There was recently a post about the analysis of scientific research regarding sexual habits, and one of the results that it came up with is that men compete and women choose.
It's nice to have formal research show this conclusion, but it's something that all of us at TRP already knew. Men compete, men pursue, women are taken.
A lot of guys who are low SMV believes that this puts them at a disadvantage. They think that women have it on "easy mode." But the easy mode is deceptive. This pattern, in the way that our culture currently functions, puts them at a huge disadvantage in getting what they REALLY want: that high SMV man.
Young women are still taught (though less so than traditionally) that it's the man's job to pursue her, that she just has to sit and wait and eventually Mister Perfect will come and sweep her off her feet. Young men understand that, unless he's super high SMV, that women aren't going to approach him. By default he's on his own. Being a young woman grants you very high SMV. Being a young man grants you cannon-fodder status. So it goes.
So men, especially alpha men, recognize that they have to invest in themselves in order to stand out. They have to cultivate their value and their SMV. They have to study. They have to lift. They have to practice. They have to approach. They have to fail, again and again and again and again. It is in fire that iron turns to steel. I discussed something related to this issue with one of my plates recently. She said, in sincerity, "I thought charm was just something you're born with?" She has absolutely no concept that it takes effort to develop the skill of seduction and influence. None of them do.
Women, both by nature and by our cultural, never have to through the crucible of fire to have value. They're given value by default. They're lifting weights made of Styrofoam and saying "teehee look how strong I am." And this is where the arrogance and laziness comes into play: They believe that they deserve this high value. That's the first rule of hypergamy - every woman thinks she deserves a man who is dramatically higher in SMV than her self. The laziness is that she is not willing to do anything to get him. She's going to sit and wait for him. He's the man, he should have to do the work for her.
But here's how it is their downfall: he won't.
This strategy is only successful when they're young and especially attractive, and worth approaching. The average girl is just that: average. Because of her "meh, you do it for me" worldview wherein she makes little effort to cultivate her personality, her charm, her body (what proportion of women go to the gym?) her intellect (what proportion of women read serious literature, and what proportion read Twilight bullshit?)
Women don't invest in themselves. Not in the way that a TRP man knows that he must, to stand out.
Fast forward a few years to the wall-hitting phase. When women hit the wall, they know it's time to settle down. They have spent the last 15 years basking in high SMV that was handed to them and didn't cultivate shit.
Their downfall is that they now have entirely zero tools at their disposal to keep the alpha male that they desire, who spent his whole life working his ass off to improve his value while she did nothing. The only men they can get are losers with no better options. Who will go for a mediocre woman? A mediocre man. Will she be happy with him? Not a chance. Can she get an alpha to commit to her at this point? Highly unlikely. He'll plate her though, maybe, briefly.
Does she acknowledge this? Also unlikely. She still thinks that she's so pretty and charming just because. Doesn't matter how fat and banal and nagging she is, that she can't pay off her debts, can't cook, doesn't exercise, doesn't keep her house clean, etc.
I'm in the situation now where I experience this on a daily basis. I'm in the process of spinning plates amongst a population of largely average women, because in the particular location where I am, that's what you find. Most of them are smitten with me as though I'm the best thing since sliced bread. I'm not bragging, I'm not proud of it, I think it's pathetic. It's pathetic because they all think that they deserve a man like me to commit to her. But why would I? What do they have to offer? A true TRP man with abundance mentality could replace a girl easily. And none of them can acknowledge that: none of them can recognize that they sat on their ass being mediocre for the last 10 years, so now when "mister perfect" comes around he isn't going to marry her ass because she's just that. Mediocre.
This doesn't stop at the wall. I've met women in their 50's who have asked me to marry them. I say no, that could never happen. And they're surprised! They're genuinely surprised! They can't imagine why I wouldn't want to commit to them! Women have so little concept of their own SMV and so much delusion about their own value that a scenario like this can, and does, routinely happen.
This is part of the way that taking the pill benefits you. When you invest in yourself, when you take the pill, when internalize that you absolutely must raise your SMV... you become superior to most of the men that a lot of women have ever encountered. You get to pick and choose. And you realize just how painfully mediocre most of these girls are.
tl;dr Men have to cultivate skills and value to become high SMV, women don't, because they overestimate their own SMV and do nothing to cultivate it most of the time. Therefore when most women encounter a high SMV man, she has no cards to play to keep him, causing her sexual strategy to implode on itself.