Ok, so I just want to comment on a situation I've seen a lot recently on this sub and I think can be dealt with better. Basically, a lot of guys in unsatisfying LTRs or marriages are coming here and beginning to apply TRP principles such as Dread Game, being emotionally aloof, demanding respect for their authority, and assuming the mantle of leadership in their relationship. These are tried and true principles, but a lot of these guys are complaining that Dread Game and other tactics are actually causing HUGE PROBLEMS in their relationships, and that their SOs resent them more than ever, and if you're a recovering beta trying to reform a LTR I want to explain why this is the case.
Nearly everything in TRP is absolute gold and will work when applied correctly, but there's a caveat for guys trying to reform a current relationship. This situation is more nuanced (and more difficult) than starting over fresh and if you're going to be successful you need a slightly different initial approach.
You see, the reason you are in this position in the first place is because YOU didn't hold up YOUR end of the relationship deal. You:
1) Got fat (or were always fat)
2) Don't make enough money
3) Became needy
4) Didn't guide the relationship
5) Couldn't control her emotions
6) Never established yourself as someone to be respected/followed
Because you dodged your responsibilities as the man in the relationship, she HAD to take up the mantle of leadership in your relationship. She's not happy about it but she did what she had to do given that she couldn't trust your leadership. Think of it like a First Mate overthrowing a Captain once it becomes clear that the Captain is an incompetent drunk who was going to get the whole crew killed. This is the situation you are in.
Now a lot of guys are finding TRP and immediately trying to gain back control. The problem is that you don't yet deserve control. Imagine the drunk Captain of that ship trying to wrestle back control from his First Mate. He can demand respect and stomp around and talk about how many other ships he could have been the Captain of, but if the First Mate still thinks his incompetence is going to kill the crew, the Captain is more likely to get thrown overboard than regain control of the ship.
If you're in an LTR that you're not satisfied with, in all likelihood you've been acting incompetent and neglectful of your responsibilities as a man for YEARS. Dread game, acting dominant, demanding she defer to you, these are all tactics to get her to appreciate what she HAS in you. If there's nothing to appreciate yet because you proved to be an incompetent leader in the past and neglected your duties as man, these things will just be ANOTHER burden you've imposed upon her that makes leading your fussy incompetent ass even harder, and you're likely to get tossed off the ship. Before you try and regain control of your ship, you must prove that you DESERVE control. You must prove your competence. You must:
1) Get fit, preferably jacked
2) Make more money
3) Be in control of your own emotions
4) Gain the respect of your friends, coworkers, and everyone in your social circle
5) Make her feel secure and safe
These are your responsibilities as a man. If you are not being respected, you have neglected some or all of them for years. Once you have fulfilled these duties for 6 months, you can demand she fulfill her responsibilities as a woman and begin to shape the relationship towards a satisfying man/woman dynamic with you as the leader. Earlier than that and she will not trust your leadership. Once you are fit, high-income, widely respected and socially savvy, techniques like Dread Game will get her to recognize the value that you provide her and she will gladly relinquish control, happy to have a competent Captain.