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[–]noblepaladin 113 points114 points  (8 children)

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The guy pays for everything. The moment the girl proved that she is not LTR material, the only rational decision is to recognize the sunk cost and move on. Future time and money is better spent looking for a new girlfriend. Even if the girl doesn't cheat, the guy knows that he will not marry her. She is sexually unsatisfied and he no longer feels the same way about her knowing she prefers other men.

The only reason why a guy would try to salvage the relationship is if he is so bad that he cannot possibly find another woman. Wouldn't surprise me if that is the point of view that many of the responses are coming from.

[–]SFofallplaces 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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The Sunk Cost Fallacy applied to bitches. Word.

[–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 123 points124 points  (27 children)

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This gal was looking for a beta's endorsement of AFBB infidelity. Oops! Guess she got fooled into thinking that something more than 1% of guys would go for such a thing, or that her beta was one of the 1%.

Good thing they sorted that out before marriage and kids....

A musing on the issue generally: Compared to the real world, Reddit seems to have a higher percentage of those who think a polyamorous/cuckold/open lifestyle is one that could actually work well for a large slice of modernity's population, not just the fringe 1-2% that currently expresses that behavior in action. They think of themselves as "sex positive", in the sense that they think those sorts of arrangement will lead to more satisfied people having more sex with more people. Everyone wins, in their minds, and all we have to do is overcome socially-programmed issues of jealousy.

The fact that jealousy and sexual behavior might be very hard-wired, and that a man's typical reaction to sexual infidelity might be similarly hard-wired, is something they will not generally accept. The fact that things like homosexuality and heterosexual acceptable of committed females having multiple sex partners outside the primary relationship hovers in the low single digits should serve as a cause for slowing down and thinking hard about it.

Almost no redditor would argue that homosexuality or heterosexual orientation is a choice. Why would they argue, then, that a very widespread heterosexual disinterest in cuckolding or some such would only be a social gender construct, etc. etc?

I never get a good answer to that question when tossing it out there to "sex positive" polyamory pushers who opine that it is patriarchy, not wiring at work.

[–]redpillshadow 77 points78 points  (20 children)

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Reddit also has a high percentage of incels which would do just about anything to get some.

They are probably happy that anything in this case means cuckolding and not scat.

[–]MagicGainbow 28 points29 points  (18 children)

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I dunno, as much as it repels me i'd do scat before cuckolding.

[–]PieroDrawsRandomCrap 40 points41 points  (9 children)

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I've had shit on my dick, I won't deny it. I've fucked a couple broads in the ass only to pull it out and find shit. It's disgusting but not even CLOSE to being a cuckolded excuse of a man.

[–]17 Endorsed Contributortrudatness 79 points80 points  (4 children)

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You can always wash your cock.

The shame of cuckoldry you can't wash off.

[–]1KyfhoMyoba 8 points9 points  (3 children)

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The shame is what gets them off. I think that cuckoldry is the eroticization of cortisol (stress response), which is like the opposite of testosterone.

[–]Psycho_Delic 4 points5 points  (3 children)

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I dont mind being the bull in someone elses cuckold tho.

[–]PieroDrawsRandomCrap 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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I've done it. The guy never knew though and knowing the guy knows is something I'm not sure I'd like. IMO it's a sickening fetish.

[–]WAFC 20 points21 points  (0 children)

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Yep. I'd rather be literally shit on than metaphorically shit on.

[–]TattedGuyser 14 points15 points  (0 children)

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I've been with plenty of women, so the idea of rubbing one out instead of being used like a tampon is perfectly a-ok to me. But I do remember the early days of being a weird kid not getting any at all, the things I would of done to get some back then. Now imagining that but pushed until 24-25? Shit would suck. They just need to legalize prostitution and you'll have so many wound up youths being able to unload and think clearly.

[–]1exit_sandman 16 points17 points  (2 children)

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The fact that jealousy and sexual behavior might be very hard-wired, and that a man's typical reaction to sexual infidelity might be similarly hard-wired, is something they will not generally accept.

I tend to say on that subject: We aren't the descendants of the guys who got cheated on, but the descendants of the guys who made sure they weren't cheated on.

Natural selection at play: The guy who didn't care what his partner was doing with the other dudes of the tribe had a significantly reduced chance to procreate. The mere fact that we have birth control and DNA tests doesn't change that.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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"Sex positive" usually does not mean that they have a somewhat positive attitude towards sex, it rather means that they can't get to fuck their brains out.

That guy there has a total normal attitude towards sex, which I find fantastic.

[–]1deptii[S] 58 points59 points  (3 children)

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In reference to a post that got deleted in the middle of my reply:

Please help me here: Say, the guy there apologizes to the girl and they make a deal that she won't have sex with the other guy. How does our hero over there curb her fantasy towards fucking the other guy? I mean if a woman develops such a fantasy and tries to act on it I'd assume that even if she says she does not want to cuckold, that fantasy is there somewhere in her mind. Why wouldn't she act on it one day when the possiblity is near???

That's the thing. The cat is out of the bag, so to speak. If he stays with her, but forbids her to sleep with other guys like she wants to, she'll either grow resentful and the relationship will fall apart, or she'll fuck the guy anyway behind her boyfriend's back. Either way, it's best for the guy to cut his losses and GTFO.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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This. Thank you. I somewhat answered it myself, but this puts it better into perspective. Thanks.

[–]aresta 375 points376 points  (121 children)

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is this real life?

This guys girlfriend wants to have sex with other guys while in a relationship with OP...

Is this not the definition of a slut? what guy wouldn't be angry

how fucking retarded is that subreddit?

[–]TheIronViking 47 points48 points  (5 children)

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Do the 'ol gender swap and I bet you can imagine how it'd go over. "hey baby I want to fuck other women, but not like random ones, one specific girl I've been thinking about. I want your blessing on this sweetie."

[–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 39 points40 points  (2 children)

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Even better would be "Hey, baby, I want to form a deep emotional attachment to this one really hot chick. I mean deep. I am going to tell her I love her, give her romantic gifts, and really be there for her when she needs me. I may occasionally be unavailable to you emotionally, and you have to be cool with me leaving sometimes in order to really be there for her as a committed partner."

[–]PlanB_pedofile 15 points16 points  (1 child)

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Times I am amazed by how women can accept their men getting pussy on the side as long as he's still there for her financially and emotionally.

[–]1bicepsblastingstud 335 points336 points  (98 children)

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No, but see, she was honest, so it's okay.

...How the standards for decent behavior have fallen.

[–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 346 points347 points  (41 children)

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A woman in her twenties, who is at the apex of her sexual appeal, wants to open up the possibility of multiple partners, while retaining for herself the benefit of a committed male partner. Because horny.

Now imagine if a guy in his mid-thirties, say, one earning good money and in good shape, approached his now-declining SMV wife with same proposal, after she just gave birth to their kid. Because horny.

I assure you not one of those people bitching at him in that thread would support a guy doing that. His "honesty" would be instead scorned as selfishness. His "expression of feeling" would be identified as deviancy and shameful disregard for her feelings.

The female imperative, gentlemen, otherwise known as Briffault's Law, governs at all times. Your choice is how you interact with its effects. You will not negotiate it away, however, so don't try.

[–]esproductions 34 points35 points  (7 children)

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You should make a post with the reverse situation and see how people respond.

[–]ThePedanticCynic 19 points20 points  (4 children)

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[–]ProjectShamrock 20 points21 points  (3 children)

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Why the hell did Michael Jackson eat with his mouth open? For how much his father beat the crap out of him and his brothers to control them, I'd think chewing with his mouth closed would have been pretty much a slam dunk of basic manners.

[–]rondiculous 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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Absolutely. For science, with an added benefit of entertainment. Any well written takers?

[–]1deptii[S] 59 points60 points  (22 children)

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A very good reverse of the situation. You're right, it wouldn't go down at all.

[–]aresta 59 points60 points  (21 children)

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any normal person would consider either situation to be bat shit crazy. Only the retards of /r/sex would think this way

[–]TehFuggernaut 19 points20 points  (0 children)

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Because if you aren't in to transgendered questionable bodily fluids spurting all over you and your partner in a polyamorous situation, you're a close-minded and judgemental individual.

I'd love to see what some of those /r/sex posters look like. Guaranteed they go to seedy swingers clubs, are all 40+ lbs overweight. You know, the kind where there are 10 pathetic neckbeard dudes to every 1 middle-aged woman.

[–]1whatsazipper 35 points36 points  (18 children)

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In real life I've seen the first situation among 'liberal' crowds. They call it polyamory instead of cuckolding.

[–]evoblade 29 points30 points  (7 children)

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There is a difference. Polyamory means you both get to do whatever you want with whoever you want. Cuckolding means the woman gets to have fun on the side and humiliate the man (intentionally).

[–]1whatsazipper 31 points32 points  (5 children)

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Functionally I've seen it pan out the same. Woman has more sexual options, beta boyfriend goes along with it, ends up feeling humiliated as his girlfriend gets fucked by more attractive men.

Polyamory wraps up the typical case in flowery language.

[–]webdevtool 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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Give /r/polyamory a read, it's exceedingly depressing in exactly the way you describe.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (9 children)

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Well in a proper poly relationship both parties are getting their fuck on and not rubbing it in others persons face. Cuckolding involves a women "humiliating" the dude and the dude getting off on it.

[–]1KyfhoMyoba 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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"Proper poly relationships" ONLY happen when the male is an alpha or has lots of game.

[–]1whatsazipper 7 points8 points  (6 children)

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Cuckolding involves a women "humiliating" the dude and the dude getting off on it.

No, it doesn't. You're referring to the very rare 'fetish', not actual cuckolding.

Cuckold historically referred to a husband with an adulterous wife and is still often used with this meaning. In evolutionary biology, the term cuckold is also applied to males who are unwittingly investing parental effort in offspring that are not genetically their own.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold

By extension it refers to a man investing resources in a woman who is seeking out more attractive men. The biological impetus remains the same. She's seeking better genes elsewhere but relying on him for provisions and security. Technology simply adds a switch by providing a controlled mechanism to the procreation aspect.

[–]Gami_Lon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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I think you are correct, there is definitely a double standard.

[–]hobojimbobo 10 points11 points  (3 children)

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post this on /r/sex asking for advice or something. see what happens.

[–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 28 points29 points  (2 children)

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We already know what would happen. It is like dropping an egg to see if gravity exists.

[–]_JustKnight_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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Beautifully said. While reading that thread it kept bothering me exactly what it was that was making me so furious at all the "tolerant" responses and why they seemed so full of shit. Until you put it into words. Thanks for saving my sanity.

[–]merkmerk73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Your post deserves a rimshot. But all I have is an upvote.

[–]MyDickFellOff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I want to create this topic, just to see it for the reactions.

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar 165 points166 points  (34 children)

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"Hey, just a heads-up, I'm thinking about running over your dog with my car. Is that cool?"

"What the fuck? What kind of person are you? Get out of my life!"

/r/sex: "Hey, you can't get upset! They were being honest.

[–]brain_candy 59 points60 points  (5 children)

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Only if it's a woman running over the dog. A guy is definitely not afforded the same luxury on that sub.

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    [–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 27 points28 points  (2 children)

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    I believe the proper term, when discussing men's sexual proclivities women do not approve of is either "addiction" or "dysfunction". "Disorder" can also be used in place of the latter.

    [–]1whatsazipper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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    Male behaving as a man: Hypermasculinity.

    Man preferring feminine women: Fetish.

    [–]16 Endorsed ContributorTRPsubmitter 26 points27 points  (11 children)

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    This is because "communication" is the last bastion of hope these beta guys hold onto.

    In other words, these beta guys have no other recourse to maintain frame or attract women, so they are left with "communication". If that is somehow proven to be ineffective, then they have nothing.

    That's why so many people defend "communication" as the best way to solve problems. Because they are losers in life and lack any other means (manipulation, dread game, powertalk, etc) to solve their problem.

    [–][deleted] 46 points47 points  (15 children)

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    No, but see, she was honest, so it's okay.

    Woa...it suddenly dawned on me how often the "at least I am being honest" is used as an excuse. And they really think that would make it alright.

    Often used together with "yeah, I made a mistake, but everybody makes mistakes, right? Right? RIGHT?".

    Answer: "No, I don't. Not a stupid mistake like this."

    [–]5 Endorsed Contributorgekkozorz 32 points33 points  (1 child)

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    As if the fact that she's not lying is a special privilege which I should be grateful for.

    [–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

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    Exactly!

    Being honest about a mistake doesnt make the mistake better.

    Lying would just be another shitty thing on top of the mistake.

    [–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 15 points16 points  (3 children)

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    Making mistakes is inevitable.

    What separates the wheat from the fertilizer is (1) identifying a mistake on your own, and accepting responsibility for it, without denying blame, and (2) offering to either fix the mistake, if possible, or provide recompense in a sincere attempt to right a wrong, if a fix is impossible.

    Most people in life seem to think that you get to deny and avoid (1) until the equivalent of Monica's blue dress test results come back from the FBI, demolishing all prior attempts to evade responsibility. And then (2) is not necessary because, in the face of (1) being finally shown, your embarrassment at being caught out as not only a maker of mistakes, but a liar too, is punishment enough.

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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    I agree both (1) and (2) should be the way to handle mistakes.

    Yes, making mistakes is inevitable, but I stand by my "stupid mistakes are evitable".

    The Monica example is a good one. Neither (1) nor (2) matter because having sexual relations with a 5 as one of the most powerful men in the world is a mistake you just don't make.

    [–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 11 points12 points  (1 child)

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    Clinton was banging total A-list women on a regular basis. I have zero doubt about that. Monica was like potato chips. Even if you are eating the best cuisine in the world on a regular basis, you will grab a handful of potato chips to munch on when bored and a bit hungry. You find them somewhat repulsive, but they are also oddly diverting.

    See also Arnold Schwarzenegger and his ugly maid.

    [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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    Who I am to say what an apex alpha craves?

    So, yes...I hadn't thought of that.

    [–]theredpillager 11 points12 points  (5 children)

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    Although, to be honest, this is the advice we give everyone around here too to support our own beliefs and values. Be honest with yourself, know what you want, seek it, get it, repeat. I am extremely honest. Harshly so. I have a reputation for being an asshole as a result. But I'm true to myself. So, really, can I fault her for doing the same? Whether she's right for OP or not is another matter. OP responded exactly as I would...because he too is honest with himself. He knows what he wants, and is not afraid to take the actions required to get it. Good for him, but there is nothing inherently wrong with what she did. She's a female. Everyone should be prepared for this possibility. Even if she isn't telling you, she's thinking it. Audacious of OP's gf? Maybe. Who cares? NEXT!

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    Although, to be honest, this is the advice we give everyone around here too to support our own beliefs and values. Be honest with yourself, know what you want, seek it, get it, repeat.

    Yes that is true.

    There are two things that make this different.

    She wasn't honest. She wanted to sleep with a specific other guy. If she had been honest she would have said "I want to sleep with that guy, but I feel I need your permission." That would have been honest.

    Instead she bullshitted a fetish together in her head where somehow her boyfriend would benefit by it. "I thought maybe it would turn you on if I slept with this guy I really want to fuck. It works for my friends and I thought it might work for us. (Bullshit)"

    She didnt think for a minute that it might turn him on.

    So she was not honest.

    Then there is a problem with using "being honest" as an excuse when you made mistakes.

    When someone makes a mistake he or she should be honest. It's commendable and the only thing you should do.

    But it's stupid to think that being honest about your mistake makes that mistake even slightly better.

    "Yeah, I was cheating on you, but at least I told you. I am being honest."

    Yes being honest is great, but that doesnt make the cheating any better.

    Not being honest would just be another shitty thing on top of cheating.

    So, yes, I am all for honesty, but I hate when people try to lessen their fuck ups by saying "at least I am being honest. You should be thankful!"

    I am extremely honest. Harshly so. I have a reputation for being an asshole as a result.

    Still working on this. I always want to support friends and buddies and think that being too honest might drag them down. I dont really lie to them but emphasize the positive things. So my reputation currently is the go-to-nice-guy who supports everyone.

    Blue pill me is still afraid of losing friends over this. Though I have had positive experiences with being honest about what I expect in the past few weeks, so yes...I am working on it.

    Who cares? NEXT!

    Let's hope he nexts her. Despite the title here, it doesnt seem as if he made up his mind yet.

    [–]theredpillager 7 points8 points  (1 child)

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    Instead she bullshitted a fetish together in her head where somehow her boyfriend would benefit by it. "I thought maybe it would turn you on if I slept with this guy I really want to fuck. It works for my friends and I thought it might work for us. (Bullshit)"

    Decent point, except AWALT. Show me an honest woman. I'm not dismissing her behavior (or maybe I am), but women can and should be counted on to act this way or some shape thereof. My point is the imperative is on men to act, not the other way around. TRP is about acknowledging the differences between the sexes and responding accordingly (which OP did).

    edit: For the record, another point I'm making is that we actually agree.

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    Yeah we agree.

    Hadnt thought of the awalt in this case, tho. Makes sense.

    [–]ont_anon 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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    The difference, though, to be honest, is what TRP Men expect to be held accountable for their "being honest", e.g. your saying that you have a reputation for being an asshole as a result. You are up front with your honesty, knowing that you might get burned at the stake for it, but you're ready to face that firing squad as being the cost of being true to yourself and others.

    When a woman says but I was being honest!, she is using it as a defense, grasping onto it as a last straw. She feels that she should be praised no matter the consequence to others from her honesty, despite people (men?) believing honesty to be a baseline expectation. When a man is honest, which is expected of him, he faces scorn and ridicule. When a woman is honest she expects the utmost praise for it, no matter the consequence to others... coughsolipsism?cough.

    Edit: mixed metaphors, I know...

    [–]mctoasterson 18 points19 points  (1 child)

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    For extra bonus "double standards" hilarity, go into any thread where a guy is looking for advice for trying to politely convince his girlfriend to try anal or swallowing or something. The hivemind will pummel him into the ground as literally Hitler and a rapist.

    But this guy's girlfriend can bark up the "sanctioned cheating" tree as much as she wants because she's just sharing her desires and feelings.

    [–]aresta 28 points29 points  (0 children)

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    Every cuckold thing I read is that the husband is the one who proposes the idea because he gets off to it. The woman proposing hey I want to fuck other guys on your dime while you can't get with anyone else. It's one thing to suggest an open relationship, but this is just beyond me.

    [–]yimanya 21 points22 points  (0 children)

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    An honest slut.

    Reminds me of the joke "Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity".

    [–]darthcamronius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    I agree that it's good she was honest rather than just doing it, but I can't believe she would think that's okay.

    [–]2asd1100[🍰] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

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    Empowered feminist have absolutely no respect for the boundaries of their men.

    They NEED the carousel and they will use the wide acceptance of alternative lifestyles to shame a man into agreeing with her "kinks".

    Most alternative sex scenes are extremely blue pill, women basically run the life of their boyfriends and a few smart alphas basically enjoy a harem of other peoples SOs.

    This is the future of what normal is, socially acceptable alpha fux, beta bux.

    [–]tylertgbh 18 points19 points  (0 children)

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    But it's how she feels so it must be okay.

    [–]17 Endorsed ContributorJP_Whoregan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    Pretty fucking retarded. I honestly feel like I'm losing braincells when I read some of the threads in r/sex, r/relationships, or r/askhamsters.

    [–]Endorsed ContributorAerobus 35 points36 points  (0 children)

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    So, really, call me a jackass for having different values than you, or diagnose me with anger issues for all I care. It just amazes me that people who support polyamorous relationships, as I do for others, could be so obtuse and closed-minded towards people from those who desire monogamous relationships.

    This guy is my hero. He stays true to his values AND calls out reddit on their stupid double standards.

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    r/sex is filled with cuckolded beta guys. Good for the OP in this thread for not caving and also being insightful enough to work out that his GF was probably already cheating on him and just wanted to stop hiding it.

    [–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 147 points148 points  (13 children)

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    If a gal in a committed relationship starts suggesting that, perhaps, opening up the issue of sexual exclusivity is a good idea, and that the parties should be free to have side flings, I suggest that your default position in response should be the following:

    1. Assume she has started an affair with another, is about to, or has the man completely picked out and is fairly confident he too is interested. Do not freak out but instead be calm and relaxed, as you encourage her to express herself more. Eventually, you will get a better sense of what you face in terms of the actual agenda. (And no, the actual agenda is not she is interested in making sure you have a more fulfilling sex life by having sex with other women.)

    2. At present, that other man excites her sexually more than you, because otherwise she would not risk her current relationship for him. Most women do not seek to munch down a burger outside the house when a steak is waiting at home; women always run home for steak. Men, by contrast, will eat a burger, and then steak, without much thinking about the matter. A woman will not knowingly risk losing her steak to have burger. Hence the indirect, sly approach of "opening the relationship", when in fact, the goal more likely is to find out if steak awaits outside the home, and if that steak is better than the one at home.

    3. The sexual relationship is over, she is just seeing what options exist in terms of maintaining the financial and emotional components, either in the short term or long term, depending on her success at having fun outside the relations.

    4. You will experience about 1/1000th of the success at finding outside sex partners as her, unless you are Jared Leto-level of SMV. But in that case, she would not be asking for an open relationship in the first place, because she knows what will happen.

    [–]5 Endorsed Contributorgekkozorz 98 points99 points  (1 child)

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    Yep. ♂

    I've said this before, but it bears repeating: I'll bet you Channing Tatum's wife has never suggested going poly. She knows that the instant she cuts him loose, he'll have about 100 lingerie models number-closed within the hour.

    Hypergamy requires a woman to do two things: 1) get a man's commitment on the lockdown, then 2) see how she can manage to get some side strange.

    If she's trying to get to step 2 with you, that means she's got an idea that step 1 has been completed and she's now testing the waters to see to what extent that is the case. In other words, she's trying to softly coerce you into a relationship where you're in a bux-exclusive role while the fux gets outsourced.

    If a woman thinks bux is all you're good for, she's dead to you. Drop her and move on.

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    [–]insickness 28 points29 points  (1 child)

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    unless you are Jared Leto-level of SMV. But in that case, she would not be asking for an open relationship in the first place, because she knows what will happen.

    Excellent point. The fact that she is asking for this in the first place strongly suggests that she believes you aren't capable of walking out of your house and pulling ass that night or the next night or within a few weeks.

    This is why I believe that the foundation of dread game is the ability to meet other women. If she senses you have very little ability to meet other women (and most guys don't), then you can fake all the dread in the world. If it seems like she's your only option and would be for a long, long time, your dread game won't work.

    [–]1deptii[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

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    Every point is spot on, especially #4. More effort for the man to get a lesser amount of sex that he could get otherwise in a relationship. It's actually one of the very few good reasons for a relationship, is the guarantee of sex.

    [–]2 Mredpillschool 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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    Spot on. Absolutely.

    If she suggests it, it's time to next her.

    [–]68696c6c 1 point2 points  (3 children)

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    I'm curious about what people's thoughts are about a woman looking for sex with other women while in a committed relationship with a man...

    [–]Geldtron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    You will experience about 1/1000th of the success at finding outside sex partners as her

    Sounds about right

    [–]RedSpectrum 57 points58 points  (1 child)

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    Remember y'all, reddit is not filled with your typical demographic. Lots of betas, manginas, and white knights. Practically oozes out of reddit.

    Think of the stereotypes that surrounds reddit and piece them together to get your typical user.

    [–]ManOfGrapes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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    Thank you for reminding me. When I read the OP I had to read it twice to make sure I hadn't misread. Absolutely insane.

    [–]aresta 26 points27 points  (24 children)

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    Good for the OP in this thread for not caving and also being insightful enough to work out that his GF was probably already cheating on him

    Forget cheating on him, who the hell would want a girl that wants sleep with other men even if she is loyal.

    [–][deleted] 47 points48 points  (23 children)

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    It's extremely unlikely that you'll find a girl who truly, honestly does not EVER want to sleep with other men. That's just childish fantasy, pedestaling really. Best you can do is find one who won't act on her desires, but the desire will still be there.

    [–]aresta 12 points13 points  (1 child)

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    My bad I didn't mean it like that. I meant to say has a strong desire to sleep with other men. This woman doesn't just want to sleep with other men she had the audacity, to ask her bf if it was okay. She knew her relationship was in jeopardy if she asked.

    [–]Nimitz87 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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    you must be new, I've read so many stories like this it's shocking how many women want to have their cake and eat it too. TRP has taken the blinders off.

    [–]fopdespotic 196 points197 points  (45 children)

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    Jesus Christ the comments on this. r/sex is a cesspool of degenerates who want to convince everyone that you MUST tolerate their extreme, unusual sexual deviancy and accept it as a normal thing. Not only that, but you should be ashamed of feeling that it is abnormal/unusual or makes you uncomfortable.

    Disgusting.

    [–]1bicepsblastingstud 69 points70 points  (6 children)

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    you MUST tolerate their extreme, unusual sexual deviancy and accept it as a normal thing. Not only that, but you should be ashamed of feeling that it is abnormal/unusual or makes you uncomfortable.

    I've noticed this in a lot of redditors.

    They're so eager to please others, to be "tolerant," that they will do their honest best to rationalize nearly any behavior.

    I've seen redditors excuse all kinds of depravity -- pedophilia, moral shitbaggery, whatever. All under the guise of being "open-minded."

    I'm convinced it has more to do with being such a pussy that you're afraid to be thought poorly of, even by random people on the internet.

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    I'd be willing to bet that many of the redditors that participate on that sub are living vicariously or lying.

    [–]Kubomi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    Heh, that's most of reddit for you.

    [–]16 Endorsed ContributorCyralea 35 points36 points  (8 children)

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    That's the thing with progressivism. When you tolerate everything nothing is forbidden.

    You can't be so open-minded that your brain falls out.

    [–]fopdespotic 9 points10 points  (6 children)

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    I think open-mindedness and being tolerant is a good thing. The problem is with western society is that we don't know where to put a fucking stop to it. There has to be limits on this shit or else we're going to be mindless fuckmonsters in the future having massive orgies and living empty lives while our society is entirely automated and stagnant.

    [–]evoblade 18 points19 points  (2 children)

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    Isn't it funny that the more someone preaches "tolerance" the less tolerant they are?

    [–]nrjk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    For some reason this Nietzsche quote came to mind after reading your comment:

    "Talking much about oneself can also be a means to conceal oneself."

    Many times the loudest critics and protestors are the very thing they're criticizing and protesting.

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      [–]lubeoil 63 points64 points  (4 children)

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      people are fucking idiots.

      A man has ANGER ISSUES, for standing his ground. He's controlling, and she's a fucking SAINT for not cheating on him.

      Western philosophy, women can do no wrong. men are just wrong.

      [–]NAmember81 16 points17 points  (0 children)

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      Same thing in r/relationshipadvice, no matter what the girl does wrong they have a million different explanations as to why shes just a saint that's misunderstood. It has to be a bunch of sour 30ish women giving this advice because their advice after a girl is unfaithful is almost always for the dude to pretty much take his SO out to dinner and pay more attention to her. Fuck a bunch of that nonsense.

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      What's most scary is people being unable to see it.

      [–]MagicGainbow 55 points56 points  (1 child)

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      It's hilarious though, she got greedy and went from living in a place provided by her devoted bf who also pays the blls, to stuff in boxes, a bf that loathes her and back to living with her parents in the space of a day.

      [–]17 Endorsed Contributortrudatness 33 points34 points  (0 children)

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      Game over she lost.

      Thanks for playing.

      [–]IamAwaken 74 points75 points  (6 children)

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      I'm surprised how retarded men/people are and that whole thread really shows this point:

      NO ONE MENTIONS HER FRIEND IS A TOTAL SLUT!

      Seriously look at her friendships guys! If her friend becomes a slut you can't let that shit stand. Women do this to men all the time for the same reason and we hear it everyday. Married man can't hang with his single friends. Especially the players.

      So ya her slut friend is telling her slut stories about cheating and having hot guys while her BF still worships her and knowingly pays for these dates. Don't be naive. Cut that shit off or your girl is likely to become what she associates with.

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        [–]RedPillRedBeard 16 points17 points  (0 children)

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        If they're a good influence, get on their good side, if they are poisonous, slowly convince her to cut those people out.

        I disagree. The friends she chooses are a reflection of her personality. If she chooses to hang out with sluts, you should choose to walk away. If you are trying to chase her friends away, you are no better.

        [–]through_a_ways 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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        Women are much more socially motivated than men.

        [–]1wakethfkupneo 21 points22 points  (3 children)

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        This isn't even Red Pill. Just common sense and basic self respect. And the fuck is wrong with today's girls? She lives in the apartment that he's paying for and still has no shame to pull that. Somebody PM the guy, he belongs here.

        [–]1niczar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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        It's Red Pill in that you've got such troves of betas defending that cunt that what should be open and shut actually results in a debate. "Well sure pedophilia is wrong but it has some valid points."

        [–]Glenbert 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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        This is 2014. This is red pill.

        [–]JustSoha 61 points62 points  (3 children)

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        I was furious. I called her some derogatory terms for a promiscuous female, told her that she can fuck whoever she wants once she gets out of the apartment that I pay for, and suggested that she stay at her parents' house that night. She left in tears.

        i love that guy. n-no homo

        [–]gin- 11 points12 points  (2 children)

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        I called her some derogatory terms for a promiscuous female

        his behaviour is right but it still took him 10 words to describe the word slut

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          [–]theozoph 29 points30 points  (17 children)

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          they are dancers, wellness instructors, movement exploration, etc.

          Translation : closet gays, or useless liberal art types.

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            [–]theozoph 9 points10 points  (4 children)

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            Nothing wrong with Going Your Own Way, I did the 'monk mode' thing a while back and it was very satisfying.

            As to NYC/your college cuckolding culture, no surprise here, it's pretty much what a liberal education is designed to lead to, and what city is more liberal than NYC?

            Does it make it easier to Game girls, or are they frightened by masculine men, being so unacustomed to them?

            [–]1cover20 4 points5 points  (1 child)

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            I think the liberal artsy schools are the ones most likely to require explicit consent before each step of sexual escalation, or crap like that. Seems to make gaming girls too dangerous at your own school. Gaming girls at another school isn't so risky I think, then it would be a criminal matter only rather than going to your school's kangaroo court.

            [–]1cover20 1 point2 points  (6 children)

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            I am in Westchester County, same as Sarah Lawrence, and I can tell you that the weird lifestyle of Sarah Lawrence is not the only way we live in the suburbs, nor in the city.

            I want my kids to go to a place that gives grades, preferably one that has an engineering school.

            [–]evoblade 2 points3 points  (4 children)

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            Whoa, whoa, whoa, there are colleges that don't give grades? If someone tried to show me a degree from a no-grade school I would laugh in their face, call them a loser, and ask how much money they flung into a hole and burned in that farce.

            [–]DominumVindicta 13 points14 points  (1 child)

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            http://www.redditlog.com/snapshot/26002/32294

            This is how you should handle that.

            [–]1deptii[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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            Yeah it's one of the first threads I was reminded of. The first reply there is golden too.

            [–]RebootedMale 39 points40 points  (4 children)

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            Stupid bullshit "hey, you should always try to work it out" culture at play.

            Some things are dealbreakers. Given that she wants this so bad, he can't just say "no" and still stay with her. Unless he wants to be cheated on. Because she IS going to go out and taste some strange dick regardless of whether he blesses it or not.

            That anybody cannot understand human nature this well is mind-boggling to me. You fail, r/sex.

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            Basically that she has no empathy shows that she is not ready for a LTR.

            [–]1deptii[S] 20 points21 points  (1 child)

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            This is why abundance mentality is SO important. Knowing that whoever you're with is not special, not unique, and that you can find another like her, or better, is essential to your attitude and actions in the relationship.

            [–]mrninja1097 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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            That's why the word 'love' changes everything. The real difference between women is how men feel about them.

            [–]1Judasace 10 points11 points  (1 child)

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            I love how the Blue Pills in that thread are casting her desire to cheat as a "fetish, kink or fantasy"...no, she just wants some strange, same as it would be if it were a guy suggesting it.

            [–]alphabux 12 points13 points  (2 children)

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            Plenty of people in that thread saying "at least she was honest", "she could have cheated and not said a thing". I would argue that cheating would have been better. Hear me out. If you cheat and don't say a word, at least that means you know that your behavior is unacceptable, that you should be ashamed of yourself, and that you show some consideration for your boyfriend's feelings.

            Imagine how humiliating it is to get told by your girlfriend "I give for free what you have to pay for". "I wanna sleep with that guy and he doesn't have to pay me shit, he can just pump-and-dump me, but you you're different. You have to pay my apartment, and listen to my bullshit all-day long to get the same thing."

            [–]1Zanford 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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            Bra-f'in-vo. This dude's a hero. He not only stands up for himself, and his the right princples, but he's savvy enough to call out the "open-minded" crowd on their hypocrisy: by pressuring him to be more "open-minded", they betray they are close-minded against monogamy. As if not wanting your girl to fuck other dudes is some sort of bigotry. lulz.

            He's right to dump her and never look back. 1. He's right that he can never trust her, and she likely fucked the other dude already or would have soon, 2. who the hell wants to be with a woman who isn't 100% satisfied by and committed to you.

            [–]GreatWhite_Buffalo 22 points23 points  (12 children)

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            Anyone got any theories of why the cuckold shit seems to be gaining popularity? Shits disgusting.

            [–]1deptii[S] 16 points17 points  (1 child)

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            I have a few, nothing solid though:

            -Pornography. Maybe not the humiliation part of it, but getting off to watching other people have sex and you want to see the same thing, but live? -Men these days let their women run the house and run them into the ground. Maybe they start to like it and take it to the next step?

            [–]RedPillRedBeard 11 points12 points  (2 children)

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            It's simple. It's the idea that a woman will take on a better lover than her partner, and rub it in his face. Blue Pills love that shit. "At least my woman comes back to me afterwards!" Ah, yes, so romantic. Not. Instead of secretly finding better lovers while humoring him for support, she gets to do it in the open and brag about it to her friends. Some women even make their Betas lick them clean afterward for more humiliation. The Beta probably loves it because at least he gets to touch her there for once.

            I've heard lots of justification for it too. "I have needs! He's got a bigger cock than you!" Okay, fine. This other girl is younger and has a firmer body than you, so I'll indulge my needs too, right?

            [–]NAmember81 4 points5 points  (1 child)

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            [–]16 Endorsed ContributorCyralea 8 points9 points  (1 child)

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            If a woman asks you to sleep with another man, your answer should be an unequivocal 'Yes'. Because she has already decided she wants to sleep with another man, and she likely already has.

            The wise 20th century philosopher Dogg once stated:

            Drop it like it's hot

            [–]1cover20 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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            He should "overreact". It should not be safe for a girl to try to push this way.

            If she pushes after he says no, the next thing is "you're out." It's important not to "talk it out" or "let her know your feelings". She has to lose, not receive another warning. There should be no way for her to calibrate just how much you'll put up with. She should be afraid to try.

            She wanted his beta bucks and another cock. She has now lost the bucks (guess they weren't beta after all, bitch) and is free to find any cock she can get.

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              [–]textualintercourse 8 points9 points  (1 child)

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              I posted this comment on a previous thread a ways back:

              A married woman is all up into my shit. "I think I'm bi..I'm trying to get hubby to bring in another woman." I point blanked her, "No, you are using the other woman as a pretext to get another man." She replied, "Well..yeah." That poor guy is fucked and not in a good way. She's a trainwreck.

              [–]1ASK_ABOUT_MY_SPECIAL 8 points9 points  (2 children)

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              She showed her colors. Guarantee she would've fucked other guys behind his back anyway.

              [–]iscream22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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              Yup! Reminds me of my ex. She brought up that she was ok with a threesome (if i wanted to bring in another chick) and then a few weeks later she mentioned if i was interested in seeing someone else, i said no. A couple weeks later i caught her texting a guy who i know had a thing for her before we started dating and immediately broke it off with her. Hung out and banged her friend, go drunk with her and she admitted that she was cheatin on me the past month with the guy she was texting. I knew it....

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                [–]simonpheenicks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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                I couldn't believe the response he was getting.

                "She was honest so if you love her work with her on it no matter how much you disapprove"? it was one of the most maddening series of replies I had seen in a while.

                [–]millionexplodingsuns 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                Saw this gem earlier. Definitely made the right choice. I told him I disagreed with everyone that said otherwise and he needs to lose that trick and find a new one.

                [–]DarkCircle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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                "If you are so in to cuckolding, how about I have sex with some of your hot friends first?"

                How do you even propose cuckolding as something that someone else will enjoy? If he was in to it, he would ask for it. She just wants to bang the other dude, keep her guy and feel no guilt.

                [–]Karmatsocheff 4 points5 points  (3 children)

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                Wtf is with the population of r/sex? The advice is always so fucking far fetched. Also, if it was the other way around. A dude asking for permission to fuck his gf's friends they would shit all over him. It's ok to want to fuck other people when you are in a relationship, you can't really help who you find sexually attractive. But Jesus, some things you just keep to yourself.

                [–]WillClickOnAnything 8 points9 points  (2 children)

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                I'm convinced that the people on that forum are not having any sex at all. You might as well ask for advice from pornhub comment section or something.

                [–]heero01 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                Hey some of the clearest and logical ideas come after nutting i would take a chance on pornhub before r/sex or r/relationship.

                [–]WillClickOnAnything 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                Can't argue with that logic but who keeps a porn site open longer than 5 picoseconds after nutting? lol

                [–]RedPillRedBeard 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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                Having been in this situation before, it does sound like she was cheating and then retroactively looking for permission. This is a big no-no and he should drop her. If she's just into the idea and hasn't cheated, then I do appreciate her honesty. It is up to him if he wants to deal with her after this point, if he thinks he can trust her.

                However, if I had no reason to suspect she was cheating, I'd humor her by stating that she can have the guy as long as I get the girl. Equality, right?

                Personally I have found way more women who would like the relationship open on her end only than women who would accept it open on both sides. Unfortunately, a few of them gave lip service to the idea of open on both sides and then went behind my back to chase away any female that showed interest in me, while claiming everything was cool. This is why I didn't keep them around.

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                It's not really equal when the woman can pull 10-20x as much tho'.

                [–]Vaganusaurus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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                As far as immediate sexual repulsion for me goes, cuckholding is probably #2 behind child porn. And bestiality, necrophilia, and bodily waste are pretty far down in my list. Homosexuality doesn't even list.

                [–]redpillshadow 22 points23 points  (12 children)

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                DeltaEmerald    196 Points    08:23:46, 24 July
                

                You overreacted a bit by assuming that she has been cheating on you.

                Though, it does seem like she just wants to have sex with that specific guy, which is not cool that she tried to "get your blessing" for that. The problem is that she is just using her friends thing as a way for her to fuck a SPECIFIC guy, when it should be a random guy.

                Of course. With a random guy it would be totally fine.

                I wouldn't call OP RP though. She threw all those warning sign and he didn't put his feelers out what is behind all her fawning over humiliation and cuckoldry.

                Great reaction throwing that slut out. But her humiliating him with that "innocent kink" was already part of her living out her humiliation fantasy.

                [–]1deptii[S] 25 points26 points  (1 child)

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                His responses to her original "hint dropping":

                I made it pretty clear that I wouldn't be into that kind of thing. I just said "Yeah, that's kinda gross" and "Ugh, I hope they STD test those guys she meets up with." I never said anything positive about it.

                But yeah, he should have responded a bit more harshly even then.

                [–]RedPillRedBeard 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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                The fact that she kept bringing it up even after he expressed how gross it was shows that she was probably already doing it and hamstering for retroactive permission.

                In my first ever "open" relationship, my gf at the time suddenly got this fetish for seeing me with another woman. Even offered to find me one. Which at 19 I thought was pretty sweet, but eventually it started nagging at me that she did that. Turns out she'd been banging her male roommate for months and decided to pin it all on me.

                [–]Meglomaniac 12 points13 points  (8 children)

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                I think the giant red flag in this situation is that she wanted to bang a specific guy.

                She wasnt into the whole "cuckhold" thing, she was looking for permission to cheat with this one guy in specific.

                [–]redpillshadow 14 points15 points  (7 children)

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                So you also think it wouldn't be a giant red flag if she wanted a random guy instead?

                [–]Meglomaniac 8 points9 points  (6 children)

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                Yes I do, but its a different type of red flag.

                One is going "I wanna bang jim" the other is going "im into banging other guys with your permission"

                Its a sexual fetish vs wanting permission to cheat with someone specific. I dont have a problem with a girl who is otherwise perfect saying that she would be into some swinging, its still a red flag but its not a game breaker.

                [–]1kick6 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                I agree. One is sex. The other sex + feelers. The latter being significantly more disruptive to a relationship.

                [–]NoLongerSisyphus 6 points7 points  (4 children)

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                Yeah, one of those is banging a guy that isn't you, and the other one is banging at least one guy that isn't you.

                Totally different. Totally.

                [–]ScottBlues 3 points4 points  (4 children)

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                See there's one thing I don't get...
                Why do sometimes women employ "slut-shaming" whereas in this situation, and many others in which the woman cheats, they try to defend her and almost blame the guy?

                Please fellow comrades, enlighten me on this one.

                [–]TheSKSpecial 6 points7 points  (2 children)

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                Competition. Women slut-shame each other when they're competing for male attention but will join forces in girl-power Voltron form against a man if they feel "attacked".

                [–]merkmerk73 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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                Could be fake, but assuming it's not...

                Holy shit hats off to OP for holding his ground and seeing through the BS.

                I'd buy that guy a beer.

                [–]ReaperSlayer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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                I'm cool with you letting your freak out. Do what makes you happy, but don't push things on me. You want to fuck other guys, you're free to, but I won't stick around.

                I've been on the other side of this, in my more BP days. Girl I had oneitis for wanted a 3way with me and her new BF. Being Blue and in a dry spell convinced me.

                The kicker, dude couldn't get hard and basically sat there while I fucked his girlfriend. I had zero respect for either of them. They got married 10 months later, and divorced less than a year after that.

                [–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                I commented on this one and sent the guy a pm too. I can't believe how shitty the advice is in there. Those motherfuckers are actually telling him he needs to apologize to the cunt and try to work things out. Most unbelievable shit

                [–]JohnGalt316 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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                is there a troll cuckolding version?

                like the guy says you can cuckold, but i pick the guy. then he only picks ugly guys.

                [–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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                I hate this guy!

                He should accept her fetish and help her experience what she wants. He only looks after his needs, not hers.

                So he should end the relationship (he doesnt even say that he dumped her. I think he is still thinking about staying with her), let her find a beta bux for an LTR, (she probably won't find an alpha for an LTR), and then he should sacrifice himself and be the guy who fucks her while the beta pays for everything.

                Everybody wins!

                /s

                [–]DankPanties 5 points6 points  (1 child)

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                I think this girl was already banging the prospect, but wanted validation so she could clear her conscious. (Probably already said, but I'm not digging to find out.)

                [–]1niczar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                I don't know if she's already banging him, but the fact that she kept bringing it back up despite the bf expressing disgust shows that she was seriously obsessed with him, so it was just a matter of time at best.

                [–]bbidabbong 4 points5 points  (5 children)

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                They believed in long time romantic relationship. But biology does not lie.

                [–]tjones123 2 points3 points  (4 children)

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                I'd assume you are referring to what I've heard is a biological change after a few years with the same person where the attraction falls off? I haven't been able to find any studies, but if that's your claim, I'd heartily agree with you. I think monogamy is culturally (and religiously) biased to be our baseline. It doesn't mean it functionally works for all people. Its just what we are taught.

                [–]bbidabbong 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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                I'd assume you are referring to what I've heard is a biological change after a few years with the same person where the attraction falls off? I haven't been able to find any studies, but if that's your claim, I'd heartily agree with you. I think monogamy is culturally (and religiously) biased to be our baseline. It doesn't mean it functionally works for all people. Its just what we are taught.

                That is what I meant.

                I do not know about studies, but I do not need one. After two relationships, I got mine. Few years, and shit goes off. Sexual tension disappear.

                And that is deal breaker, regardless of the fact that we want different. We want different because our emotions are still here. We spent beautiful time with a person and we do not want to end it. But it is going to happen.

                Two options: continue emotionalship, with sex occasionally. Differences between sexes are less and less. You are almost like friends. Eventually someone breaks, like chick from opening post. That is exactly situation I am talking about. I do not believe she did cheat on him. She did not lie. She wants to have that sexual tension in her life, but she is not strong enough to break up with him. The fact that she is blunt honest is showing us that she is really good person and good girl. But she need someone to nail her and it is not her guy. Nice example of few things.

                Other option is to continue relationship by entering marriage, starting a family, and then you are bond by it. You are partners in raising a family. In this situation just this can keep a couple together.

                But we here are young. So we do not want marriage. So this relationship finish like almost all others. Probably in this point, they cant wait to fuck someone else. As soon as they fine tune their emotions with their biology, they will do so.

                To anyone in this situation, look, time goes on. People come people go. I had two great relationships with girls that I loved. Some of this memories are going to be the best in my life.

                But it is a period. It is meant to be. Enjoy it while it last, if it stops do not try to force it because you will just fuck up what was.

                Also tough up a bit. Means red pill

                [–]WillClickOnAnything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Familiarity breeds contempt.

                ushdfiuhasdifuhasdiufashdfa

                [–]colovick 4 points5 points  (1 child)

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                This is the part where she messed up. Unfortunate.

                Does this make anyone else's blood boil? It's blatantly saying they endorse doing things that are still cheating because they violate the trust of the man, and she screwed up by letting him know she was already looking for/at someone to fuck... The level of blatant manipulation and lack of empathy is fucking absurd... I knew people did this stuff, but saying it so casually and brazenly is just fucked

                [–]1deptii[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                I agree. It really highlights the fact that women have little to ZERO honor, or loyalty. Also, solipsism to the fucking MAX.

                [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                Alright she suggested it he didn't like it and it was deal breaker for him what's the big deal here. To each their own.

                [–]Turnsideways 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                Do the people there actually want him to apologize for calling her a slut? Really, cause that looks like a fucking slut move to me.

                [–]MrRIP 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                I say someone makes a thread in the reverse and see what The advice would be to a guy.

                [–]4Iex 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                That response isn't even particularly an RP one, that's pretty basic ejector-seat early warning signals

                [–]WillClickOnAnything 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                There is literally zero chance she isn't already fucking that guy. Zero. guy did the absolute correct thing.

                [–]drewbaccha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                Bravo to the guy for upholding his principles. Reverse the genders and it still holds up. Dude wanted honest, monogamous relationship. Chick wanted strange. He ended the relationship so that they both can achieve what they desire. He'll be seeking a new monogamous relationship. She can go chase strange to her hearts content.

                It's almost poetic.

                [–]aazav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                As he fucking should.

                You are not the pussy.

                [–]dancing_junkie 2 points3 points  (3 children)

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                I poked around that for a bit. I saw the majority of the top comments being supportive of dumping her.

                [–]grateday 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                Good for him. She tries a shit-test and he kicks her out of the apartment. Fucking alpha if you ask me. He'll make a good father and husband

                [–]downhillride 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                Did anyone get more disgusted at the part where her friend pays for the other man with her husband's credit card than the wanting to cheat part?

                [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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                I love this guy. Thank you!

                Edit: No-homo ;)

                [–]16 Endorsed ContributorGayLubeOil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                Nice Red Pill erotic revenge fantasy

                [–]NoFappin2014 10 points11 points  (17 children)

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                I'm into some pretty weird shit sexually (not this specifically, but other weird stuff that I can't help), so I feel bad for this girl IF she legitimately has a kink for that kind of thing.

                But it sounds like she just wanted to fuck their friend, so that's fucking unacceptable. However, I know how hard it is for me to bring up my kinks to my partners, so if she truly was just trying to communicate her kinks to him and he reacted that way, then I feel sorry for her.

                [–]1kick6 22 points23 points  (4 children)

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                I get where you're coming from, but the fact that she already had a specific dude picked out kicks the chair out from under the idea that it was a kink.

                [–]RebootedMale 10 points11 points  (6 children)

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                I will say this. He did right in dumping her. But these types of situations happen more often if you are only into vanilla sex. If he degraded and dominated her, she might have been happy at home.

                [–]PieroDrawsRandomCrap 10 points11 points  (4 children)

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                In my country we have a saying that may or not translate well into English but here it goes "women are like roofs, they will fly to the neighbor's yard unless you nail them real fucking hard"

                [–]RedPillJohnny 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                If he degraded and dominated her, she might have been happy at home.

                Holy fuck ain't that the truth!

                [–]captshady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                She wanted the fucks without giving up the bucks.

                [–]1cover20 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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                She already communicated this kink to him, and he communicated back his response: No.

                He had communicated well. More communication would have been too much, allowing her to gauge exactly what she could get away with. He should not give her that much information.

                [–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                She was not communicating a kink, she was expressing a specific desire that she already knew fairly well was outside the bounds of his zone of acceptability.

                If, after a month of dating, she started mentioning that she is into cuckolding, without any specific intentions at that time, that is "mentioning a kink." Saying you want to go bang Chad Thunderdick, and characterizing this as an "open relationship" beginning is not mentioning a kink, it is trying to get your BF to agree to you banging Chad without losing your rent-free loft apartment.

                [–]8jh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Only way this could have ended better is if when she came back the next morning he ambiguously patched things up with her, had an all day sex session with her, and then as the sunset chime in with "so do you need help moving stuff to your mother's?"

                By ambiguous i mean she's crying and he holds her in her arms and makes a move.