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[–]DISMANTLE5 134 points135 points  (15 children)

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If TRP were a family, you'd be the wise protective father. Nice post, the succinct to-do list for every newbie.

While reading this, most new people will feel an itch at the back of their mind, trying to reason themselves out of doing it. That's your internal hamster in its natural habitat

[–]xtr3m 26 points27 points  (5 children)

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I reddit-friended Arch when he just started posting here. I'm proud as if I picked Apple stock 30 years ago.

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    [–]xtr3m 4 points5 points  (3 children)

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    Reddit highlights friends' posts and comments. There's also /r/friends.

    [–]ColdEiric 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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    So, if I were to 'friend' Archwinger, would I only subscribe his comments and posts, as a follower of Archwinger's word?

    Or is it some kind of Facebookish thing where he needs to 'accept' my 'friend request'?

    [–]theredpillager 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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    He doesn't have to accept. After adding, you click friends up in the top bar and you see posts from people you've added. Friend is probably not a good word choice on reddit's part, but whatever.

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

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    The job part, though. I have parents who are willing to support me through college for at least my first year. Is focusing on school and self-improvement without a job acceptable?

    [–]trpMilo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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    Don't do a part time job during the school year if you don't have to. Do get an awesome summer internship. Apply to a hundred and you'll get one that's badass

    [–]DISMANTLE5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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    It's not necessary but I can definitely recommend it. You get experience for your CV, you learn more skills, and you get more dollar! I currently have a part-time job while I do my PHD. Gonna have more bank by the time I graduate.

    [–]theredpillager 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    Seek an internship or work study job. These will be office-oriented and serve you well once you graduate. They also have rather low expectations and hourly requirements. You can typically study during your down-time on the job. I put myself through college, worked the whole time, networked, and am more successful than most my age as a result. Learn to take risks, put some money away to invest later, buy land.

    [–]Lucasaur 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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    This is the post that has convinced me to start! Reading this list has some how made my mind say "Okay! Lets do this!" So im starting after work today, or monday. (Im going camping this weekend)

    [–]DISMANTLE5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    Hopefully TRP is the spark that finally gets your engine permanently running. It was for me. Good luck and don't quit.

    [–]PlebDestroyer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    But I thought we were a family :'(

    [–]MrRIP 38 points39 points  (6 children)

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    I told my girl she was the fourth most important thing in my life. It was me, my mother, my career and then her

    -Patrice O' Neal

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        [–]JovianTrainWreck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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        The Black Phillip Show with Patrice O'Neal

        Listen and listen well. You're welcome.

        [–]mhf32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Always remind that jokingly to my girlfriend too. First: my phone, second my career, third my guitar, fourth my sister, fifth is debatable between her and my computer

        [–]M3TAMAN 27 points28 points  (0 children)

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        Start a blog, you're my favorite contributor by far.

        automod offering

        [–]RebootedMale 25 points26 points  (7 children)

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        Couple of other things for the target of this post:

        1) Keep your pad SPOTLESS. Be ready to entertain at all times, even if you never entertain. You will eventually entertain, and it will boost your social value.

        2) Work on having your OWN transportation (exception for cities with amazing public transportation) and your OWN place (no roommates).

        [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 19 points20 points  (6 children)

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        Keep your car and office clean, too. Not just to look good for others, but to grow a sense of pride in your life and where you spend it.

        [–]Overkillengine 10 points11 points  (5 children)

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        That, and laziness in any form is habit forming.

        [–]Blocguy 18 points19 points  (3 children)

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        I really like your part about putting in hard work. Newbies come in here thinking TRP is just a quick read and bam, you're alpha.

        I read TRP for three months and took time off from coming here everyday and began applying little morsels of our philosophy in my life. (Most) of the real alphas in this sub don't have time to post because they are busy applying it to their lives. There comes a point when reading this sub that you realize you've read this before. At that point you already know what you need to do, and it's just a matter of deliberately putting yourself in situations that test whether or not you've actually learned something.

        This is a great post for anyone not knowing where to start, you don't just end up in the aforementioned 10%, you gotta earn that shit.

        TL;DR: Good post. You get what you take, not what you deserve.

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          [–]Zran 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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          We will get there, don't believe it, know it, prove it.

          [–]1BaeCaughtMeJackinOff 40 points41 points  (2 children)

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          If the mods are listening, this should be on the side bar. Clear, succinct and to the point.

          Thanks OP, Im going to read this everyday to remind myself of my priorities.

          [–]el_Technico 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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          I agree, put it on the side bar.

          I for one welcome the rule of our bot overlords !!

          [–]Gigem_longhorns 16 points17 points  (5 children)

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          One thing that helped me was the three second rule.

          "I should go to bed" becomes "I'm going to bed" and shit like that.

          Working out regularly because of that, haven't been late to work in half a year. I don't actually have self control and was addicted to gaming. Making self control a game worked out pretty well. I try to get a high score for how many times I followed the rule. Not following resets the number.

          I should get off reddit and shower.

          [–]TestosteroneFilled 6 points7 points  (2 children)

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          PUAs use the 3 second rule in approaching women. You see a woman you're attracted to and think about going up to her and talking. But before actually going to her, your brain will be hamstering some stuff like "she's out of my league, she'll think I'm a creep. She's probably in a hurry." Instead of letting these thoughts affect you, count to 3 and just go up to her and start speaking.

          [–]thredditsowaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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          It's a fantastic mentality. If you do it right, approaching will become exciting and will be your default action, not something you have to force. After a great weekend at the bars I found myself in a situation where approaching was just not a good idea and actually had to consciously hold myself back from doing it.

          New habits do form. This stuff works.

          [–]Gigem_longhorns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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          Yes, I apply it to other things. You come up with excuses if you take more than three seconds to start something.

          [–]PlebDestroyer 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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          So you say, "I should..." then three seconds later you simply go do it?

          [–]Gigem_longhorns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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          Within in three seconds I start working toward the goal. If I'm already occupied by something important it doesn't count.

          [–]leodoestheopposite 37 points38 points  (1 child)

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          This is the true essence of The Red Pill, and it ought to be highlighted somewhere on the sidebar for newbies and curious people to look at.

          TRP is not about gaming women, it's about re-discovering what it means to be Male and be confident about it, living one's life to its fullest.

          Do that and women will follow, not as an afterthought, but as a consequence of being an awesome person.

          [–]1CaptainFalconer 8 points9 points  (12 children)

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          Stronglifts 6 days a week?

          I'd be scared of the catabolism of my gains :/

          [–]tallwheel 11 points12 points  (3 children)

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          The Top 3 Muscle Building Mistakes Men Make

          *2. Lifting weights 5 or 6 days per week

          More lifting = more muscle gains, right? Wrong. The anabolic period takes place over a roughly 36 hour period after you lift (2). By slamming more and more lifting sessions into this window you aren’t doing yourself a favor. The anabolic processes in your body require proper rest and nutrition to work at maximum capacity, not lifting more weights. The take home lesson here is: go hard in the gym, and then focus on resting and eating to recover and build muscle so you can go just as hard on your next session, if not even harder.

          [–]alphabux 2 points3 points  (2 children)

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          I prefer chaosandpain's take on this which to stop being a pussy and fucking lift. You're probably not anywhere near overtraining anyway.

          http://blog.chaosandpain.com/?p=202

          [–]tallwheel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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          I agree for the most part. The problem is if you tell a pussy who doesn't lift at all that he has to completely change his lifestyle and start lifting every day, he is less likely to start in the first place. Tell him he only needs to go hard twice a week, and he'll be more willing to give it a shot.

          [–]PlebDestroyer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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          Science shows that hitting each bodypart twice a week is optimal for gains. Do with that what you will

          I know most of you aren't bodybuilders or avid trainers but you should look into iifym. Make sure tha tif you want ot gain/lose weight that you are in a caloric deficit/surplus.

          [–]FreshGold 4 points5 points  (2 children)

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          started SL recently, attempting 6 days a week

          largely because at first the weights it tells you to use are fairly light (even for someone like me who doesn't have much strength) but I figured it would help me:

          • have a starting point
          • spend time focusing on form while the weight is lightish
          • avoid plateaus

          The app is decent and holds your hand through shit.

          [–]anonlymouse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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          Maintaining 6 days a week will cause plateaus, not help you avoid them. That said, all you need to do once you hit one is add rest days.

          [–]Pallanas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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          I'm sharing the same concerns, going to the gym everyday is nice, working on the same muscles 6 day in a row is plainly a bad idea. It's a fact that muscle grows (mostly volume, performance too) when they are resting after training. You should alternate between cardio training, leg days (lower body) and arm days (upper body) IMO.

          [–]BoyMeetsHarem 0 points1 point  (3 children)

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          He said to do cardio in between if you're going to the gym 6 days a week. Not to lift six days a week.

          [–]1CaptainFalconer 0 points1 point  (2 children)

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          Cardio would still be catabolic.

          Granted some people try to do HIIT in between lift days instead of standard cardio to lessen it's catabolic effect.

          [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

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          Despite the costs of cardio on your gains, I got no respect for a guy who, massive as he is, gets winded carrying groceries up the stairs to a third floor apartment. A healthy heart keeps you alive longer and makes everything else in the body work better.

          [–]1CaptainFalconer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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          Agreed there. Also helps with your endurance in bed.

          But me, I'm still in the newbie-gains phase. And somewhat monk mode.

          I wanted some fat loss up front, looked at HIIT, Leangains, and Ketogenic Dieting.

          I chose the last one, because it matched my goals better. And because if you increase the calories, it goes from a cut to a bulk.

          [–]87GNX 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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          This is well-written and informative. Sidebar material for sure.

          [–]pounds_not_dollars 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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          This post was so appropriate for my life and what I want right now. I have never bought gold for anyone before but this inspired me and you have earned it my friend. I'm going to condense this post and print it out and hang it up.

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          Awesome post for anyone who thinks that just finding a good girl is going to make you happy. This is absolutely the best way to happiness.

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            [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 40 points41 points  (10 children)

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            People (not just women, everyone) unconsciously respect and defer to muscular guys. Not like freakish circus strongman or Olympic medallist insane and silly looking builds, but an athletic, muscled build. Not skinny fat, not lanky runner. You command a room much more easily when you're built. And women think it's haawt. Even the ones who insist they don't. You don't see them seeking out fatasses or lanky nerds.

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              [–]ProductivityMonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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              I'm a soccer player who recently started lifting. You age better (lose less testosterone) when you're more muscular. It also helps you lose subcutaneous belly fat (the type you can see and squeeze) more than any other type of exercise. Focus on exercises that use many groups of muscles like squats and dead lifts.

              On a side note, interval training (very common for soccer players) is best to remove dangerous visceral fat (you can't see it but very bad for your health) in the stomach which can cause diabetes and a host of nasty preventable diseases.

              [–]ozrain 0 points1 point  (6 children)

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              But what does a short guy do? starting to workout but being short is a serious disadvantage

              [–]Zunscriii 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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              I'm 5'5 and cry myself to sleep everynight. That's all you can do. No but seriously it's definitely a disadvantage. Just accept it because you really can't do anything about it. You just got to put more effort into it (it=things trp teaches). It's not fair, but life isn't fair and you got to work with what you have because what else is there to do?

              [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

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              Some women don't date short guys. Some don't date black guys.

              Some guys are born with congenital heart defects and die by age 30. Some guys get into a random car accident and die at 16.

              You play the hand you're dealt without whining about it.

              [–]giffengoods 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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              Would you support shoe lifts?

              [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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              What's it matter what I think? You trying to fuck me? I'm pretty cute.

              Would appearing taller help some of the time, with some women? Maybe. Would faking height get you laughed at some of the time, by some women? Yeah. Probably about the same percentage of women who react strongly to you being short. Maybe even the exact same women.

              [–]TestosteroneFilled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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              What? Being short is not a disadvantage in weightlifting, quite the contrary actually. You can make the gains the 6'3 guys will in such a quicker time and much easier. Are you seriously saying having a good body is a disadvantage if you're short?

              Edit: I'm not saying it's not a disadvantage in general. Just in terms of working out and getting fit quicker, it's an advantage.

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              They're making a new Star Wars movie. Apply to be an Ewok, perhaps.

              [–]16 Endorsed ContributorCyralea 17 points18 points  (6 children)

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              There are enormous immediate benefits, one of which is the sudden surge of testosterone in your system. Anyone who has done strength training will tell you how amazing it feels being high on test. You feel like you can walk through walls.

              Secondly, size matters. There is such a thing as too big, but women absolutely find larger men attractive, and a lot of men naturally defer to you if you're bigger than them.

              If for some crazy reason you had to skip every other thing on the list, don't skip this one.

              [–]Humankeg 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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              If for some crazy reason you had to skip every other thing on the list, don't skip this one.

              This. Women are just as shallow as men when it comes to looks. The hotter you are, the less you have to try and the more shit you can get away with.

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                [–]16 Endorsed ContributorCyralea 6 points7 points  (3 children)

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                so much broscience, weight training does not effect testosterone levels thats endorphins you are feeling and adrenaline.

                Funny, I didn't know they published broscience in scholarly articles.

                I've been lifting weights for 15 years and have a science degree. Don't presume to tell me what is and isn't broscience.

                [–]housecat1 -5 points-4 points  (2 children)

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                I have a degree in physiology from cambridge and physiotherapy from berkely cali bro. I could go one for a day about why your wrong here.

                Essentially weight training increases function and activity of test(to build muscles) and conversion to DHT

                but you wont increase ur DHT for other functions e.g weight training wont lead to any beard growth

                however ANY form of excersise helps maintain a healthy endocrine system and keeps test high, so you could argue that you are correct here.

                Not that it really matters weight training still makes you feel better and look better.

                [–]1whatsazipper 4 points5 points  (1 child)

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                Don't yap about your degree. No one cares. Now, if you could link to evidence that refutes the papers Cyralea provided, that would actually be useful.

                [–]JihadDerp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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                Yeah the focus isn't on exercise in general, it's on weight training specifically. That's because women defer to strength in a sexual partner, like men defer to big tits and a big ass or a nice face in a woman. Why do women like tall guys? Tall guys are stronger, more domineering than short guys. Women like strength, and tall guys look strong. Lucky for short guys, they can lift weights, get strong, and look the part.

                Not to say other types of exercise to look fit aren't important. It's better to be in shape from running or whatever than not. But at the end of the day, women prefer the guy with muscles over the guy without, because (evolutionary psych says) he's a better protector/provider.

                [–]648262 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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                Because it gives more attractive results and the effects last longer. It also increases your natural testosterone which makes you more masculine. We want to be men.

                [–]anonlymouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Every professional athlete does weight training. It's good for you no matter what your goal is.

                [–]willeat4food 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                nothing wrong with running. i have a bit of an unorthodox routine, where i'll stick to a weight lifting regimen for a few months and then strictly do high intensity/interval cardio for a couple months. that way i can build muscle when i lift and then get rid of most excess fat i may have put on as a result of me having to eat more when i'm trying to gain muscle. i'm thinking about switching up to lifting and then follow it with 20 min of cardio, but that's just something i prefer. as someone who was at one point very fat, i feel like it is easier for me to gain and retain weight than most, so strictly dieting doesn't cut it for me. as long as you look and feel good, you'll be fine

                [–]supersonic620 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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                Perfect. What more is there? One can build a full life from these seven steps.

                [–]fapordie_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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                This is fucking gold. Sidebar material.

                [–]KarmaEnthusiast 2 points3 points  (1 child)

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                I think the overarching idea that needs to go along with this list (it's a good list btw) is that you need to APPLY. Application of ideas is what makes them real, is what makes them worthwhile. Thomas Edison didn't get famous by thinking about the lightbulb, he did by MAKING it. Execution of an idea involves risk and it is inherently a male characteristic. So read this list, think about what it means, then go out and act on it. Live your life 50% thinking, 50% acting and you'll be successful.

                Sad to say so many 'men' nowadays are too afraid to take that risk.

                [–]deadlycatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                This... learned it late, but starting now...

                [–]TyrotoxismX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                In addition to lifting I also recommend doing some type of sport. This became the reason I lift - I wanted to perform as well as possible for myself and my team.

                Be picky about your friends. You don't really want people who are going to drag you down to their level, avoid basement dwellers, drunks, stoners etc etc... This is not you anymore.

                [–]_Strange 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                This feels like something I already knew, but needed someone to tell me to do. It all made sense and wasn't at all surprising, but after reading this I feel like "oh, now I should just start actually DOING that". Thanks.

                [–]rottenx51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Staying up until 4:AM drinking beer is fine when you’re 19 and in college studying for an exam

                YAY! I was worried for a sec that I should give up my nocturnal life.

                [–]KenshinX90 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                "Making soap? Making explosives?"

                Is this a fight club reference? Sorry if i digress.

                [–]t21spectre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Regardless, I laughed my ass off. Just one of those casual hobbies.

                [–]jgj09 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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                Best poster on TRP.

                Have you thought about starting a blog?

                [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

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                Blogs take time and maintenance and cost money and shit. I can just spout crap from my keyboard on Reddit in my spare time.

                I guess I could try to monetize a blog, turn something I do for fun into a job, maybe try to make a book out of it, but a lot of people seem to be doing that already. And not just manosphere people -- that's a route people take in lots of subject areas.

                [–]jgj09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                I see. I just enjoy how logic-based it is. You don't try and be outrageous to make people read your writing...you just make good points and use everyday examples. Keep it up.

                [–]Mihawk01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Want to add a bit on 4th point.

                I have done a sales course, done by a guy who used to do pick up trainings, very powerful stuff. It lasted more than a month, and by the end of it, we were able to sell matches to people on the street.

                We started jut by getting used to talking to people on the street. It is very powerful being able to talk, and make deep, quick connections with people from the street, real powerful stuff. Very much recommended, however, it must always e practiced, just like game, otherwise you loose the edge.

                [–]Apollo1982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                Can't go wrong with any of that... I'm working on #6 right now, some successes with #7 but keep having to go back to theory after I catch one.

                [–]rusty84 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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                Here’s the key: It doesn’t matter if you get stronger or look different after a month. (You will, but it doesn’t matter.) The way you walk, talk, and carry yourself will become better, in a way you won’t notice but others will, if you know that you’ve done all you can to prepare your body to face the day, every day.

                I agree, but can you please explain?

                [–]Chaohinon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                some anecdotal experiences I've had:

                Squatting 3x a week made walking uphill at a steep incline feel like a breeze. If you really keep at it, you may develop J-Lo butt, butt fear not, chicks will like it. Back exercises like deadlifts and rows will help with back posture overall.

                [–]saucey_cow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Thank you for the advice OP. I'll keep this in mind and look back at it from time to time.

                [–]scooby_pav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                thanks..this is really helpful

                [–]cuttingedge123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                can you recommend me where can I learn about game?

                [–]Fetish_Goth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                You should throw some dark triad advice in there. Some of this sounds like "how to build a better provider".

                Women would rather line up to be the gravy on your awesome life than be the main course, featured on the otherwise empty plate of a loser.

                Yeah except for the fact that losers are the type of guy they will cheat on you with.

                I'm not saying be a loser, but don't be Mr. perfect provider either. Be physically strong. Be selfish. Have a vice or two. If you have a 9-5 boring job, have an artistic hobby, or one that gets your hands dirty. I'd rather be an escapist fantasy than a marriage fantasy.

                [–]deadlycatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                I would clean this up and put it in the side bar: Do these 6 things first.... then # 7.... then pay it forward.

                [–]mctoasterson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                I think this is one of the parts people struggle with about TRP.

                The more self-sufficient, independent, and content you are already, the better you will do with picking up women. Women will automatically be interested in a man who is competent, successful, and comfortable in his own skin.

                The fewer fucks you give, the more interested they will be.

                [–]Mihawk01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Great advice, real good stuff.

                I myself have discovered many of those things a while ago, although I have to admit, I sometimes find it hard following this lifestyle completely. As in sometimes I would skip talking to strangers, or going gym, or talking to ladies.

                But when it is in place you feel like you are a fucking made man. TOP OF THE WORLD.

                [–]hamboni23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                This is the kind of guidance I come to TRP for. I got injured pretty bad and haven't been able to work or go to the gym. My frame has been bombarded with all kinds of crazy thoughts. Stick to these principles and it's hard to be shaken.

                [–]priusowner666 0 points1 point  (1 child)

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                I appreciate your 4th point, it is something I never do, and I know I need to start. Thanks!

                [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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                That's actually a seriously important activity to undertake that nobody ever does. Look around you. Strangers in lines, at cafes, on streets, all just standing around staring into space or at their goddamn cell phones.

                Like everyone made all the friends they're ever going to need in high school, and they just shut down after that and keep in touch with the same six people using those goddamn cell phones all day.

                It's gotten so bad that saying hello to a stranger in line at a coffee shop is suspicious! People wonder why the fuck you're talking to them. You're not one of the six friends they made in high school. Are you hitting on them? Selling something? Trying to convert them to your religion? Saying hello to a stranger is hard -- you're practically conditioned not to do it from birth, and people are shocked when you start talking to them. It's actually kind of fun. Other people are so fucking shocked, that if you're the least bit assertive, in about 15 seconds, you have them qualifying themselves to you. That's the point you want to reach -- where you stop feeling like you need to explain yourself, rationalize your existence, and lead in to talking to people, and you can just start expressing yourself to people you meet on the street. When they start explaining themselves to you instead.

                [–]1 Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                [–]Beattz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Thanks, gonna start making some explosives today, like you recommended.

                [–]donald347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Just discovered redpill. I've been around self help for a long time and I've found this to all be true except for the fact that you missed something; at some point, things will suck. You can't ALWAYS have your shit together. It's the wheel of fortune. Sometimes you fall off. You're not every fully in control of life. Realizing that's part of growing up too.

                [–]inonerightmeow 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                Commenting to save later, will read every day

                [–]SeekingTheWay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                commenting to save as well

                [–]teeelo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                Yup, saved this post for continued reading.

                I'm confident in saying I have most of these down pretty good. But the 'good enough' attitude is something not to be proud of. I have lived a life that has me taking anti-depressants to stay afloat. And as it turns out my 'normal' 'balanced' state is one of extreme neutrality and general disinterest in anything I don't bring into my little world.

                My biggest issues are and have always been my job and/or career satisfaction as well as having hobbies. I am totally homebody by default. 99% of the time I have zero interest in going out or joining clubs etc. it's learned behaviour. I'm not sure if there has always been something chemically wrong in my brain or it is just a side effect of my experiences. Either way like most that have come to TRP it's been an uphill battle.

                At least I know what I'm doing wrong, rather than struggling through denial and naivety.

                [–]Keninishna -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

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                Guys this is not a total bullet, it sounds good but I do all these things and yet am too autistic to get laid. These things are key to happiness though. I think the biggest thing you can do to get laid is be a douchebag and take what you want.

                [–]17 Endorsed ContributorArchwinger[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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                Focus on the talking to strangers bit. You guys on the spectrum have to work a bit harder for social interaction to become second nature.

                [–]antwonedw -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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                Saving this. Nice succinct checklist. Thanks for sharing homie.