Someone invited a cute girl to join us for drinks. Alright, here we go. I try to get to know her. No hobbies, no interests, no exercise, no ambition, no nothing. This girl is the queen of Dullsville. Chatbots are more interesting. Crackheads are more interesting. Worse, she's playing some Farmville-esque game on her phone instead of socializing. I'm having none of this. She's boring and rude. But instead of just ignoring her, I let this slip:
Me: "wow you're really interesting."
Her: "really, you think so?"
Me: "No! Not really."
Silence. Me, the ever polite dont-rock-the-boat guy, immediately thought "oh shit, did I just say that?" I'm immediately thinking of how I'm going to prostrate myself and apologize for offending such a goddess. Glorious silence. She's not even mad. She just looks surprised. I don't think miss pretty face had ever been told that she was anything other than sunshine and sparkles. I say nothing.
And you know what? Nothing happened. No white knighting either. I started flirting with her infinitely more pleasant friend who I'm seeing this week. She actually tried (half-assedly) to engage me after that.
She blew it with me. All she had to do was try. I finally accepted that some women are utterly worthless and do not deserve my time, energy, or respect by default. I'm finally learning to speak my mind. It feels good.
I think a major barrier many men have is not expressing themselves for fear of retribution. Being obsequious doesn't get you anywhere.