A dude in another topic said:
"The natural instinct is to excel for pussy not for yourself" and I felt my response constituted a topic in and of itself:
I've noticed that many men place their self-worth on how many women they can fuck and only bother getting a career and working on themselves so they can have a family. Whilst a noble pursuit as having a genetic lineage and maintaining your family line is important, I believe many men are forming a faulty emotional foundation by "dedicating it all to women." Preserving a genetic lineage should be something you do for yourself, because you are an egotist that wants to preserve his existence in the world via his offspring once he has left the world you shouldn't be pedestalising women because women are the centre of your universe. Women aren't worth shit next to a fully actualised man, if you're a high value man any woman in your life is lucky you even keep her around.
When I took women off the pedestal and introspected deeply and assessed my own flaws and shortcomings, I realised that in order to ever be happy and attain self-mastery that I needed to become massively selfish, stop neglecting my own needs and stop hiding from my own weaknesses. I needed to work on myself each and everyday instead of being a lazy unmotivated fuck. I needed to overcome my weaknesses so they no longer existed. And I was doing that shit all for myself, there were no women in the equation and I wasn't hoping "by doing this, I'm going to get women." I did that shit because I wanted to like myself and respect myself and be someone I could look at in the mirror and go "that's a man." A lot of guys say "you're hamstering, you do it all for women." And you know what? I think fuck them, they're projecting why they do this self improvement shit for themselves onto me. Sure I like getting laid who the fuck doesn't? But it's not the centre of my universe, my art is. Ignore the wise fucks who think they know you better than you know yourself, because they don't, especially not the random nobodies on the internet.
As men we are often trained to be too selfless for our own good, especially in matters of women. All the gents raised by single mothers got a full dose of white knight 101 from their idealistic unwittingly castrating mothers. This is why I live the self-improvement ethos to the maximum of my capability. Without that, I don't see much point in life. You stagnate, you drift along without purpose, without direction, without "a higher goal." Women, to me, are not "a higher goal." I rather be a socially clueless idiot with a gay shirt landing some shit on a comet than your average billy beta who occasionally feels like "the man of the house" when he's lifting the shopping bags for his self-entitled brat of a wife. After my last long-term relationship and then being subsequently introduced to the red pill I found "doing it all for women" to be a pointless endeavour. Just because they demand your sacrifice, like the bratty foot stomping narcissists that they are, it doesn't mean you need to concede.
Women are fickle, they are a crap foundation to build your success upon. Building your success, your skills, your reasoning for living upon the back of a woman is like building your home on top of a fault line, that shit is going to fuck up and you are going to lose everything. It is not worth the hassle. If you have a woman in your life you invite her to come and enjoy your world, you do not base your world upon her. That is chronic nuclear mistake #1.
Indulge in your own self-development, but more importantly, cautiously indulge in women sporadically. Do it on your own fucking terms. I realise some men (particularly PUAs) are addicted to the rush of female validation/having successful social interactions with women and getting lays, and yeah that is a fuck ton of fun, but if it takes up any more than say 20% of your life, you're wasting your one chance at a life on this Earth. Some guys have mummy issues and look to get their female validation fix through fucking around with women, that's not a problem for me my mother loved me growing up so I don't have to burden that kind of fucked up psychology as an adult. But if you do, try and get a handle on that shit.
When all is said and done and the dirt is dropping on your coffin, there's fuck all to show for all those relationships. You're living in the moment for a fucking relationship buzz. You're addicted to "discovering and experiencing fresh love over and over again." I rather have a fucking whiskey habit and become a multimillionaire than waste my life falling in love over and over again, getting lays over and over again. I can see the playboy lifestyle appealing to some, the whole Casanova thing, but that isn't me. I rather be that bachelor that works on his art and dedicates his life to perfecting and refining his art rather than making my art the pursuit of women (as PUAs/playboys have opted to do so.)
My art comes first. I come second to my art, my needs come second to my art and only come before it if those needs stop me from working on my art (eg: I have fallen sick and need medicine.) Thirdly comes my parents, my cousins etc. Fourthly comes any woman lucky enough to be in my life. If she doesn't like her position she can feel free to take a hike because I couldn't give a fuck. Accept me for what I am or get the fuck out is how I treat women, you can't let bitches change you. They always try to change you and make you dysfunctional, they self-sabotage the relationship by destroying you. Sometimes its intentional, sometimes its their insecurity getting the better of everything but you have to keep a keen eye on that shit. You never get to take a break with women, you always have to be on top of shit. You never get to "just love a woman," love is a pleasantry, a freedom reserved solely for women. Just like they get to cry publicly and still be respected whilst we as men do not.
For creatures so outwardly beautiful, modern women sure are ugly on a spiritual level. There is nobler, purer beauty and far more sophisticated art for a man to indulge himself in out there than the canvas of a woman's body. Fuck to scratch an itch, enjoy women momentarily and occasionally, but don't be a woman obsessionist. Keep them at a healthy distance. If a bitch infiltrates the castle walls and starts trying to get inside your head you have to find a room in the castle she cannot access. You can never give yourself completely to her because otherwise she will destroy you.
I find it difficult to respect men who are women-centric and put women ahead of everything else; I always thought being obsessed with the other gender was a female trait from as young as my teen years. I remember asking "why do girls care so much about boys?" when I was an inexperienced and naive boy at 13. Women give so many fucks about us because they are completely dependent on us to obtain their highest goals. The chanting of "I'm a strong independent woman that don't need no man!" is flat out dissociative denialism. There is no higher goal for a woman than to be a wife and a mother. If they go the career route, they miss out on that or do it poorly and regret their choices. For men, there is so much more out there. We are the kings of the abstract, our logic sets us free from the shackles of emotional neuroticism and allows us to seek pleasures from our hobbies to an extent that women can only dream of. Women envy us, but we need not be indebted to them, the paradigm is what it is. Women are something we indulge in, but we don't have to dedicate to them. A wise friend one said to me "IM, women are dream killers." He's not wrong. Don't be a fucking pussy begging idiot. You are more important than the pussy your dick needs to fuck occasionally.
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Best of luck to you all on your journeys.