I have been lurking for a few months now and TRP is my favorite corner of the internet. I
have started swallowing unplugged long before I find here, right after my first humiliating beta story. TRP confirmed a lot of things I had learned the hard way and offered a lot more (especially in self-improvement) to me. My first post here, so go easy on me.
I have been in a LTR for about four years. She has high RPW standards (We are from an eastern culture with soon-to-be-gone-but-still-a-little patriarchy tendencies, but we moved to the US about two years ago. So she has been exposed to more feminism lately, but she has been OK so far with no signs of intoxication). Anyway, she pointed a feminist article to me today (it was about time) and asked me to read it. The title was about how girls should know which men to dispose. It made me laugh, but she immediately looked upset and I knew there is storm coming, so I tried to look serious to be able to hold frame afterwards. I read through the ridiculous ultra-hamstering article and I just knew it was an overdose of feminism poison for her. The rational conclusion of the article was that girls should next any guy who is a real man (let alone RP) and look for the sweet beta buck that provides infinite money and love unconditionally. So I pass her phone back to her and say...
Me: Ok. I read it.
She: And? How many of those qualities do you think you have?
Me: I don't have most of them. More than half for sure. (I don't answer texts right away. I don't feel gifted to be with her. I prefer my career to my relationship. etc.. you get the idea)
She: And? What are you gonna do about it?
Me: Nothing. The article wasn't even written for guys. It only talks to girls and tells them when to "next" guys. So you should probably do something about it. (Always be ready to walk away, and show it!)
She: So you don't want to try to change anything?
Me: No. I'm not gonna set my relationship based on the opinions of a random feminist on the internet. It is surprising for me that you want to do that. But you are free to have your standards and make your decisions. (Pressure Flip)
She: It's not like that I search for these things. It just came up somewhere and I clicked on it. I don't agree with all of it, but you see some other opinions and...
Well. Long story short. She backs down while I listen to the sound of victory in my mind. I'm not even worried about her getting more exposed to feminism, but that was an alert for me. I know it's gonna be hard to find an RPW in this country, but who cares. I won't settle for bullshit.
I am still in learning phase, fellas. Any input is appreciated.
EDIT: I see many people here are calling out that this was not a highly RP handling, since I should have ignored or even nuked it. I feel I should have given a little bit of context to it that explains why I still think my moderate approach was better for this scenario. I had cheated on my LTR with an upgrade about two months ago which was the ultimate nuclear dread. Nonetheless, she still wanted to stay with me which obligates me to rebuild trust. Any harsh reaction would have caused unnecessary drama that I didn't want to deal with. I know many guys here are into aggressive approaches and "nexting" plates right off the bat. But this is a RPW LTR (4+ yrs) that I had decided to hold on to, even after cheating on her with a 20yo hottie. I think some folks here judge everything by their own preferences. There is nothing wrong with wanting a stable LTR as long as you hold your frame by any means necessary.