Was talking to a chick on here earlier, had an interesting exchange, thought it was thread worthy and there was a lesson to be learnt, so here it is:
i'm not a misogynist, one of those women who touts herself as "one of the boys" who "just can't stand the drama of women,"
Mini story incoming, I met a woman like this recently. Obviously we connect over absolutely nothing because she has no real interests or hobbies other than social drama and what is immediately happening in her life, whereas I like things like politics, philosophy, working out, stand-up, studying the dark triad, and etc.
So naturally, we engaged in phatic conversation, we were talking utter shit, and of course she gets onto the topic of her and her boyfriend. Women love to fucking relate something in the conversation back to them and their boyfriend. It's hilarious. The boyfriend is the centre of their world and if they can find an excuse to relate something back to them and their relationship, they will. Unless they have decided they want to fuck you, then all of a sudden he doesn't exist.
I don't remember how it came up, but she said she has more male friends than female friends (immediate red flag.) Gave me that speech about how she prefers men to women because they're less bitchy. This is basically womanspeak for "women see through my shit, but men are clueless idiots I can control with my sexuality, and I like being the centre of attention in a group of men." I don't trust most women by default because I understand their nature is to manipulate at your expense, but I especially distrust women who don't have many women friends, no guy worth his salt who understands social dynamics and manipulation does. If other women think you're toxic, you probably are. Women have an eye for this kind of shit naturally. Hiding among groups of men is suspicious to say the least.
She said her boyfriend gets jealous because of the fact she has so many male friends, yet she allows him to remain in this perpetual state of jealousy (again, red flag, she has the power in the relationship and is happy to have it.) She says this, and I realise she's unwittingly or not, using dread game on him. She has the audacity to defend this as being completely innocent. So I challenge her. I said to her, surely you can see his point of view though? Of course, she feigns ignorance and expects me to qualify my point. I oblige. I say "you're making him insecure by having all these guys around, he knows if he doesn't stay on top of his shit that you have all these guys lined up to replace him" of course she refuses to concede the point, typical woman.
So I tried a different tack, I appealed to her solipsism. I said "imagine if he had loads of female friends, hot, average, whatever, but almost all his friends were women, you'd feel pretty jealous and that's how he feels about all the guy friends you have." Naturally, out of pride she refuses to be honest. She says "actually I wouldn't, because I know he would never do anything like that to me, I completely trust him."
At this point I'm getting more red flags, and then I notice the small tattoo on her wrist, that isn't of a child's name, then another on the back of her neck, upperback (her hair is tied up) which is another red flag. I realise I'm talking to a manipulative power hungry slut who likes having a lot of cock near her to validate herself, and have a backup dick just in case she gets bored or needs to assert control over her main man. So I say to the manipulative slut, I say: "do you so completely trust him because he doesn't have the capacity to actually get other women, and is therefore, no threat, or simply because even though he could get other women, he wouldn't go and get other women?" I'm trying to establish firm context and pull her out of her vague ambiguity.
I already know the answer to the question but I'm giving her the option to be honest, to come clean and treat me with a bit of dignity. Of course, she's your typical woman, so naturally she opts to lie to me. She says "because I just know he wouldn't do that." There it was, cemented in my mind. There was no chance at fair discourse with this woman. It didn't surprise me in the slightest, but naturally, it caused my ego to view her with disgust for doing what most women naturally do - lie to your face out of pride.
I'd inadvertently cold read about 5 red flags from her based on our interaction and it was game over. The bitch was going to cut my hair (this was in the barbers and the dude who normally does my trim wasn't there - don't think women should be allowed to work in barbers tbh, male space and all that, but eh) and I left it at that because I didn't want her losing her shit and fucking my hair up for pushing any further. I could already see from her body language and facial cues she was containing her indignation. If the situation had been different, if she didn't have liberty to put holes in my cranium with sharp blades, I would have pushed her to her limits more. Fun, fun.
PS: bitch didn't get a tip. People who disrespect my intelligence by lying to my face aren't getting tipped. Her face as she handed me my change and I didn't say "keep it" was priceless. Gotta be careful with your lies, women are used to hiding behind them, but lie with the wrong person about the wrong thing and you expose yourself as a fraud to them.
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Thanks for reading.
"How do you get good at cold reading?"
A note from /u/foutight:
Dr Paul Ekman has spent his whole life studying deceit and lying and published about 7 books. One of his books, ''Telling Lies'' is excellent source of information on micro-expressions that can be used to ready body language.