Couldn't you have just said, "Are you are on a date, or are you on your phone?" I don't think that comes off as needy.

If I'm with someone I expect their full attention - it's a matter of respect, not neediness.

[–]Kharn0 4 points5 points  (1 child)

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And you did hint at it, what were the hints?(I have trouble not being bluntly direct)

[–]THISISnotAREP0ST[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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I'm trying to remember specifics but this happened almost a decade ago. This was before the smart phones were the norm so she was using a regular phone to type out the texts, I remember I asked her how she didn't get frustrated typing out so many text messages on the 10 digit keyboard, at one point I also mentioned how much she must be spending on a texting plan since she sends a lot of texts. I made sure to make it the center of attention at least at some point during the queues. Since she wasn't getting the hint/ or purposefully putting me through her shit test. I decided to act instead of taking it.

[–]nimic1234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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didn't want to come off as needy

So you stormed off without saying anything. Makes sense.

[–]BluepillProfessor 16 points17 points  (1 child)

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The stuff of Unicorn lore right there folks! Is it possible these rare beasts can be created by reasonable boundary setting and a man leading the way?

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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/r/redpillwomen seem to think so.

[–]chunkit1234 26 points27 points  (7 children)

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I did something similar to my wife years ago. We were in a store and she just kept being an asshole. I finally said fuck off and walked out of the store got in the truck and (because the beta in me worried about her safety) drove to the far side of the parking lot across the street, just far enough where i could keep an eye on the door to the store for when she came out. After a while she called to see where i was. I told her at home. She freaked out, "how am i supposed to get home?" I said something about not giving a shit and to not come home until she could learn to treat me with respect. She called her dad and i watched her on the phone with him and waiting until he got there. I watched him pick her up to make sure she wasn't abducted or some shit and followed them home from afar. She had to explain what happened. Im pretty sure he set her straight about it because he doesn't put up with shit from the mother in law and he took her to the our house instead of theirs. she kept her damn head straight after that...for the most part at least.

[–]Gfresh405 32 points33 points  (6 children)

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because the beta in me worried about her safety

I wouldn't call that beta - that's more genuine concern.

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    [–]1johnnight 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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    It's beta if you allow other people to use and abuse you because of your idealism. E.g. a doormat cares about other people. Too much.

    [–]Gfresh405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    Right - the key is balance

    [–]chunkit1234 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

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    depends on your point of view. While I'm sure most would classify my action of putting my foot down and telling her to get her head out of her ass or don't come home as "alpha as fuck breh", there i was still more concerned about her well being that my own respect even though she was being a thundercunt and didn't really deserve it. To me thats beta behavior.

    [–]drrtyfrrnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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    Women can and do get home safely from their walks of shame just fine, they don't need anyone to watch over them at all hours.

    [–]chunkit1234 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

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    Hell im sure you could spin my concern being alpha since i was in control. It could also be spun as me being a beta pussy since i didnt just go home, pack up her shit and divorce her.

    [–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

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    [–]1pcadrian 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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    "Since you seem to be more interested in the person you have been texting all morning, you should have them pick you up." I then hung up.

    HIGH FIVE

    [–]dale0607 26 points27 points  (0 children)

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    This was absolutely beautiful. This hits home for me as the girl who had me swallow the red pill did this to me. I'd mention how rude it was initially, but then ended up eating shit and accepting it like a beta. I love your response to the situation, completely brilliant.

    [–]16 Endorsed ContributorTRPsubmitter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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    I had something similar happen to me. I basically conditioned an ex-gf. She would pull out her phone in bed. I got fed up and decided whenever she did that next, I would simply make her leave.

    All it took was once and she never did it again. All it takes is the effort of one time and it definitely works.

    [–]16 Endorsed Contributorbankruptedcasino 10 points11 points  (1 child)

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    I like your style.

    [–]THISISnotAREP0ST[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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    Thank you!

    [–]heist_of_saint_graft 3 points4 points  (2 children)

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    You pitched a no-hitter your first time on the mound. For this girl, you'll always be a first-ballot hall-of-famer.

    [–]FinalEquin0x -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

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    Nah. He was down a point in the end of the first inning.

    He brought it home afterwards. A grand slam with the laughing off of the other friend's request to have him apologize.

    [–]RG68 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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    He bowled a googley woogley on his first set on centre court and stumped her wickets for a try with successful conversion.

    Source: British.

    [–]MSoftHarem 3 points4 points  (2 children)

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    Who was she texting?

    [–]THISISnotAREP0ST[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

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    From what she has told me, she was texting some "friends".

    I never pushed it beyond that, since I didn't feel comfortable asking if they were male or female (nor did I really want to know), the outcome would of been the same.

    [–]gg_s 13 points14 points  (0 children)

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    Her actual friends have names and stories. She wastes no opportunity to talk about them.

    A "friend" and nothing more = a guy

    [–]Wraithwain 6 points7 points  (1 child)

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    Did you ever find out who she was texting so much that day?

    [–]gg_s 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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    It doesn't matter.

    [–]jjshinobi 4 points5 points  (2 children)

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    How would you have dealt with a white night mutual friend calling your move immature and irresponsible?

    [–]THISISnotAREP0ST[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

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    The truth is that my response was immature, I could have handled the issue completely different, but I highly doubt I would have had the same response. Now irresponsible it was not, since she was at one of the safest place on the planet and she had a way of reaching out to someone to get her.

    [–]theDUNGwalker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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    Does anybody else think he went a bit far, or just me?

    [–]KnopflerisGod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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    "She had your mutual friend call you as an attempt to turn the tables."

    Goddamn, the shit tests really do never end. Great story, thanks for sharing.

    [–]xpop2027 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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    Awesome, just AWESOME!

    [–]demoneyes905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    Best part of the story? Your TL;DR

    [–]JD42305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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    When I had absolutely no idea what I was doing when it came to girls, I let one girl text throughout our date. No question I would never put up with that now, and although I learned from it if I could just go back in time and either leave her there or change our order to go and drop her ass off. It kills me how pathetic I was.

    [–]puddipuddipuddip -5 points-4 points  (4 children)

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    Does no one here see this example as a little over the top? Personally I couldn't leave anyone stranded for something that matters so little. Call her out on it and move on, if she doesn't get the picture then end the date early, take her home, and next her.

    [–]gg_s 5 points6 points  (2 children)

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    His boldness made all the difference. No doubt she was pissed about being stranded. But the angrier she gets, the more she has to think about once the anger subsides. She needed the jolt to recognize her fuck-up. Up to that point, incessant texting was perfectly acceptable by her date's acquiescence.

    If her texting is a little matter, you probably don't value your time as much as you should. She can text on her time. During a date, she's on your time and should be spending it with you. To do otherwise is wasteful and insulting, except to the low-value man whose time comes cheap and easy.

    [–]puddipuddipuddip -1 points0 points  (1 child)

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    True and to me it would matter so I would definitely call her out on it. Would being upfront about how it was disrespectful not be enough?

    [–]gg_s -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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    I wish it were, but you have to show her you mean business. Women talk a whole lotta shit. They have mastered the empty threat. You can't beat her at her own game. Once she experiences your willingness to walk away, the game is up. She will either take you seriously or watch you walk. Either way, you win.

    [–]talkr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    I think the point is that disrespect does not grant them any sort of relief or positive treatment at all. What you are suggesting may be a little embarrassing, but it answers the question in their mind of how they will be treated if they fuck up. A ride home, being their main concern, is still awarded to them.

    They need to feel that bad behavior around you puts them in a bad spot. It's similar to how you train a dog to stop shitting in the house.

    [–]Red_pill_noob -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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    Awesome story. Thank you sir, you made me smile on this lonely valentines day...

    [–]TheToeSnail 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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    Something about this story just sounds fake.

    Call me skeptical, but I've read enough made up stories on 4chan to be able to identify a fabrication.

    [–]TfahsNoriEht -1 points0 points  (1 child)

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    People who read 4chan are known for their aptitude in analyzing social situations.

    [–]TheToeSnail -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

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    Ohhh you sound so edgywitty!

    [–]bleh321 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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    I have had a similar experience with my gf except I called her out on it and set my boundaries of respect regarding phone usage around me.

    She apologised and later explained that she would grab her phone and scroll through texts of nothing because she was shy/nervous at the beginning. Still disrespectful for me however.

    She has never done it since setting the expectation early on!

    [–]Florist_Gump -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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    Even though I'm married, it doesn't mean that red pill tactics are off the table.

    I'd phrase this in a slightly different manner, its not so much the "tactics" are still in play in a marriage as its the red pill philosophy. The tactics are a mere subset of the mindset, anyone can use redpillism to get laid without understanding how it works just like anyone can use a cellphone without having the faintest clue of how the technology functions. For a LTR its more important to understand the whys and hows.

    Hope that doesn't come across as nitpicky to the OP, its more intended as a slight modification for any readers.

    [–]Swifthand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    Lying about your intentions and taking off strikes me as passive-aggressive. It's immature.

    I would've just asked her to leave her cell in the locker as well.

    [–]JD42305 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

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    Can you explain why happened in the couple of weeks between her asking for you to give her another chance and you agreeing? Were you in contact in that time? Or did you agree after not talking to her for two weeks?

    [–]THISISnotAREP0ST[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

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    I didn't bother contacting her at all, I wanted her to think that I didn't have time for her shit. When I called her I agreed to go again.

    [–]CallMeMrBadGuy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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    Nice stuff. This is a great and the outcome independence and freezing out really works well if you realize. It's likely one of the most powerful tool for when there is some iota of emotional attraction/investment. I dont think I wouldve had the balls to straight strand someone* but I've done smaller scale. Particularly when some chick I took out was grinding and doing all sorts of dirty and then tried to play the cute "hard to get" bullshit of rebuffing my makeouts when we were already past the point. So, I just at that moment. Put her ass on ice. Went to zero fun (for her), gave simple nonexpanding ending answers yes/no (especially funny because of the few women I've met that actually know how to maintain a conversation she was the worst so it's like megamultiplier on here), went to my house, went to sleep. Next morning, left early went to the gym. I do several hours at the gym, like 7-8 sometimes, didnt even text her. Already had her as she'll crawl back or be nexted simple as that. Of course, she crawled back. Sent me a Facebook message apologizing and all some bullshit. I said "We good" or something flippantly. Few days later I helped her "move". Fucked her. That was that.

    *actually I remembered me and this awesome Scandinavian dude were vacationing and we met other vacationers and were doing a pub crawl and hitting a club. Two British chicks (one not even all that) playing the same "work for me Im important, Im a woman" game (guess which one imparticularly). Talking, dancing and grinding, staving off AMOGs, sexually escalating, the normal shit all night. Then they ended up doing the two girls go to the bathroom together while we look dumb twiddling our thumbs. Maybe he sensed and didnt like games either (apparently girls are upfront in his country) but he said let's ditch em. We did. Didnt get to hit it, though as they were leaving the next day. Though, it feels great to put em on their head.

    [–]AlmostRP -4 points-3 points  (2 children)

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    "California 8" you need to move to Texas. The taxes are lower, spousal support replaces alimony, and we prefer making money over whatever regulation you have...

    That being said, having heard your story, congratulations.

    [–]TfahsNoriEht -1 points0 points  (1 child)

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    You also have to live in the desert next to Mexico. No thanks

    [–]AlmostRP -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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    Texas has deserts, but that's not even a third of the state.

    [–]I_PUNCH_HORSES -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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    Essence of RP philosophy. good on you mate.

    [–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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    Hits home for me. I did this less aggressively when my wife and I started dating 6 years ago.

    Now that she wants a separation, the CONSTANT texting has picked up again. We aren't dating, so I'm not in a position to call her out on it. Do I just accept that she is gone?

    [–]jcslzr -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

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    she was obsessed with him after that...why? because he was unique in that he did not take shit for anybody, i bet in her eyes, everybody else was a blue piller loser who did not have the balls this guy had, that is why she became obsessed with him, she had found a true men

    [–]tstrick17 -5 points-4 points  (2 children)

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    This is possibly one of the most fucked up things I've ever read. Just because she's texting someone doesn't mean she was "setting up her next booty call". If you seriously believe that then that automatically makes you feel inferior. Have fun living the rest of your life with that state of mind

    [–]Rasta_Platypus 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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    Sorry dumbass, this is reality. You don't have to like it but you better get fucking used to it and stop being such a piss-on beta sympathizer. Good luck ever having a healthy relationship with a woman, or getting laid for that matter.

    [–]quantum14 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

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    So... before you bailed, you took all your from stuff the locker - and left her purse? Those rental lockers only have one key, and once you are done they are left unlocked for the next person to use. So you either left her stuff completely unlocked or you're fantasizing here...