Maintaining frame and control over your emotions is crucial to building and retaining a woman’s attraction, even in a LTR. Women say they want you to “share your feelings” and “be open” with them, but it’s all bull shit. In the end, WOMEN DO NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS! I cannot say this loud of forceful enough.
I am a converted “nice guy” that has had exponentially more success with women since TRP made me realize that women want to date MEN. I still find myself slipping into my blue-pill ways at times. I use some of this to my advantage, because I enjoy doing nice/sweet/romantic things. I just make sure to only do it when I want to and when she deserves it. This helps me maintain frame while training her to do the things I like, if she wants my affection. The problem is when I act like my old blue-pill, over-emotional, touchy-feely self.
My girlfriend recently told me that she feels our relationship is unequal, because she always shares her feelings. I will listen and give her advice, but I never share my deeper feelings. She said she wants to hear these things and is willing to listen. This is a trap!
Yesterday I was having a real shit day, was exhausted, and needed to vent. Rather than talking to one of my buddies like I normally would, I tried venting to her. She promptly got disinterested and basically ignored me. Not only ignored my problem but even had little interest for me in general afterwards. She had temporarily lost attraction for the ‘weak’, ‘whiney’, ‘feminine’ person I was showing her.
Now I am sure I will recover by acting like it didn’t bother me and not showing her affection until she shows her loyalty, respect, and appreciation for me. But I have put a permanent chink in my alpha armor. She will always have that view of me on some level, even in the back of her mind.
This is why it is so important to ALWAYS maintain frame and control of your negative emotions with women you want to have sex with, even if you already have. They do not care about your feelings. You are a replaceable resource that gives them protection, attention, and tingles. As soon as you show them your weaknesses, they will stop getting tingles and start wondering how well you can protect them. If you need to vent, grab a beer with a buddy or talk to a girl you never plan to sleep with. It may be a shit reality, but I cannot deny reality any longer. Women don’t give a shit about your problems!
“I got 99 problems… and a bitch don’t care about any of them!”