A few months ago, I read some posts on here about posture and body language. Those posts changed my life. This is what I do now:
I bare my chest. I make sure to never put my arms in front of my chest in any way. Crossing your arms is a defensive posture – and I never, ever want to look or feel defensive, so my chest is upright and straight almost all of the time.
I have the posture of a CEO. I often think about this picture from an excellent post on here a while back. It really helps me to visualize the posture I should have as I walk down the street. I also lean back at a slight angle and let my dick lead me where I want to go.
I'm aware of my hands. When I'm walking, my hands are at my sides, not in my pockets or hidden in any way. When I'm standing, my hands are often crossed behind me, which is a posture that thrusts my chest out even more and makes one appear both dominant and completely at ease. When I'm sitting in a meeting, my hands are often face-down on the table with the thumbs apart from the fingers – and when I'm talking in a meeting, I make measured, steady gestures with my palms.
I lean back in my chair. At work, when someone comes over to tell me something, I lean back in my chair. All of a sudden, they start trying to win my approval. It's like magic sometimes, bros.
I practice the discipline of Do Easy. That just means that I think about my gestures a little bit before I do them, so I do everything in the most efficient and relaxed manner that I possibly can.
The results of using this confident body language, coupled with some extra muscle on my frame from lifting, have been huge. Sometimes when I accidentally knock into someone on the bus, they apologize to me.
The other day I saw a girl I hadn't seen for a year or two and she talked about how "amazing" it is that now I'm a "grown-up man with a real job and real responsibilities." Literally nothing changed about my appearance since I last saw her except for my body language. I hadn't even told her about the job I've been doing – she saw my body language and assumed I had a job, and she was right.
What are your body language tips, TRP brothers?