Was asked to make this a stand alone post. Here we go...
So you've been on TRP for a few weeks, months, a year, whatever.
You made it past the anger phase - you understand the core concepts and now you feel like a veritable bad ass compared to the weak Beta bitch you were before. Great. Good for you.
A few more truths for you.
- Women date up not down. AKA hypergamy AKA the top 20%.
I don't need to explain this, you already know this. It's just here for a springboard. Moving on.
- We judge ourselves by our intentions and we judge others by their actions.
Let that sink in for a minute. Your friend/house mate/girl friend/parents annoy the shit out of you when they say they'll do something, or they meant something, or they wished that, or hoped for; but never achieved whatever it was they said they were going to do.
Well that's how they judge you right back. And it's not how you judge yourself. Moving on.
- You over estimate your own SMV.
Red pill acceptance stage. Doing social things, being a man, not taking shit off people, asking for the pay rise, passing shit tests more often than not, doing your own things, hitting the gym.
Not good enough.
Just because you have made progress from being useless to somewhat a man means diddly squat if you're not in the top 20% or top 10%. You can pull the 4-5-6's but those 7-8-9-10s are still snubbing you and making life hard work. They don't care about your new outlook on life, they judge you on your actions, not your intentions. You intend to be the best version of yourself? She doesn't care.
Whilst of course you can go get the odd 9 by being in the right place at the right time a lot of people need to realise that just because you're now "RedPill" in life it doesn't transmute you into a sex magnet.
Yes you go to the gym but are you athletically ripped? No? Don't expect 7, 8, 9s then or even for them to give you the time of day. You're not valuable you're just not a turn off. The girls aren't talking about you behind their hands and laughing but you in no way get them talking in hushed tones how fit you are. You need to do better.
You're kind of a party guy but do you know how to make 10 different cocktails with some flair? Can you actually dance unabashed?
Yes you dress much better since cruising /r/malefashionadvice but dressing better isn't dressing necessarily well. Do you have actual outfits that make sense, are your clothes tailored to fit you?
You work hard at your job and study hard but do you have any actual money? Do you generate an appearance of wealth even if you're not doing so well?
It's great to start down the road to self improvement but extremely easy to stop 1km later for snacks and self congratulatory slaps on the back. Judging by how much down vote action happened in the "kill 90% of males" thread to glib comments of "More pussy for me" I wonder what percentile you truly place yourself.
You need to be realistic about your value, analyse your weaknesses and where you should focus energy to bring up your value. If you want to have the 7-8-9s then you simply are required to be in the top 5% of guys and bring better game. You need to know, not think, that you're number one on average at a party with 19 other guys.
This sounds hard, it's not the road there is just onerous what separates you from that group is hard work. Training towards goals in the gym, Not lying to yourself and taking some time to actually see where on the scales you land and what you can do about it. Judge yourself by your actions and results, not your intentions and they will do the same.